mother of Demman is very sick.

[commander bunnypants]

just got the diagnosis last night. second round of breast cancer again. SHIT.... at the very least chemotherapy, double mastectomy, dad in law has Parkinson's.. The wheel keeps turning, if the lightening does not get you the thunder will..

I have always worked around death, despair, the sick, the dying.. I told them to make me power of attorney so I can help.. I can objectify no problem, but when it hits home, real hard to subjectify

No icons-just sad

jon

[GOPisEvil]

1. Damn, Jon...I'm sorry to hear that.

Best wishes to your mom and your family.

[Blue-Jay]

2. Good mojo to mama Demman.

My own Ma is a breast cancer survivor. It's not easy for anyone involved. Sorry to hear the news.

[Magrittes Pipe]

3. Real sorry to hear that, Demman.

Take care. :hug:

[GCP]

4. GIve them both all our love

and tell them we're all pulling for them (and for you, of course) :hug:

[Divernan]

5. Re: Power of Attorney and new privacy laws

First of all, my sympathy to you and your family - you all have a very difficult situation to live with.
Secondly, definitely get health care powers of attorney for both your Mom and your father-in-law. Or better still get joint powers naming both you and your wife. Then get multiple certified copies ( maybe 10) of each and give one to every single one of the health care providers (doctor's offices; hospitals; clinics; health insurance companies) for your Mom/father-in-law respectively. Also keep one each in your own possession should you have an emergency situation to respond to. I have care of an elderly parent and in the last two years have found the medical care community practically paralyzed with fear of giving out medical information - even to the point of confirming an appointment time, for god's sake - because of the change in the federal laws.

As to larger outfits, like hospitals or health insurance companies: call and get the name AND TITLE of the individual to send the POA to; keep a record of the date and substance of that conversation; call and confirm that the correct person received the POA after you've sent it to them; and whenever subsequently dealing with that outfit on behalf of your relative, prefix all conversations with: "I am the (daughter/son) of (name of patient). I have full medical power of attorney for (name of patient). That POA was provided to (name of outfit) (title of person) on (give date). If the person you're dealing with then refuses to answer your questions or give you full information (which is unlikely - the POA totally protects them and they should understand that), get the name and title of the person refusing to honor the POA & tell them you will be reporting them to the hospital/insurance company legal department and then demand to speak to their supervisor. Do NOT let them tell you that person is unavailable and someone will call you back. Tell them you consider this an emergency situation and you will hold. Ask them for the name and direct dial number of the supervisor in case you are "accidentally" disconnected. Take no shit from anyone when it comes to healthcare of your loved ones.
Divernan, J.D.

[commander bunnypants]

6. yea hippa

totally sucks...

DDQM

[dawg]

7. So sorry to hear this ....

I lost my Grandmother to cancer two years ago, a very devastating loss and a long ordeal. I'll pray for you and your mother. Just be sure to take good care of yourself so you can be strong enough to do the things you will need to do.

[commander bunnypants]

8. hey dawg

How have you been?

DDQM

[MissMillie]

9. Dem, I'm so sorry

I will certainly keep you in my thoughts. If there's anything I can do...

My mother is having a lumpectomy tomorrow. I'm sure you can relate.

[havocmom]

10. Oh, Jon, I'm so sorry.

Know your DU pals are sending strength and keeping you and yours in our thoughts and prayers.

PM anytime you need to vent. Am hoping she manages well. Have recently seen that this can be less horrible than we originally anticipate.

Get some positive people who have been there and done that to be in her corner with her. My sis said all the positive energy she got surrounded with really was a big help.

Sending good energy.

Hey, and take care of yourself too!

(((((Jon)))))

from da momma

[Misinformed01]

11. Michael and I are so sorry to hear that

You are in our thoughts-

Stephanie

[havocmom]

12. Jon, check your inbox (n/t)

[XNASA]

13. You have my deepest empathy.

My Mom is sick too. Has been for awhile. It's been tough, but somehow we all get through.

Keep your chin up, Jon.