Am I morose or misanthropic?

[coloradodem2005]

I am reading an article about introverts. When I got fired from my job, after taking many rejections I said, "I wish I could find a job where I didn't have to deal with people. I hate people." I don't feel like I meant it the way it sounded but I was frustrated. I have gone to parties, but I have stayed out of sight for a while. I like to go out some times. Many times. I have conversations with people. I have a few friends. I am just trying to understand what my problem is. What my abrasive nature mignt be. I know that I am an introvert.

[gmoney]

1. You're not misanthropic...

...mankind really DOES suck. Collectively, the world works so hard to earn your scorn each day, that it's impossible to be misanthropic anymore.

Sort of like how you can't really be paranoid if someone is actually out to get you.

My morose/misanthropic 2 cents.

[Gothic Sponge]

2. Sounds like we live the same life

After i lost my job my wife left me and i became a recluse. I have only a few friends. I would like to make new friends, but i have "trust issues' right now.

[coloradodem2005]

3. That's terrible.

For me, I have trust issues. Both with myself and with the world. I don't trust people to treat me with the respect that I think I and many others are entitled to. I don't trust myself because I have made mistakes socially and have put people off throughout my life.

[Nikia]

4. Well, you had a job that required constant contact with people

Due to the nature of your job, you were bound to experience hostility regularly. This is the worst case scenario for introverts.
If you had a job that consisted mostly with doing your own thing with perhaps some time around people, you probably wouldn't have such a problem. I spend over half of my time doing my own thing. Most of my interactions with other people, who are almost always people who work for the same business as I do, are not hostile. Sometimes I get annoyed by them, but I don't feel drained by my interactions with them. When I had all day interviews with several people though, I felt drained and stressed out though.
Try to mind a job that doesn't require constant interaction with people. Stay out of service work. If I remember right you are a BS math person who has had a hard time finding work in your field. Perhaps, you should try looking for office work, which doesn't require answering phones or making phone calls, or entry level lab work. Anything in manufacturing would probably require less interaction with people too.

[Nay]

5. It would be hard to tell without meeting you. But

after determining that you are an introvert (I am one also), did you read up on introversion?

Basically, introverts "charge their batteries" by being alone. Extroverts charge their batteries by being with people. If you have to spend a lot of time with people (as most of us do, at work) you will crave solitude in the evenings. The extroverts will want to spend every night with other people in some way (partying, volunteering, visiting).

It sounds to me like you don't spend enough time "recharging." You may be crabby for that reason alone. I am probably older than you and have learned to mask my dislike of being around people all the time. I really dislike it, but my job (like most jobs) requires it, and it requires that I be generally pleasant to everyone. By the time I get home, I am ready to go hiking on the moon. This is not a defect, it is simply the way your neurons work.

[coloradodem2005]

8. The thing is.

I am moderately introverted. I like to hang out with people and chat with people. But not all the time. Sometimes after work, I would like to go out with some coworkers on occasion. But I do find a constant influx of talking to be irritating. It is really bad when I perceive hostility.

[nuxvomica]

6. Don't worry about it

That's actually my advice cuz the more your worry about how your relate to people the worse you are at it.

[mitchum]

7. Are you Swift misanthrope or a Pope misanthrope?