Reply #: I get what your saying ... [View All]

[BattyDem]

That's why I said I didn't believe you were trying to offend anyone. But "discretion" means there shouldn't be any public acknowledgment (or little public acknowledgement) of the fact that they love someone and are sharing their lives with them. No kissing, no hand-holding, no talking about a significant other, no photos on the desk for people to see, so mention of dinner plans or a trip to Europe, no date at the office party, etc.

All the things I just mentioned (and many more) are done every single day by straight people in the presence of friends and co-workers, yet it would never occur to anyone to say to them, "Just keep it private. It's none of my business." In fact, the opposite is true ... if a heterosexual talks about the person their dating, their marriage, their vacation plans, their kids, etc., most people respond with stories of their own dates and marriage and vacation plans and kids. It's only natural ... it's life. Asking a homosexual to refrain from doing those things is the same as asking them to hide who they are.