RANT: why dont people say thank-you when you hold the door for them?

[commander bunnypants]

SHEESH!!!!

7 times today, I hold the door- only 3 thank-you's

Manners are not that hard. Even cute 90 lbs female coworker holds the door for me. Thank-you.

:mad:

DDQM

[NicoleM]

1. Two syllables.

So little effort required. I don't know why people don't do it, but they should.

[Misunderestimator]

2. I know! I usually mutter "Thank you" just loud enough for them to hear.

[ScreamingMeemie]

3. Because, they have forgotten how...

:(

[Catherine Vincent]

4. I always say thank you when someone opens the door for me.

And I expect the same when I open the door for someone. It's like some people are in another world.

[sus]

5. because they're ingrates

next time, try slamming the door in their face.

that's what JESUS would do...

[HornBuckler]

6. Because They Are Republicans?

:)

[wtmusic]

7. Why do people say "No problem!" when you say "Thank you"?

what happened to "You're welcome"?

:grr:

[Blue Gardener]

32. YES!

That just drives me up the wall. What the hell does that mean anyway? Don't they teach manners in school anymore?

[hlthe2b]

8. That's on my own pet peeve list.... strongly followed by

people who let the door slam in your face, when they are only a couple of steps ahead of you.

Lately, it seems like more guys than gals do this and they don't appear at all embarrassed at hearing the door slam into you behind them (assuming they notice at all). I suppose it reflects how much people are in their own little world (as evidenced by how often they feel free to talk on the cell phone right in front of a line of people in the PO/grocery store--even when the clerk is trying to wait on them).

[Tom Kitten]

30. oh yeah, those kind!

About 10 years ago when I had a badly sprained ankle and was on crutches for 6 weeks I had a few people let the door slam on me! Sometimes when I was halfway through!
Yep, a thread like this sure can bring back the mmories!

[johnnie]

9. Next time

Extend your leg under their thankless feet and trip em. And return their gratitude with no "I'm sorry".
Naw...that's mean. I always say thank you.

[SheWhoMustBeObeyed]

10. I know what you mean

I say Hi to bus drivers and cashiers, Thank you to people who hold doors, Excuse me when I walk in front of shoppers who are studying shelves, and other niceties that acknowledge others as people and not props in some movie called All About Me. I get a lot of blank stares in response, which makes me feel like an old lady, but it's okay. I am an old lady. :D

[candy]

33. I'm an old lady too,and I do what you do.

[Loonman]

11. Don't bother or wait for a thank you

I've had several females call me a chauvinist pig for holding a door.

So I stopped doing it.

Then I got called an insensitive clod and "typical rude man".

I can't fuckin' win......:wtf:

[Misunderestimator]

12. Ignore the ones that call you a chauvinist....

As a woman, my rule is that if I make it to the door first, I hold it open. I'd expect another person to do the same, male or female. Though, I have to admit, that more women actually DO that than men these days. Go figure.

If you rush ahead of a woman to hold the door open and have a look on your face like you're doing them a great favor... then, yes, that's chauvinistic in my mind. Just me.

[sus]

13. hmmm...are you sure it wasn't because you were wearing your

"SHOW ME YOUR TITS!" Tshirt??

[Loonman]

21. No

I had my "Blow me now!" shirt on.

[DS1]

22. It's not as effective when you're driving an HVAC company truck

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[Loonman]

24. Of course they do

I've started a support group. It's called "insensitive guys".

Instead of hugs we head-butt each other.

[sus]

25. and how's that working out for you?

more importantly, how does it make you FEEL?

[Loonman]

27. Not sure

The headaches are a a real drag, though.

[neverborn]

37. excuse me

Is that word really necessary?

[Burma Jones]

14. Seven Times?

Do you have a uniform and call cabs for people?

[ForrestGump]

15. Because they're ignorant pigs. I usually just follow them home and

beat the Ashcroft out of them as they open their front door. Tough love.

[Canuckistanian]

16. Do you work at a Correction Facility?

If you work the "out" door, you may get more cheery responses.

[Skittles]

17. I say thank you

always

[Tom_Foolery]

18. This one is easy to answer...

They're the center of the universe, and you're just bubble gum stuck to the bottoms of their shoes. Assholes!!!

[SmileyBoy]

19. I live in Minnesota. We always say thank you.

:D:D:D

[DS1]

20. Some of us are capable of opening our own damn doors

I hate feeling compelled to move any faster for someone.

[loafie]

36. i always say thank you

but if you're that far ahead of the person there is no need to hold it. I'd rather not have to run to catch up to you. I can open it myself.

[Endangered Specie]

26. That doesn't seem to happen much here on campus.

Suprisingly, 80-90% say thanks, or thank you, and the same amount hold doors.

I usually say Thanks instead of thank you, not sure why, just do (usually include a head nod).

[Loonman]

28. Gotta get the head tilt

At least.

[SarahB]

29. I have no clue

I always say 'thank you' and most people seem to say thank you to me (even in rude New England). Sometimes though, I've seen the reverse. I don't understand. So much yuckiness in this world sometimes. :(

[Dan-W]

31. I always say Thank You or Thanks.

And when a cashier hands me my change, I say thank you. Then, he/she says "Have a nice day." And I reply, "Thanks, you, too."

-Dw (A lifelong New Englander)

[geniph]

34. I always say thanks,

and I always hold the door for anyone within a few yards of me heading toward the door, or longer for anyone who's unduly burdened.

I don't believe in having to hold the door for 15 people in a row, though - it's irritating when you hold the door for one person, then twenty others appear and all sail through the door as if you were a doorstop. The rule of thumb ought to be that every third person or so takes the door from you!

And everyone in my world must say Thank You or be considered a worthless bag of Santorum.

[Hell Hath No Fury]

35. Yikes, where do you live?

I hold doors open all the time and always get a "thank-you", to which I reply with a "You're welcome".

And when having doors held open for me I always make sure to show my appreciation.

And that's in San Francisco, no small town.