Reply #38: Carlos.. [View All]

[SoCalDem]

No matter where you go or live, you will always take your "baggage" with you..

I always got the impression that you were stressed when you lived in Md..

Not having parents, and being your age IS stressful.. Parents are important to a young person just starting out.. My grown kids (well, 2 of them) still call with that frantic .."What am I gonna do, Mom?" tone and it's got to be frustrating for you to "feel" alone and to be unhappy where you are..

I'm going to give you a few pearls of motherly wisdom:

EVERY job you ever have will suck to some degree...

The job you quit, to take the "pefect" job, will usually look better "in the rear view mirror"

MOST people will NEVER be able to truly afford to live where they really want to live.. the perfect house, the perfect neighborhood, etc

MAKE NEW FRIENDS...just a few

Do not burden yourself with massive debt.. (Stay ready to pick up and take on a new adventure)..If you are burdened with debt, you are "planted" and must watch the opportunities escape, because you are afraid to be unemployed or underemployed..

Get a part-time job that is FUN..(bartending, zoo helper, tutor,whatever)

Do one truly generous thing every day, and when you are down in the dumps, at least you can have one good thing to focus on..

Remember... Whatever is upsetting you today, will not matter at all a hundred years from now:)

Approach your job you hate as "research" for your next job...

Kiss up to whoever you HAVE to and ignore the rest of it..

Get a pet.. at least you will have "soomeone" who is eager to see you when you get home.. Out cats are better entertainment than TV..



Resign yourself to the fact that you have moved, you ARE where you ARE, and find something about where you are, that interests you.. Join an Everglades conservancy group.. There will be liberal people involved and you might need that "network" later...and you might help save the glades too :)

Next time you see Mickey, tell him :hi: