Reply #31: More trite stuff [View All]

[renie408]

Words have power. Real and serious power. I train people every day and the one thing I have learned is that the language they use to describe their endeavors is a clear indicator of how successful they will be. Those who view setbacks as problems to be solved and use positive language will nearly always get through those problems well. Those who use negative language to describe similar problems as insurmountable or who view themselves as failures for stumbling will either not manage to solve the problem or it will take them twice as long.

Try this: Tonight, when there is nobody around and you are laying in your bed in the dark and nobody will know you have done this but you and yourself, create a vision in your head of where you want to be in a year. No holds barred (Ok, don't wish to be Shaquille ONeal or anything like that). Visualize yourself doing whatever it is that you would like to accomplish over the next year in as clear and minute detail as you can manage. Keep thinking about it as you fall asleep. Keep doing this every night. Every morning, think about what you can do that day to take one baby step towards where you want to be. If it means sending out a resume or joining a class teaching a skill you need to acquire, just make yourself do one thing. Even if it is just standing and looking in the mirror and saying, "I want to be __________ and I can do it." (this is way harder than you think, BTW. I do it sometimes and I feel like a retard even though it is just me and the mirror) And lastly but definitely not leastly, quit talking about yourself and your life in the negative. If you think it sucks, it sucks. If you think its ok, its ok.

If you do all that and go get butt wasted occasionally, things might just turn around for you.