Reply #10: I can sympathize [View All]

[Hans Delbrook]

Alcoholism runs in my family and I worry all the time that I enjoy my date nights w/ the hubby (when we split a bottle of wine) just a little too much. I even thought I should give up the wine part and it really bothers me that I feel deep down like that would ruin the whole "date night" thing.

The only other thing I can contribute is to say stick w/ the therapy (it did me a world of good!) and MAYBE, just MAYBE think about dumping the toxic friend. I know this is harsh but I had a good friend who had self-esteem issues and was fine w/ me when we were both single (and occasionally lonely). But then I met my husband and started dating seriously. The jibes started mildly at first - mean little comments and digs that you could almost think were unintentional. It finally got to the point where I left a Xmas lunch in tears because of her vitriol and barely concealed resentment. I finally decided enough was enough and I broke off the friendship. It was the best thing I could have done for my mental health.

I think it's easier to take meanness from a stranger than from someone who's supposed to be a friend.