Reply #11: My bro is the same way [View All]

[jpgray]

He'll take it to the next step, and make the excuse that those girls interested in him are too stupid or ugly to be worth his time, when he's really just scared to death of his own inadequacies or what his social circle will think. It's funny, but the only way to really get comfortable around women in a romantic context is to date, and date lots. Spend all your time around women in a friend context, and you're going to have some problems switching gears.

It's not really just something you can psych yourself up to be good at, you have to just go to it and do some blind dates, put up a personal ad, approach a stranger, whatever. Don't look for a life partner, just sort of get your feet about dating and being with women in a romantic context. Our society puts up this huge amount of pressure to have a cute date, and only a cute date, but really even dates with the meanest, ugliest, dumbest women have a lot of value. Pretty unhelpful advice, but hey, that's what I do here.