Re-Traumatizing,drives some people into S/m,trying to resolve trauma by reliving it so they can control it..or something.
To me, real love should not come with bruises,humiliation ,restraint marks, cuts and pain..to me that is abusive it's not love.
I am astonished how often people when faced with abuse don't see it.
http://gainscenter.samhsa.gov/atc/text/papers/trauma_paper.htmhttp://books.google.com/books?id=pzu_ew0AP48C&pg=PA189&lpg=PA189&dq=retraumatization&source=web&ots=ONngncxOF3&sig=ymp3bDEqqzgeCK2XZ7GCH0sYhzE&hl=en#PPA85,M1