Is there a male counterpart to the word "slut" or "whore"?

[SemiCharmedQuark]

I can't think of one. I think that is why these are my most hated words. The other side would be "stud" or "player".

[Cerridwen]

1. As you noted, not one that carries a negative connotation with it

Some friends and I spent some time trying to find something such as you are. I think some of the closest we could find were:

cad - archaic and not very damning

a whorer, i.e., someone who goes whoring - hardly a smack in the face of the man

let's face it, when it comes to language and culture, only women are denegrated for having sex. men are only denegrated for having sex with the "wrong" woman.

yeah, we've come a long way.

/sarcasm

[Finder]

2. Males can be sluts or whores.

I don't see those two labels as being gender specific.

[SemiCharmedQuark]

5. I've never seen men seriously be called sluts or whores.

Only as a joke. A woman sleeps around in HOllywood--slut. A man does it, say Charlie sheen, Oh that scamp!

[OldLeftieLawyer]

21. Come live in my world,

and you'll hear men referred to that way every day.

We have standard terms of endearment for the hired professionals we use as expert witnesses. The ones we can always count on to come up with the "correct" testimony are the ones we would never send our spouses or offspring to for treatment or consultation.

Because they're our whores.

[Eloriel]

16. Well, they are

They can be applied to men, but their etiology is quite gender-specific, and there's no way to avoid having that denotation come to mind even when they're used against men.

[OldLeftieLawyer]

20. Amen

Check out the Bush administration.

Lots of slut and whores there, and they're all male.

[all.of.me]

3. what do you mean by 'wrong woman'?

i don't think men are ever denegrated for having sex, unless it's with another man. of course i speak of the hetero world, the macho men. don't they cheer each other on for sex period?

i can't see my male friends doing this, but i'm aware that others do it.

[SemiCharmedQuark]

4. WHen men have sex with women who are perceived as ugly

they get attacked for it. The boyfriend of Carnie Wilson, pre-surgery, for example. I think they went on some radio show and the radio host actually said "HOW could you have sex with THAT"?

Or think about movies like road trip where they make fun of the guy that sleeps with the fat girl.

[all.of.me]

6. that is awful. but i see what you mean

it's a peer thing, i guess.

[trotsky]

7. Gigolo?

That's about the closest I can think of, but that isn't nearly as negative as the others.

[Warpy]

8. "Whorehopper"

was the insult of my youth in the south for a guy who'd jump into bed with anyone or anything.

"Professional cherry buster" is self explanatory, also from my youth.

[redqueen]

9. Nothing negative.

Slut and whore are both very negative terms for women. Cad, rake, etc. are arcahic. Society used to look down on that, but now it's all the rage. Guys are proud to be pimps, players, etc.

[geniph]

10. There used to be

a roue' was someone who was particularly slimy in seducing young women. The term's archaic now. Anymore, the only truly pejorative terms applied to a person's sexuality are all aimed at women.

Which is why I won't use them.

[benburch]

28. I use "slut" for myself...

But the word "rake" means what you want. Sadly it has fallen into disuse.

[Kerrytravelers]

11. Mimbo?

[DoveTurnedHawk]

12. Nothing That Carries Power

Just like "honky" is not a real or telling insult against white folks, and "breeder" is not a real or telling insult against straight folks. Dominant groups seldom -- if ever -- suffer any negative stigma from words, unlike oppressed groups.

Anytime anyone tells you, "Oh, it's just words," odds are they're trying to sell you a dominant paradigm perspective which serves to entrench their dominant group privilege.

DTH

[Kenneth ken]

13. how about

cock-brained: someone who lets his cock think for him.

I don't know of any real words/terms off-hand, except possibly scum, so I made one up. If y'all like it feel free to toss it around as necessary.

The bigger problem though is that in sexual terms, any man having sex with any woman is thought to a greater or lesser degree to be a good thing; whereas women are still supposed to dislike sex, and need to be 'taken' sexually. At least from a male perspective, so it's kind of difficult to insult a male for any sort of male-female sex.

[bleedingheart]

14. Pig

is the word I have heard most often when men are wanton in their sexual behavior...

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

19. In Brazil we call them "galinha" (chicken).

And it IS used as a derisive term, believe it or not. In fact, it is almost exactly what the OP was asking for. Of course, it can't be used in the US sice "chicken" is a completely different insult there:

[UCLA Dem]

15. Nothing as stigmatized or as negative a connotation that I know of.

[Lars39]

17. One I don't see very often, but comes close: prick.

Read it today at DU. Not sure if it parallels "slut" or "whore", though.:shrug:

[chicaloca]

18. According to one study...

The English language has 200 words for sexually promiscuous females, and 20 for men. Julia Stanley did the study in the 70s, I think.

[raccoon]

22. Just like there's no word in the English language comparable

to "effeminate." I guess you could refer to a woman as "mannish"
or "masculine," but it wouldn't have near the negative connotation as effeminate does when used to refer to a man.

And "tomboy," referring to little girls, isn't a put-down.

[OldLeftieLawyer]

23. Your post made me think of this:

Effeminate v. emasculate.

Interesting, no?

When I was growing up, "tomboy" sure was a put-down, from boys and girls alike. Is the word even used today, I wonder?

[raccoon]

24. Good question, I wonder if it is used any more.

Seems to me when I was growing up, "tomboy" was kind of like "feisty"--kind of indicated admiration for the spunkiness of the person being spoken of.

Also, it's considered "cute" for a female to have a boyish name or nickname. Such as a girl being called "Charlie," short for Charlotte or whatever.

For a guy to have a girlish name--that's bad. Remember "A Boy Named Sue?"

[OldLeftieLawyer]

25. You're younger than I

When I was growing up, it was terrible to be called a tomboy. It meant you wanted to be like a boy - wear pants, run and play rough-and-tumble games, not behave in a ladylike way.

I was, of course, a tomboy, with a mother and father who - given the time, which was the 1950s - were astonishingly enlightened and who bought me Erector sets and chemistry sets as Christmas presents and who demanded that my elementary school principal not make a peep when I wrote pants to school during the cold weather.

Times change, words change, but there's always gonna be someone out there who's still trying to tell me that I should be what they want me to be.

It's still funny.

That's why names are such a minor part of it all for me. It's the acts, not the nomenclature.

[raccoon]

26. Actually, it sounds like we're about the same age,

when you mentioned the '50's.

That was enlightened of your parents to insist that your school allow you to wear pants during cold weather. At my school too (a public school), girls couldn't wear pants no matter how cold it was.

I'm glad to see that has changed.

[ismnotwasm]

27. No

Although you can call men by those names, it does not have the same social significance. If it's applied to behavior in other areas, say business, to males, it is not the same thing. There is still a wide discrepancy in how sexuality is perceived in men and women. Of course either sex is capable of hurtful or destructive sexual behavior. It seems to still be more admired in males, at least among other males.
I came across a term I had never heard before. It's "cock-blocking" meaning, that when a male is pursuing a female (or male for all I know), another male gets in his way, and tries to get to her first. When I first heard the term, it seemed a fairly benign situation, this young man liked a girl, the girl had initially responded, but then was attracted more to one of his friends. (Dance of the young, or maybe not so young) Someone asked him "Is he cock-blocking you?" The young man nods sadly. I had to ask what the hell they were talking about.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

29. I've heard two:

1) "womanizer"--not as insulting as "slut"

2) "poon hound"--read that one in a novel once, but I've never heard anyone say it.

[PassingFair]

30. Get with it, ladies!

The current and favorite pejorative is ....

MANWHORE!

My girls use it, and I think it's delightfully descriptive.

LOL: Spell check tells me it's MAN-WHORE, with a hyphen!

[Mad_Dem_X]

31. "Man-whore" or "horn-dog"

I hear "horn-dog" used quite a bit, sometimes just "dog." I think that's an insult to dogs, but that's just my opinion.