Reply #119: Yes, I am serious. [View All]

[JohnnyCougar]

Your outlook on relationships to me seems like a very healthy one. It is basically the same outlook I have myself. I want to make sure that my life reflects what a top notch woman wants. I made a decision that I want to attract a smart, sexy, independent woman, and to do that, I am working out, going to school, and making sure that I as a person am able to be independent and strong myself.

I know that the person I want is out there, and I am finally beginning my phase of putting out positive energy to attract her. But I also know that the person I want is not found on the average street corner or local tavern. It may take a while before I find her.

I really can't explain why you disagree with me. We seem to be thinking the same things. You have the mentality I am loking for in a woman, but my argument is that people like you are rarer than you think. I am glad that you found someone that makes you happy. I will do the same in due time. But I have to tell you, there are girls that get scared when they actually meet a really good guy because they have spent too much of their life dreaming about the good guy, but not enough about what they are going to do when they find him. Many get scared that they are not good enough when they finally meet him.

Believe me, I have met enough girls that really do love me, but never wanted more than a friendship relationship with me. And believe me, I know when a girl loves me. And I am still friends with them. They all know I am smart, handsome and sensitive. And they all have dated much worse guys while still being friends with me. I don't feel self pity anymore. I know it is mostly because they are not comfortable with themselves with a great guy, because they really don't think too much about themselves. I have yet to meet the kind of woman like you that hasn't been taken yet. I have met a few, but they all have boyfriends already.

A relationship with a good guy takes the kind of self worth that you have. I would be willing to bet people like you make up less than 20% of the female population. And about 80% of those are in a relationship already. This leaves me with 4% of the population to chose from. Still, I am pretty confident of my impending success. It's just hard to have the patience it takes :)