Reply #10: sorry, very bad advice [View All]

[ima_sinnic]

I knew a shameless flirt back in the 70s who would always touch the arm of the man she was talking to. She made herself up like a model (insecure about herself, I guess) and would leave all the guys breathless and with dead-end fantasies about how much she must like them. She was actually cruel and a pathological liar.

If a woman really likes a man she probably WON'T touch him. I mean, that is the essence of playing "hard to get." As a female, when I was younger I had the opposite problem, of trying too hard and always driving the guys away. I didn't have enough self-confidence to play hard to get and thought I should give guys encouragement. I always came on too strong and they would get scared (however, I never did anything as bizarre as what you have described with this Romanian woman). Now when I REALLY am attracted to a man I act as casual, detached, and mostly disinterested as can be, because now I DON'T want to scare anybody off.

Just relax and enjoy life. "Make your life so interesting that someone else will want to join it" is an excellent piece of advice that was given to me eons ago and that it took decades for me to truly appreciate. Get into some activities you enjoy--how about political meetups??--and one day you will be talking to a woman who WON'T play games and you and she will come to know that you are right for each other. You can't force it, it just has to come and you'll know it when it does.