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LynneSin Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-19-04 11:00 AM
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I'm not in a relationship, I'm not looking for one and I'm damn HAPPY!!!!
Seriously, after spending 24 hours with 2 girls who think something must be amiss about me, I'm damn glad to be back home and amongst friends who know that not everyone needs to be in a relationship!!! I've been dating for 20+ years and I can assure you that I'm never more miserable then when I'm dating!! I mean the best relationships are the low impact ones where you have all the fun but you're not sitting around making expectations like when to call, when to hang out, etc. etc. etc.

Anyone else feeling it like I am??
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GOPisEvil Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-19-04 11:02 AM
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1. I don't feel like I HAVE to be involved with someone either.
But...if you meet the right person, dating doesn't feel like work.
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mermaid Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-19-04 11:04 AM
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2. Single And Happy Here
I got my dog, she gives me all the companionship and love I need.

And who needs a man for "pleasure?" This IS the Electronic Age, you know!

Couplea batteries do me just fine, and the best part is...they stop when I tell 'em to!
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demnan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-19-04 11:05 AM
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3. Yes
Maybe I just haven't found the right "Girlie-Man" for me but I agree with you and I know many interesting women who do also.
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trumad Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-19-04 11:06 AM
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4. That because you haven't had trumad...
one fling baby and all the independance flys out the window..,. Hubba Hubba...
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VelmaD Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-19-04 11:06 AM
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5. Unfortunately I have to disagree...
I've been dating for nearly 20 years too and frankly I'm as tired of meeting the wrong guys as you are. But instead of giving up I just keep hoping that I'm going to meet the right person. I'm really tired of being alone all the time and having to take care of everything by myself. A partner in life would be nice. Would be nice to have someone to keep my feet warm too. :)
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nothingshocksmeanymore Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-19-04 11:07 AM
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6. Yep I was happy and wasn't looking either
funny how that works
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LynneSin Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-19-04 11:08 AM
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8. well, one day you'll get over that crush you have on me
:eyes:

:loveya:
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nothingshocksmeanymore Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-19-04 12:26 PM
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12. *best Olivia Newton John*
but I'm hopelessly devoted to you......
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prolesunited Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-19-04 11:11 AM
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9. Agreed!
But when it does, it's simply amazing. And echoing GOPisevil's comment, with the right person, it's not very much work at all.
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Aristus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-19-04 11:07 AM
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7. Well, you go, girl.
:-)
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MissMillie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-19-04 11:13 AM
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10. I don't know that I'm "happy" about not being in a relationship
But I do know that my life is very comfortable without one.

Of course, I've been hurt so many times that I don't have the nerve to try again, and that's a whole different ball of wax. My "comfort" level is totally about not taking any risk when it comes to relating to other people.

Yes, I know, I need professional help.
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truthspeaker Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-19-04 11:14 AM
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11. Good for you!
When (and if) you meet the right person I'm sure you'll have a happy and fulfilling relationship.

Until then, why pine for something you don't have? You're happy, well adjusted, you don't need to check with someone before you make plans for the weekend, and no one's snoring keeps you awake.

And when you get that ache in your loins, it should be no trouble finding men who aren't interested in a commitment beyond two or three hours.
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Misunderestimator Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-19-04 12:31 PM
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13. Ah... you just need a break... dating guys must be exhausting!
:evilgrin:
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sus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-19-04 12:35 PM
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14. i figure i'll coast until i'm about 50 and then
quick pair up with whoever is left. sort of like relationship musical chairs. either that or adopt that nice young couple next door and promise i'll leave everything to them in my will if they'll promise to change my diapers.

actually, i hope i'm dead by then...
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YellowRubberDuckie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-19-04 12:35 PM
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15. Hey, everyone's different.
I found the person I'm meant to spend the rest of my life with and I'm happier than I've ever been. But having someone else in their life that they have to worry about isn't for everyone. Your friends just don't understand how that could be. I don't fully understand it either, but I'm not going to criticize. As long as you're happy, that's all that counts. You've matured beyond the point you need someone else to make you happy. That's very commendable and admireable to me.
Duckie
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-19-04 12:47 PM
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16. You know what that means....
...It means you will meet someone soon who will either A) screw it all up or B) be the true love of your life.
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