My abrasiveness.

[coloradodem2005]

I have been accused of being abrasive from time to time. I have tried to back off. When I got fired on Thursday, I was told by the "hatchet man" that people complained about me loosing my cool over rejection. He described me as abrasive. This is something I have tried hard to change. It is something that until then I thought I was getting away from. I can't say I blame anybody who would have been put off by these outbursts. Outside of that, I thought I got along with many of the people there. We joked some and laughed. These are just things that haunt me. They are things that I have tried to overcome but in this case it has all come back to haunt me.

[freetobegay]

1. You had me hooked till I read the last part.

[coloradodem2005]

2. What do you mean by that?

[freetobegay]

6. I detected contrition from you , which is a step in the right direction.

But reading the last part, in my opinion canceled out the first part.

[coloradodem2005]

7. No. Your initial instinct was correct.

I am just saying that appearently this is a two way street. While I acknowledge that I need to look at myself, I am saying that I am appearently not the only one who does. That last part was somewhat of an aside.

[freetobegay]

8. When you learn to just drop those side things

You will see yourself in a much better light. I am in no way trying to antagonize you. Just giving you my honest opinion. I have been there & done that.

[TheWizardOfMudd]

3. What's that smell?

[Ophelia]

4. Abrasiveness isn't all bad

Seriously, sometimes we get our points across better when we don't fear to speak our minds. Abrasiveness can be subjective.

[coloradodem2005]

5. Sadly...

...it seems to come back and bite me in the ass. Invariably. Maybe I just got to shut up. I'm not Brillo.

[murielm99]

9. I understand, because I am abrasive, too.

I quit a job once, because I had been abrasive to the wrong people. I was prety sure they would have fired me if they could have found any reason at all.

I felt that it was time to back off, and re-evaluate. I went back to school, and trained for something else. That gave me time to think, as well.

There is nothing wrong with being outspoken. You just have to know when to turn it off. I might be getting there, and I hope you do, too.

I do not know if you are male or female. I think it is harder for outspoken or abrasive women.

Try to put it behind you. Good luck.

[coloradodem2005]

10. Hopefully.

I am male. As hard as it is for me, I cannot imagine how hard it would be for a woman. The job was a fundraisng job where I had to deal with many people who would say no. Many people have said that even if you believe in what you are fundraising for (which I do) that it can be too hard to deal with. While I have been trying to make progress, that may not have been the best environment for me to be in to do this because of being in a job where you have to deal with some people who will exasparate you. That definitely didn't help.