And will you tell that to the East Timorese, or the Palestinians, or any of a number of other oppressed / colonized / subjugated peoples one might name? Would you have told it to the colonials in the pre-US back in 1775? How about to Gandhi?
Forgive me, but it seems to me that USAmerican "internationalists" might be almost as ethnocentric as their "nationalist" fellow citizens sometimes.
Not every nationalist in the big wide world is looking to "plant her iron foot on the necks of all other nations". Some are looking to get an iron foot off their necks, and to have the freedom to organize themselves and govern themselves as they choose, and speak their own language and practise their own culture, and that sort of thing. And sometimes a nation is the only thing that will enable them to do that, so
nationalism is more than appropriate, it is laudable.
"Patriotism requires allegiance to the flag, which means obedience and readiness to kill father, mother, brother, sister."Again ... maybe to some, or many, or most USAmericans it does.
And actually, that may not be far wrong in general. And that would be why I prefer nationalism, which doesn't really necessarily mean the nasty things it has apparently had ascribed to it in the US.
In French, the word
nation retains more of its original Latin flavour:
natio nation, people
Peoples are those things with the right of self-determination. They may not want to be part of one big global village just at the moment; they may think that there interests are better served by protecting their values and language and culture from being swallowed up. They may decide that independence as a state within secure borders best serves those interests. That would make them nationalists, in my book.
So hey, I'm not surprised that you reject patriotism. I just wonder why you reject nationalism. Except that I guess we are speaking two different languages.
A sense of belonging, an awareness of shared values and cultural expressions, is important for individuals. Certainly we need to expand that sense and awareness to include more people and peoples in our "us", and to remove the "versus" between "us" and "them". But when a people is on the receiving end of that "versus", and the expansion of the thing on the other end of it would simply mean that it would gain hegemony and the one on the receiving end would crumble under the weight, so that its members would no longer be part of something, they would be subjects of something, I think it's up to them if they want to put up an iron gate.
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