Reply #10: 100% sure? 100% sure? [View All]

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Oh, I am sorry your situation is not good. Gutting it out for years is not good.

So, where do you draw the line between what seems like a very good match, very similar politics, goals, libidos (libidi?), and some basic personality differences? How much to chalk up to gender? Do you wait for perfect? Are you perfect? Do you make a leap of faith?

And, when you have made that commitment, where do you draw the line between an unsatisfying relationship (for both), emotional distance, much too much fighting, and a dearly loved child, occasional bouts of depression for both partners, supported by the other, all the warts exposed and mostly accepted, and some genuine moments of inspired hilarity and affection? Do you abandon ship?

I surely don't know. I wish I had; I wish I did. I certainly wish better for you. If you find the secret, let us in on it.