Reply #21: my motto: keep your spirits high and your standards low! [View All]

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just (sort of) kidding, but I also believe in being realistic. I know a lot of people who will wait for the mythical Mr./Ms. Right without realizing that they may be being unrealistic. I love my wife not only for the amazing things we have in common, or that she is brilliant and beautiful and creative but also for all of the so-called "faults" and "problems" and things we don't agree on, and she feels the same way. In fact, in some cases, I dearly love certain things she dislikes about herself, and vice versa.

I know I am lucky, but part of it is also understanding that we're all human, and while there are some things and values you should never compromise on, such as someone being abusive and/or a Republican, many of the little details in life can still be interesting even if not "perfect."

Back to the original article, I think it is both grossly oversimplified and also generalized. Most people in life - men and women - want to find someone they can love and share their lives with, but some do not, and it's not necessarily a bad thing to pursue a non-romantic passion and live your life the way you want to, single, dating, or otherwise. Yes, as we get older, we almost all feel a certain 'freak out' and concern, but love can be found at any age if you keep your heart and mind open enough to recognize it when it is not in a "perfect" package.