Reply #215: We will just have to [View All]

[AnneD]

have a difference of opinion because I feel it is an effective tool in parenting and like any tool, should be used in moderation.

I remember when my mother used shame to teach me a lesson. I was a small kid and had taken candy from the store. She made me go back, pay the man and she threw the candy in the trash in front of me. It was ok to throw the candy away because I felt embarassed to tell the owner what I had done. I never did that again.

I agree with an earlier poster in that I don't think some of these kids HAVE a sense of shame by the looks of the things. I see the seeds sown in elementary where I work now. There is nothing wrong with having a sense of shame-it use to be called a concious. I'm not proposing everyone wear a hairy shirt or carry a ton of guilt around with them, but if more folks (esp those in power) had a sense of shame, we wouldn't have many of the problems we do.