Reply #9: Relax and don't worry about a thing! [View All]

[jswordy]

I would not give it another thought. I have read your post twice, and you are just the right type of guy who will find someone who loves you for you, and who will be loyal and loving in return -- WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT!

Meanwhile, enjoy yourself and your freedom. Don't be in a rush to get in a relationship. When the time is right and the person is right, you will know it, don't fret about that. It's not worth the angst, because the fact is you will make some lucky person very, very happy one day. And she will do the same for you.

You're a catch! Because you desire the things most important to long-term relationships. If you just put it entirely out of your mind as far as worrying about it, you will find the self-doubt diminishes. Be confident you will find someone when the time is right, and she will find you, and act in that way.

Trust me, there are a lot more men out there like you than it generally appears, especially given the way society plays up certain behaviors as "normal" that really aren't that prevalent. Don't worry about "signals" and "playing games," and try to be really good friends with the girls you know first. If it's in the cards, you will be surprised how quickly love will blossom WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT.

Plus you get the added benefit of not getting herpes, syphillis, gonorrhea, AIDS, genital warts or some other STD from casual sexual encounters. So be cool about it. Everything is fine.