Reply #69: Ugh [View All]

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As a single (almost) 34 year old woman I never wanted to have kids so I never felt this kind of desperation to "find a man." The way I see it for me is if I meet someone I meet someone, if I don't I don't. I'm going to do things I enjoy anyway so it's not that important. I knew when I was 17 I didn't want kids so the 'mother auditions' that was most of the dating in my 20's was a really bad eye rolling experience for me. Sometimes I think a companion might be nice and other times I'm glad no one is here when I get home from work.

What disturbs me is referring to being unmarried as being alone/lonely. Just because I don't live with a husband doesn't mean I'm lonely or alone. I may be physically alone at home (except for a cat which I've found preferable to most relationships I've had and I can always buy toys if a sex drive ever returns) but I do have friends, family, and a job in a field I really enjoy.

Something else that's disturbing is seeing the husband she should have settled for as basically a sperm donor who she can dump when she meets someone better or gets tired of him (at least that's how it came across to me) which would relieve her of financial difficulties and give her some free time when he gets the kids. (She didn't think about that BEFORE having a child?!) I don't see much difference between that and a man getting married for the uterus, housework and hot dinner waiting when he gets home from work. No one should be in a relationship where they are treated like or seen by the partner as some kind of service provider.

I think the alternate version is accurate and very funny. It's hard to believe this was written by a 40 year old instead of a 22 year old.