Why is alone time so freaking hard to get? [View All]

[grace0418]

I know in the grand scheme of things this is not a big problem, but I'm frustrated as hell and need to have a bit of a moan.

See, I never get a moment of alone time. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband dearly, but I need some time to myself once in awhile. Our place isn't very big so there's nowhere to go for any privacy except the bathroom. He has a much better job than I do, with lots more vacation and flex days every other Monday. So A) he gets more time to himself while I'm at work. And B) I feel bad taking any of my pathetic excuse for vacation time to do stuff by myself because we already have to curtail all our trips to fit into my work schedule. He's also not a big drinker or one to spend a lot of time hanging out with the guys. Most of the time I really appreciate that he's a homebody but sometimes I wish he'd get out a little more.

We both come from big families and my husband is quite close with his. So from Thanksgiving until Jan. 2, if I wasn't at work or at the gym, I was cleaning, cooking, wrapping presents or visiting friends and relatives. I'm not exaggerating. It was super fun seeing everyone but, damn, I'm exhausted. All my coworkers told me about how relaxing their breaks were. They went to movies, they sat around and played video games, they didn't change out of their pajamas. I was sooooooo jealous.

Which brings me to the point of my rant. I decided to take a day off tomorrow. I purposely planned it mid-week so I wouldn't have to worry about overlapping with one of my husband's flex days. I scheduled a hair appointment for the middle of the day. I planned to spend the rest of it working on some craft projects, doing a leisurely workout at the gym, watching a movie, taking a nap. Sounds nice, right? One whole day ALL TO MYSELF! YAY!

Only...

I get home from work tonight and my husband is in bed with a fever. Not super sick or anything, but sick enough to warrant a day off. So much for that day to myself.

Sigh...

I know, I know, it could be a lot worse. But damn, I'm frustrated. I can't afford to take another day off any time soon and there aren't any holidays until Memorial Day.

x(

P.S. I should clarify that he does his fair share of the housework and cooking, etc. (probably even more cleaning than I do). My lack of alone time is not due to any unwillingness to help out on his part.