Reply #13: Bra's don't bother me [View All]

[ismnotwasm]

I'm very active, and I like some sort of support. (But like everything I wear, it has to be comfortable. Or forget it.) But as far as molding my perfectly acceptable 45 year old breasts into some sort of poke you in the eye "perkiness" I don't think so. I like mine just the way they are

My mother, bless her heart is a frightened, distant woman who probably shut down emotionally as far as she could before I was born. I didn't know the difference of course. It took my kids to point it out---"Mom, Grandma's always been a little weird" Me: "She is?"

So my knowledge come from other sources. I think I've mentioned I was a "street kid" in the seventies, since I would live anywhere but "home". My friends were homosexual males. I lived with a (my best friend Stevie)transvestite for quite a while. So I think I started to look at dress and makeup and "female" trappings in quite a different light. It was a game, body decoration, dress up, art, a contest, beauty, fun. It had shock value. You could take it off anytime you felt like it, and be ok. (I made a kick ass Magenta from Rocky Horror Picture Show.) As is usual with such things, those early experiences helped shaped my life and my additudes.
I did go through an atrocious makeup time during the 80's --blech. I was 30 when the make up started to come off little by little, and I found I looked much better without it. Still do.

I've long thought there is a bit of androgyny in everyone, my beautiful friend Stevie and I had planned to marry (as a joke--kind of a popular one back then) with me in a tuxedo and he in a wedding dress. It would have been great fun. Of course Ronnie died from AIDS, as did so very, very many shining lights from that era.

Force molding young females into attire to make them "pretty" or "sexy" or even "feminine" forgets that same look is going to get them comdemned in rape court, called names at times, and thought to be sexually available when they don't want to be. It indoctrinates them into a twisted version of What A Woman Looks Is Supposed To Look Like. And from that time on they never, ever measure up to their own expectations.

It's a bunch of bullshit epecially when you consider If females DON'T play the game, they get called very different names. "Butch" Dyke" crap like that, and are apt to get sexually harrassed ANYWAY.