Reply #6: You made alot of sense, NicoleM. [View All]

[zanana]

Obviously, you are going through what so many of us just don't want to think about. The sheer physical discomfort of pregnancy and childbirth is so often dismissed, or even joked about. Even unwanted pregnancies must be seen as "blessed" events. My niece called me a few weeks ago to tell me she's pregnant again. She already has two children and didn't want any more. She's definitely not happy about it, but she's religious and doesn't feel that she can have an abortion. She said the worst part is that she's going to have to act like she's happy about it, and people are going to "congratulate" her. As far as this pregnancy and birth, she just wants to have it over with. She also hates looking "comical" when she gets big. I don't think she's unusual; it's just that we're discouraged from looking at pregnancy that way. When it's wanted, it's wonderful. But let's face it; an unwanted pregnancy can be pretty miserable.