Reply #6: My husband was not an active drinker when I married him. [View All]

[Pool Hall Ace]

This is the story from my husband (who is truth-impaired): When he first purchased his home, he obtained a loan from a bank. His father, who was an accountant, thought the interest was too high, so the parents bought the mortgage. When we first got married, we made the mortgage payments to his parents. They are not making payments on the house; they really own the house (though the deed is in our names).

The money problems started in January 2009, when I had emergency brain surgery. My husband tried to file for divorce while I was in the hospital. He also tried (unsuccessfully) to remove me from his insurance policy.

Later that year, after receiving more than one threat, I left him. He lied to me and told me that Blue Cross had canceled my coverage because my brain tumor was considered a pre-existing condition. I later found out that he had lied; he had notified Blue Cross that we were divorcing and that I was no longer his dependent. However, because of the length of time that had gone by, coverage could not be reinstated.

When I ran out of options, I came back to my husband. Due to additional medical problems, I am in the process of filing for bankruptcy. My husband is refusing to work, believing his mother and other wealthy relatives will support him. Though it may sound selfish, I need to look out for me. I have since opened my own bank account so I can pay the bills. He will have to find his liquor money from elsewhere. I have tried to help him look for a job, but he refuses to work for less than $55/hour (even though I am making much less than before).

I understand that we need to be making payments on the house, but does she have to call on fucking Christmas night? I wonder if it would be better if she would just go ahead and foreclose on us.