Number 1 Single w/Lisa Loeb...Anyone see this show?

[bliss_eternal]

Nothing against Lisa, nothing against her desire to meet someone, form a bond and eventually marry. Nothing wrong with feeling that way. I've only seen this show twice, but I don't think I'll watch again.

First of all, I'm not fond of reality shows. Second, I don't know that I like the premise of the show.

I don't like the fact that the entire focus is on dating and finding a mate. What about her life outside of that? What about her career, her interests, passions, etc.? The show has touched on her passion for food. But it seems like it's lacking outside of this.

I don't know, maybe I'm being too picky or critical. But it just bugs me that people on the show act like there is something WRONG with her for being 37 and unmarried. Frankly, that pisses me off! She was dining at a Rabbi's home and when they asked how old she was and she responded, there was silence. As if, wow you're an old maid! :wtf:

I hated that attitude when I was single. I also hate the attitude of some that couldn't wait for me to have children after I got married. Sadly for them, they are still waiting. Haha! I'm sick of the societal pressures and yardsticks. Can we just be who we are? :shrug:

I don't know. I guess I feel a show that featured a single woman that is happy with herself, who she is and if she meets someone--great, if not--no big deal would just be refreshing to me. Instead of the whole "Got to get you to the altar before you're 40" thing. :puke:

Anybody see this? Comments...?

[Hello_Kitty]

1. I'm right there with ya sister

I'm 37 too and I can tell you I don't give a fig if I never acheive the supposed Ultimate Pinnacle of Womanhood. A hearty :puke: and :argh: to the pervasive, wholly corporate created myth that all of us are simply RABID to yoke some unsuspecting and reluctant (natch) dude and drag him down the aisle. The hell with that. Nothing against marriage but this insane pressure on women to conform to the dictates of big poofy wedding and household appliance pushers is really making me blow a gasket. Oh, and he better put a bigass rock on your finger or he doesn't really luuuuuurve you. :eyes:

I feel bad for Lisa Loeb that she's succumbed to it. Haven't seen the show and don't plan to but I read that she's doing it because she wants kids. I wish her the best but in my observation, women who make it to 37 unmarried and childless don't always have the easiest time adjusting to the white picket fence deal. I realize there are many exceptions and I don't wish to insult anyone but I honestly think if you are a successful woman and you want kids you should go ahead and have them. That's what I'd tell her to do if I were her friend. The only people who have a problem with single moms are hysterical conservative commentators.

[bliss_eternal]

2. I wonder if this is why she and Dweezil broke up...

Not knowing them personally, my comments aren't well founded but they seemed happy. I hope she didn't bail (or kick him to the curb, because of some pressure from others in her life to be what they think she should be. I've been privy to too many women hell bent on breaking anyone up that didn't look ready to "run to the altar." It's just sick, imo.

Her mother is kind of typical in being obsessed with a wedding, which is rather sickening.

I was very much the 'anti-bride.' I didn't want an event, didn't care about feeding people, the ceremony, dress, none of it. I just don't get women that collect bridal magazines and obsess over an event.

I agree with you, there's no reason she couldn't or shouldn't have children if she wants them.

[jmm]

3. I've only seen one episode

She and her fung-shui person were reading "The Rules" together. You know, that book by two now divorced women about how to be fake in order to get a "real" man. According to her fung-shui person she was too assertive while on a dinner date because she paid for her own half, held the door open for him and allegedly talked too much about her self. On her second date with this guy they went shopping (It looked like they were at Crate & Barrel) and she changed the items she wanted when he didn't approve. Then when the bill came to almost $300 she was silent for a few minutes until he offered to pay.

The thing I don't like most about his show and why I have no intentions of ever watching it again is that it seems to be all about using ploys and pretending to be someone you're not in order to find someone and achieve happiness. I've always felt that desperation and dishonesty were two of the least attractive trait. As long as somebody's not happy with themself and is willing to change who they are (of course some compromise is ok) in order to find someone then even if they find the "right" person they'll have nothing to offer them and won't be ready for a health relationship.

[atommom]

4. The thought of a smart, independent woman following "The Rules"

just makes me gag. Why did she agree to this? Just because she wants children, does that mean she has to regress back to the 1950s? Even if these tactics are successful, I expect a major blowup later on, when the resentment over playing the submissive role gets to be too much for her.

[bliss_eternal]

7. I'm guessing this is why the author's

(at least one that I know of) got divorced. LOL! Not that divorce is funny. Sorry.

I knew of a woman that stated she followed the rules, and apparently they worked, but in time SHE wanted out. Apparently she didn't pay a lot of attention during the courtship, he was an abusive, alcoholic asshole. :eyes: You'd think that would have come up at some point, don't you?

[ismnotwasm]

5. Ok enlighten me

Who is Lisa Loeb and should I care? Aside from it sounds like one of those horrible reality shows that I avoid as hard as I try to avoid getting middle age pimples....
I especially hate the find a mate shows I keep hearing about. Good. Frigging. God. Why?
Kind of reminds me of the of some sort of perverse discovery channel show about animal mating rituals.

[bliss_eternal]

6. LOL--Lisa Loeb is a musician

and no, you don't need to care. If you've managed to avoid reality shows this long, definitely don't start with this one. LOL! It's everything you're avoiding and then some. :puke:

:hi: But always good to see you...

[StellaBlue]

8. 40?

My aunt told me last year, at the family Christmas do, that 'you need to get married by the time you are 27'. When I asked why, she said, 'Don't you want to have children?'.

My aunt is a dear, dear lady... just kinda stuck in the fifties, so I let it lie, comparatively, and only responded, 'Well, don't you think most people we know would've been better off if they'd just waited until they were about forty? I mean, everyone got married in their twenties, it was a mess, and got divorced - so...' This included her! And she agreed! hahahahaha

I didn't tell her what I really thought (that marriage is an economic contract, that almost all married people I know are bored and/or miserable with each other, and that I want to be independent and have my own space and interests and I might adopt some kids some day if I can afford it, partner or no), but that would've blown her mind.

Well, I'll be 27 in June, so I guess I can plan my It's-Official-I'm-an-Old-Maid party. That might be kinda fun, actually...

[geniph]

9. You know, these shows really piss me off

It's a deadly threat to the Sanctity of the Marriage Sacrament to let two men or two women who've loved each other and lived with each other for decades to marry ... but two people who met via a television show and have nothing whatever in common other than the desire to collect the financial prizes, hell, their marriage is just peachy! Two drunken scumbags can meet at a bar and have a Vegas wedding before the liquor wears off, and so long as there's one, and only one, penis involved, everything is ducky.

God, that pisses me off!

:mad:

[NMMNG]

10. I've never seen it

But that's because I loathe all of those "get a date/mate" reality shows. Honestly, the whole notion that a person is nothing unless they are hooked up is so obnoxious. I can't imagine how many people out there already have issues because they feel they aren't dating "enough", or aren't married/engaged by the "right time". :eyes: Now they have these dumb shows to help degrade their mental health even more.

I also hate the idea (in some of them) where a bunch of guys/gals fight over one person, with "losers" getting voted off. It is so debasing.