So help me understand gay culture. [View All]

[MissouriTeacher]

I'm a straight guy. I'm certainly not anti-gay, and I don't consider myself homophobic at all. I've had one gay friend (that I know of), and his sexuality was never an issue with me. Basically we just never talked about it.

But some things about gay culture really confuse me. I was brought up Southern Baptist, and obviously taught that homosexuality was a sin and unnatural and all that so I'm coming from a rather skewed perspective.

What I'm wondering is this, why is it that gay men often exhibit feminine characteristics such as speaking effiminately? And why is "drag" popular among gays? Both of these would seem to suggest that gay men, in some way, really are attracted to women, or at least femininity in some form.

Likewise with lesbians, contrary to what is portrayed in porno, most lesbian women I see cut their hair very short and dress more like men dress. This too would suggest that gay women are actually attracted to masculinity in some way.

To put it in another light, if my wife decided to put on a fake moustache and start speaking in a low voice like a man, I wouldn't be turned on by this at all (silly analogy, but hopefully you get the point).

I realize I'm advancing stereotypes here, but I've seen this with my own eyes, and I've never quite understood it. I know their are gay DUers here, just wondering if they could help shed some light on this. :D