Reply #36: that is the thrust of my argument. [View All]

[jdj]

I seem to be the one of the only ones bringing up stuff like this here or saying things beyond "cut his dick off" when the "occasional outrage happens.

I don't feel belittled (though I may have missed that part) but I was interested in getting more info from people who have actually worked in rehabbing offenders. Your post confirms my suspicion, I have only had one friend (most of my friends are counselors of some sort) who has worked with child predators on a regular basis, and she didn't hold out much hope for them...she and her husband work with them as a business, and the feedback I have gotten from her is pretty much what you say, that they are so steeped in rationalization that it's impossible to get through.

I actually have had some of the things in your post said to me very recently about my own abuse, that I somehow "asked for it" (as an 8 year old) or that I was a willing participant, and that why don't I just get over it. This was by my father about abuse by his brother.
I think the whole family is steeped in a tradition and behavior pattern of "not seeing", that is is a code programmed into the family as a whole that is impossible to break. It's tragic.