Getting back into the dating scene after divorce

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Worse yet... getting into the GAY dating scene.
Yeah I know i've stated I'm bi.... but I don't think I can ever seriously trust another woman again after what my ex did to me (and to an extent is still doing to me).

I don't like the multi-dimensional chess game they play with my heart and soul.

I've never properly dated guys before IRL... lots online and some other stuff >.> but never actually put myself out there to seriously date one...

I'm honestly scared.

I'm scared to seriously open my heart to another person.
I'm scared to allow myself to be vulnerable...
I'm afraid to trust...

There is one guy whose kind of in my life already and ... he seems too good to be true.
LDR's suck, especially since that seems to be the only kind of relationship I'm capable of (my wife was LDR for a long time)

Maybe I'm just ranting. I'm sick, it's late, and I need to vent.
I don't feel this is a 'open' subject for the LGBT group because I kinda want to know what other guys have gone through, gay and straight.

I guess the bottom line is... it's been over a year... i'm tired of being alone...
but I'm scared to death to get into an actual, serious, healthy relationship.

I hear St Paul has a rather large gay scene... I simply have no idea where to start, and i'm really scared TO start dating again.

as noted, gender doesn't really factor into my fear as much as dating, like seriously, a person...

I'm 36, divorced, bi, and lonely... and I'm ... yeah.
anyway, kind of an open topic I guess. Any female lurkers want to give their 2 cents, are also welcome to do so.

Guys... how did you manage to get past the betrayal?
Do you trust your current partner as much as your first one?
How long did it take you to get over your pain?

I know this is hardly earth shattering stuff compared to what's going on out there...
but it might be a nice change of topic.

anyway.. many thanks.