Why is it that I must still lean on my Republican friends?

[CornField]

I've yet to meet one democrat -- on DU or in real life -- that didn't offer sympathy & support for my pregnancy which I terminated at 26 weeks due to fatal defects.

I've yet to meet one republican -- on the net or in real life -- that didn't offer sympathy & support for my pregnancy which resulted in a stillbirth due to placenta abruption.

While there have been a few who have crossed the lines, by and large, this has been the case. I receive cards and notes from one group of friends on the anniversary of one and cards and notes from the other group of friends on the anniversary of the other. Also of note, my democratic friends not only make a point of offering sympathy, but also applauding my strength in exercising my choice when faced with a child who would never live.

Why do republicans find it so hard to understand that I grieve the child who died at 26 weeks as much as I grieve the child I lost fullterm?

Why do democrats find it so difficult to acknowledge that any 'fetus' can be referred to as a child without compromising Rowe v. Wade?

[KarenInMA]

1. I'm sorry for both of your losses.

I've never tried to have children, so I can't fully imagine the pain that would come with these trials, but you have my sympathy.

:hug:

[CornField]

2. Thank you

Although sympathy wasn't my reason for posting something so personal, I'll accept it in the spirit it was given. Thanks. :hug:

[imperialismispasse]

3. I don't get it.

Look I'm a guy so I probably shouldn't even be commenting on this. But I don't get why people can't see that it's all about what the woman herself feels about the pregnancy. (Which totally supports pro choice-you have a CHOICE to want the baby or not.) If you want to have an abortion and call the fetus a fetus, then great. That's your choice. If you want the baby but tragically lost it and you want to call the baby a baby, then great. How hard is this to understand? You follow whatever the woman wants because it's her body and her choice. I saw on another thread somebody was making fun of Rick Santorum for taking their stillborn baby home to mourn it. Look I live in PA and I think Santorum is a nutcase, but that was his kid and they wanted to mourn it in that way, so how does that hurt anyone else?

I'm sorry about your losses and I think that however you reacted was totally up to you and totally right. This was a good post thanks.

[CornField]

4. Guys are welcome :-)

I don't get it either. Aren't we supposed to support the choice regardless of what the choice is? That's exactly why I posted.

[Midlodemocrat]

5. I am so sorry for your losses, CornField.

I underwent genetic testing with my second due to a family propensity for TaySachs. If it had been positive, I would have aborted him....because I wouldn't have been able to watch him die.

These 'choices' that we make are not easy and are always very personal.

I believe I would have grieved for my child if I lost him, because I already loved him.

[IdaBriggs]

6. Complete and utter heartfelt sympathies.....nt