You are unloveable unless you are thin and wear makeup

[SemiCharmedQuark]

http://news.yahoo.com/s/dear_margo/20071206/en_dm/margo_howard20071206;_ylt=AuhjwHRYON_VIhYTAe3mb98DW7oF


"DEAR MARGO: I have a friend at work with whom I am relatively close. She regularly talks about how she can't wait to get married and how her house will look and the kids she will have. The problem is that she is extremely overweight and does not take any care with her appearance. She comes to work with clothes that appear not to have been washed recently, no makeup, and sometimes her long hair is still wet. I am surprised she is still employed, but she is out of the public eye and does a good job.

She has no family and is now in her early 30s. I am afraid that if she doesn't get a grip, she will never have the life she desperately wants. Two of her other friends said something to me about talking to her, but they don't work with us anymore.

Do I talk to her about her appearance and hygiene, or do I just keep my words to myself?"




The clothes? Well we should all wear clean clothes. The weight? Well maybe if she were worried about her HEALTH instead of suggesting that fat women are unlovable. But makeup? Wet hair? Fuck that. If she isn't comfortable wearing makeup or doing her hair every morning, why on EARTH would she want to marry a shallow sack of crap who only cared about those things?


http://news.yahoo.com/s/dear_margo/20071206/en_dm/margo_howard20071206;_ylt=AuhjwHRYON_VIhYTAe3mb98DW7oF

[mrreowwr_kittty]

1. Well thank gawd she's out of the public eye!

Otherwise, she'd be assaulting the eyes of our precious menz with her intractible non-compliance with the sexbot mandate! :eyes:

As for health and weight, I'll never forget watching a TV show where an anorexic woman was describing how people were still complimenting her on how great she looked despite the fact that she was passing out regularly from lack of nourishment.

As for the advice column, I have a strong feeling that the object of Ms. Judgemental's concern will probably be happily married long before she is. Because the friend will probably meet a guy who isn't a shallow sack of crap while the letter writer is busy dating all of them.

[BlueIris]

3. "(S)exbot mandate." OMG, that is brilliant. I'm stealing that.

The next t-shirt I make is going to read, "Defying the sexbot mandate."

[bliss_eternal]

4. What a great idea...!

Seriously. That will make a cool shirt--I'd buy that in a heartbeat.
;)

[bliss_eternal]

2. How dare she call this woman her friend.

I find that a pretty disturbing assertion.
That she thinks this is what friendship is about. Secretly assessing others looks, clothing and appearance while writing letters to advice columnists. If it was my advice column, I'd ask this woman why she's so shallow and judgemental. Then I'd tell her to do this woman a favor and leave her alone. She's far better off without friends that judge her as "unworthy, sloppy and thankfully unseen." :wtf:

Sorry to go off on a tangent, but advice columns really piss me off! Don't get me started on the people that write in to them. :eyes:

I can't tell you how many times I've read them and find some asshole asking for advice on how to stick their noses into things that are none of their damned business. Neighbors looking for "the right way" to tell someone that they find something on their property ugly and offensive to their personal sensibilities. Or alleged friends seeking ways to tell those they deem "unenlightened" how pathetic they are. When did we become such a world of buttinskies?

I stopped reading them, because I was always tempted to write in, telling the people to figure out why they had so much time on their hands to worry about shit that isn't their problem. :grr::mad:

[mrreowwr_kittty]

5. Then sometimes the advice they get is even worse

Basically any nitwit can call themselves an advice columnist and if they sucker some publication or website into giving them space, voila. At least Ann Landers and Dear Abby always consulted experts for tricky issues.

One situation that really chaps me is when a woman writes to express concern with her husband's porn habit or frequenting of strip clubs. Very, very, common issue quel surprise :eyes: Almost invariably the nitwit advisor, male or female, will tell the woman to be more "understanding" and not take it personally.

[Gormy Cuss]

10. The nitwit "Dear Margo" is Ann Landers'daughter.

You'd think she'd know better.

[gollygee]

6. She's suprised she's been able to keep her job?

Why on earth would she be fired for something like having wet hair? :crazy: What possible difference could that make? Most men go to work with wet hair every single day. And what kind of job would *require* women to wear makeup other than maybe someone who models makeup? Obviously this woman is showering so the hygiene comments are overblown. Maybe her clothes just aren't ironed - why does she assume they aren't clean? Someone who showers every day is most likely washing her clothes too.

[lizerdbits]

7. I'm unlovable?

Oh wait, she's talking about getting a man which means you are finally complete. I keep forgetting that love of family and friends means nothing. :eyes:

[Ellen Forradalom]

8. If wet hair and no makeup made you unloveable

I'd still be a virgin.

I swim 2 or 3 times per week before work. I often come to work not only with wet hair, but reeking of chlorine. I sometimes change in the fitness room's shower room and hang a wet swimsuit under my desk.

I bet the letter-writer's eyes would bug out of her head.

[Ellen Forradalom]

9. Oh hey, everybody, despise me.

I'm about to go to work with wet hair and no makeup.