About Celibacy

[La Lioness Priyanka]

who here has never been celibate for more than a month past their teens...raise you hand people...i am sure we exist

[mike_c]

1. hmmm...., define celibacy....

As precisely as possible.

[Parrcrow]

2. It is one thing to be celibate by choice...

another to have celibacy thrust upon one.
I'm not a celibacy kinda guy. I don't think I've ever gone a month without, but probably close a few times.

[mastein]

3. Wife had medial problems

and couldn't go for a few months. It's all about loving the person, not loving the person's body alone.

[DarkPhenyx]

Celibate by choice.

Just not by my choice.

[BiggJawn]

4. Month? What're you complaining about?

Try TWO YEARS, my dear!

You'd think after surviving a Karmic bufu like that I'd be rolling it, wouldn't you?

Guess again! coming up on 2 years, AGAIN!

[La Lioness Priyanka]

6. i am not complaining

and it has not been a month...never..that would be too many days

[rabid_nerd]

5. does it count if you're married

and just don't feel like it? hehe

[Fenris]

7. I've never considered sex

Something essential, like eating or breathing. I think I posted on this subject a while back. I was celibate until the age of 18 and have been celibate since last August. I certainly haven't sat around thinking about how much I needed sex. Maybe that's my problem. Anyway, I have my reasons, I suppose.

It's not that I don't like sex, it's just that I don't care.

[Speck Tater]

8. 11 years, but not by choice.

Just because I'm divorced and very, very shy, and on the verge of being a senior citizen.

But I'm OK with it. The whole relationship thing can take too much time and energy. My life is calmer and more serene wihout a "significant other" (or "authorized user" as the credit card companies put it). I seriously doubt if I will ever have another girlfriend/wife/lover/companion/whatever, unless someone buys me an inflatable playmate for my 60th birthday ;)

[TEXASYANKEE]

11. Me too.

It's been more than 11 years for me ... a few years by choice and a few years not. But now I'm happy and content. I don't need another person to sexually fulfill me (although I wouldn't turn it down, given the right person). I don't know if that makes me celibate "by choice" or not. It's just that I'm no longer actively pursuing a sexual partner. Nice to know there are others out there in my same situation, and not embarrassed to talk about it.

[pagerbear]

9. I've done several years at a time

Sometimes by choice, sometimes by circumstance, sometimes alternating between the two. At one point I was acting irresponsibly sexually, and decided to put some boundaries around my sexual behavior. After being celibate for a very long time, I eventually decided that I was using those boundaries as a tool for isolation, and changed them.

I have reasonable boundaries around my sexual behavior (desperate husband-hunting posts on DU notwithstanding), but I will admit I don't always live up to my own standards. I think that's pretty normal.

[Bertha Venation]

10. I might ask the reverse question

Who has had three or fewer lovers? :hi: I'm 41.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

12. thats not really a reverse question

is it?

[Bertha Venation]

14. look at it this way

If you're 41 and have not been celibate for longer than one month in your lifetime . . . :shrug:

I don't necessarily consider celibacy to be extended periods lacking sexual activity between partners. I guess others would have a different POV.

That was vague. I'll try to be clearer:

In my life, I considered myself celibate when I didn't have a lover -- not when I did have one and we'd gone for a while without having sex.

[Speck Tater]

13. Exactly two lovers...

My first wife (25 years) and my second wife (2 years) and none before or since.

[SarahB]

16. Why not.

Yes, 3 or fewer here, but the exact number is my business. I'm 32.

[SarahB]

15. I have children

Generally, you have to wait a minimum 6-8 weeks for medical reasons. Other than that, no, but I've been married to one person since I was in my teens. That would be very hard to for me to give up. I think part of the reason I married young was because I liked the security of being in a relationship (not a casual sex type) and basically having my needs regularly met. Not that I'm not capable of meeting them myself when necessary either.

[Padraig18]

17. Nope--- not since I was 14

:)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

20. lol

me either :)

[geniph]

18. I've managed a month a few times

but never more than six weeks.

[Ladyhawk]

19. Still Celibate.

It's mostly due to childhood abuse and fundy indoctrination than choice.

[LDS Jock]

21. raising hand

for periods longer than I care to remember.

[thestatusquo]

22. waiting till marriage...want to get married soon!

I'm waiting till marriage, I just have to say I'd better b e married by the time I'm 30, otheriwse I'm calling up every guy in my old yearbooks........O8)

[belladonna]

23. The longest stretch for me was a year

It wasn't really by choice, I just happen to be very picky about the guys I sleep with. Lucky me, blessed with a high sex drive AND high standards :D

[NightTrain]

24. Bite me.

;)