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mtnester (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:35 PM Original message |
My son just came out...any parent out there that can offer me sage advice? |
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freetobegay (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:36 PM Response to Original message |
1. The best thing you can do |
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mtnester (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:37 PM Response to Reply #1 |
2. That is a given, It will be the first thing we tell him |
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DiverDave (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 03:59 PM Response to Reply #2 |
41. You say |
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Liberal Veteran (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:38 PM Response to Original message |
3. As a gay person the most important thing you can tell him.... |
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Liberal Veteran (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:39 PM Response to Reply #3 |
4. And don't forget to tell him how proud you are of him! |
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mtnester (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:40 PM Response to Reply #4 |
5. So everything we always tell him! |
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Liberal Veteran (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:42 PM Response to Reply #5 |
9. Exactly. Nothing has really changed except that.... |
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Athletic Grrl (551 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 09:16 PM Response to Reply #9 |
71. That was exactly |
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soothsayer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:40 PM Response to Original message |
6. Try PFLAG (parents & friends of gays and lesbians) |
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mtnester (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:41 PM Response to Reply #6 |
8. Thanks, this is a new topic in our household |
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didntvote4shrub (113 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:56 PM Response to Reply #8 |
24. Great books -- |
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RobertDevereaux (640 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 04:34 PM Response to Reply #8 |
42. A strong second for PFLAG... |
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Booster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 06:12 PM Response to Reply #8 |
44. Please express to him that you feel honored that he |
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Bluebear (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:41 PM Response to Original message |
7. I don't sense you need any guidance |
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Andy_Stephenson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:42 PM Response to Original message |
10. Sounds like you already know what to say.... |
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mtnester (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:43 PM Response to Reply #10 |
14. Safe sex is safe sex...no matter your preference |
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jdj (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:49 PM Response to Reply #14 |
18. Thanks, I was gonna say, |
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Andy_Stephenson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:54 PM Response to Reply #14 |
23. Good! |
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mtnester (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:42 PM Response to Original message |
11. I have one question though that is driving me crazy |
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Rowdyboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:46 PM Response to Reply #11 |
15. My mom cried ...and I was 38 years old |
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mtnester (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:49 PM Response to Reply #15 |
17. Thanks |
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Rowdyboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:57 PM Response to Reply #17 |
26. Its not easy, but no one much has an easy life... |
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Terran (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 03:57 PM Response to Reply #17 |
39. If your tears are for him, |
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umtalal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 08:22 PM Response to Reply #39 |
59. DUrs Rock!!!!! You are just awsome people. Can you imagine a freeper |
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Akbar (264 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:51 PM Response to Reply #11 |
20. You've Had a Big Trauma |
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didntvote4shrub (113 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:59 PM Response to Reply #11 |
27. Absolutely not - |
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jdj (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:43 PM Response to Original message |
12. Here's another link for PFLAG |
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mtnester (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:47 PM Response to Reply #12 |
16. I left a voice mail for him as soon as the message showed up |
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jdj (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:54 PM Response to Reply #16 |
22. Could be. |
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murielm99 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 07:24 PM Response to Reply #16 |
49. If his voice mail is picking up on the first ring, he is probably |
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Rowdyboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:43 PM Response to Original message |
13. Tell him how proud you are that he trusted you enough to tell you |
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Eloriel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:50 PM Response to Original message |
19. Call him immediately!!!!! Tell him you CELEBRATE who he is and |
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mtnester (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:51 PM Response to Reply #19 |
21. Thanks, we have tried calling but the phone is picking up on first ring |
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Eloriel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 02:56 PM Response to Reply #21 |
25. Yes, I saw that after I posted. n/t |
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Stephanie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 07:40 PM Response to Reply #21 |
53. Just don't leave him in suspense |
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TahitiNut (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 03:05 PM Response to Original message |
28. Sounds like you did a helluva good job parenting. |
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The Doctor. (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 03:10 PM Response to Original message |
29. Tell him you still need to meet his boyfriends... |
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Arugula Latte (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 03:32 PM Response to Reply #29 |
33. And treat his boyfriends as you would have treated his girlfriends. |
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MuseRider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 03:10 PM Response to Original message |
30. I gotta say |
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searchingforlight (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 03:22 PM Response to Original message |
31. I haven't been through this but I have raised three boys who are now |
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mtnester (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 03:29 PM Response to Reply #31 |
32. You are right we want to make sure he is OK |
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searchingforlight (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 03:38 PM Response to Reply #32 |
35. And you'll probably worry a little more |
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nostamj (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 03:37 PM Response to Original message |
34. were you surprised? |
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mtnester (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 03:41 PM Response to Reply #34 |
36. Yes and no |
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mtnester (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 03:44 PM Response to Original message |
37. I want to thank you all |
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underseasurveyor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 03:45 PM Response to Original message |
38. Nothing better than knowing one has the safe refuge of a loving home. |
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calimary (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 09:13 PM Response to Reply #38 |
70. Hey, I've been there - being that angry anyway, but my kid's only 12. |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 03:58 PM Response to Original message |
40. It's not a big deal |
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UdoKier (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 05:18 PM Response to Original message |
43. He's old enough to know who he is. |
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wellstone dem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 06:55 PM Response to Original message |
45. Would that all parents were |
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Name removed (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 07:12 PM Response to Original message |
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deutsey (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 07:16 PM Response to Original message |
47. See if there is a Welcoming Unitarian Universalist Congregation near you |
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Cronus Protagonist (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 09:39 PM Response to Reply #47 |
74. That's probably not a good idea |
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AP (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 07:21 PM Response to Original message |
48. It might be sweet of you to tell him... |
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Dem2theMax (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 07:27 PM Response to Original message |
50. I'm always hours late to any post around here. |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 07:30 PM Response to Original message |
51. I wish you were my mom. |
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sorrybushisfromtexas (416 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 07:36 PM Response to Original message |
52. son coming out |
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Cheswick2.0 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 07:58 PM Response to Reply #52 |
55. Hi and Welcome to DU |
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sid dicious (135 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 07:41 PM Response to Original message |
54. Just tell em that you love him... |
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leesa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 08:00 PM Response to Original message |
56. It took alot of courage in a scary time for homosexuals. Give him all |
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pinto (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 08:13 PM Response to Original message |
57. thank him. the rest will follow. n/t |
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umtalal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 08:16 PM Response to Original message |
58. He is free at last. |
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walldude (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 08:25 PM Response to Original message |
60. I've got a 10 year old boy |
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Stephanie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 08:41 PM Response to Reply #60 |
62. Thanks for being so cool. I salute you. |
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TriMetFan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 08:32 PM Response to Original message |
61. You are doing it right. |
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mtnester (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 08:45 PM Response to Reply #61 |
63. Thank you all |
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Terran (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 08:55 PM Response to Reply #63 |
64. Does he live near you? |
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mtnester (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 09:07 PM Response to Reply #64 |
67. About 2.5 hours away...we have decided if we do not hear from him |
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Terran (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 09:27 PM Response to Reply #67 |
72. Good idea |
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wolfgirl (950 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 08:57 PM Response to Original message |
65. Mine came out w/in the past 3 weeks.... |
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Cronus Protagonist (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 09:01 PM Response to Original message |
66. Call him right away and tell him you love him just the way he is |
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Eloriel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 09:08 PM Response to Original message |
68. I have to thank you, mtnester |
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mtnester (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 09:10 PM Response to Reply #68 |
69. I will..it is hard for me to imagine the pain he must have been feeling |
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Eloriel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 09:36 PM Response to Reply #69 |
73. I know, I know |
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stavka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 09:40 PM Response to Original message |
75. Tell him you love him, and watch his drinking? |
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mtnester (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 09:44 PM Response to Reply #75 |
76. I think if he was, it was for courage |
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stavka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 09:59 PM Response to Reply #76 |
78. Totally understandable.... |
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greekspeak (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 09:48 PM Response to Original message |
77. Love him with all your heart |
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shrike (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 10:06 PM Response to Original message |
79. I have a few gay cousins |
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union_maid (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-05-04 10:16 PM Response to Original message |
80. Thank him for sharing |
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Zan_of_Texas (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-07-04 04:49 PM Response to Original message |
81. great thread |
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ronnykmarshall (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Sep-07-04 04:54 PM Response to Original message |
82. You've done all right things. |
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