For the single DU women...will you take your SO's last name?

[tcfrogs]

Again, just curious...

[SheBop]

1. I voted

"don't know" because that debate is specious at best.

If a woman doesn't take her husband's name, she is left with her father's.

Therefore, should we all just make up new surnames?

:wow:

[tcfrogs]

2. That would make things very confusing

But fun - picking a random name you like as your last name - I'm for it!!!!

[SheBop]

6. It seems to me that we are

the only 2 to face the fact that whether or not a woman takes her husband's or her father's name, it's still not her own.

Hey, not just :yourock: : we both do! :toast:

[demnan]

3. Hyphenate

It's just a good compromise. Although in business I think I'd keep my name.

[New Dem]

5. i agree

I think i would like to keep my name...but maybe to hyphenate would okay...depends on your husband's name i guess...

[BlondieK143]

4. I like my last name, but

(it's famous :P) I'm not sure what I'll do in the end. When I was in middle school, whomever I was dating/had a crush on, I'd always doodle my first name and then his (oh I'm not that weird! I think most women have done it at some point in their lives). Never really thought of it as a choice though. So, I voted "Don't know". :D

[MissMillie]

7. I like my name

no need to change it.

[SheBop]

8. Your father's or your husband's name?

... just curious ...


O8)

[MissMillie]

11. My father's

I've had it for 40 years.... no need to go through the hassle of changing it (new SS card, new drivers license, new checks, etc.). It just seems like a big pain in the neck.

[greeneyedpookie]

9. I will be

this Saturday!!!!


GEP

:bounce:

[Lavender Brown]

10. Getting married?

Congratulations! :party:

[greeneyedpookie]

16. Yup

I will be this Saturday, just hope that I do not have a nervous break-down before then!!!

GEP

:bounce:

[sus]

12. no.

i like my name. 'tis beauteous.

[supernova]

13. No, not again

I did the first time, mostly without thinking about it, it was just part of the whole marriage thing then. After the divorce I took up my maiden name again.

Now however, if I find a man who would put up with me (HA!), I'm keeping my name. It has more to do with how I feel I've earned the right to this identity and it feels right for me. Anyone wishing to permanently share my life again will have to appreciate my hard fought battle.

[LWolf]

14. Not only no, but HELL NO.

When I was born I was given my father's name. I met him a couple of times.

I wasn't unhappy about leaving his name behind when I got married. I liked the new name. When I'd been married for 10 years, the marriage ended. I kept the ex-husband's name. It is the name my sons carry. When I remarried a few years later, I left the ex's name behind and took the new husband's name. He deserted 12 years later. Now I carry the name of a man who doesn't love me, and who was not concerned in the least about destroying the things I loved about my life, and my financial future, to fuel his mid-life crisis. I haven't changed it, because that's the name 10 years of students know me by. But when/if I ever get out of this school/district into a school where I am unknown, the name goes. I'll pick something brand new, just mine, and I won't give it up for anyone else. I've spent my whole life wearing the name of someone who didn't care about me.

[SheBop]

18. There ya' go!

My point expressed through your pain ... (I'm sorry for all that you've been through).

I am legally changing my surname (father's) to one that has meaning for me. No, I'm not going to say what that is, but I will say that I do know a woman who changed her surname to "ForFreedom" and so she has been known as 'Jennifer ForFreedom' for about 2 years now.

:pals: :yourock:

[LWolf]

23. My mother did this.

She grew up with her mother's maiden name; she was "illegitimate," and the father was "unknown." She was raised by extended family members who resented taking care of "____________'s little bastard." She left when she graduated from high school and never looked back. While her marriage to my father only lasted a few months, she used his name for years, because it was my name. On her 50th birthday, she changed it. Chose her own name, and has carried it proudly ever since.

If I'd had a good relationship with my father, or if I thought he cared about me, it probably wouldn't bother me to carry his name. Or my mother's maiden name, for that matter. But why carry the name of people who abandon, neglect, or abuse you? I already have a name. I'm just waiting for the right time.

[ChavezSpeakstheTruth]

15. The future Mrs CStheT is going to hyphenate

Its her choice - it makes a nice stage name though it sounds EXTREMELY anglo. Its not my birth last name (was adopted and had name change at 8 years of age) and her name hides her spanish/italian ancestry.

[noonwitch]

17. I like my name, and have established my career

I had this discussion over the weekend with my cousins' wives. One asked "What if your husband demanded you take his name?". My response was "I don't think a guy with that expectation would be proposing to me, nor would I likely be involved with someone who would expect that of me".

[melv]

19. my husband said it didn't matter to him

ultimately it's a personal choice. I went with what I liked the best.

[curse10]

20. Nope

I like my name. In fact, we've talked about him taking mine!

[wickerwoman]

21. No.

I'm never getting married. I find the entire idea of being marched up an aisle by my father and handed over to another man physically revolting.

If I ever meet a man I want to spend my life with we're going to live together until we're commonlaw spouses (unless one of us needs to changes citizenship and then it's off to the courthouse.)

I don't have any real reason to cling to my father's last name (except that I like in and it sounds quite good with my first name.) I might consider changing to Hathaway, my most famous female ancestor, but I'd be cutting out a lot of Irish heritage there and I don't like the sound as much.

And my daughters are going to have my last name, my sons their father's. Seems like the only fair way to break the cycle without everyone's name getting so hyphenated it becomes impossible to pronounce.

[Lisa0825]

22. I took my ex-s name, and then took mine back ASAP after the divorce.

I like my name better anyway. It's a rather sexy sounding French name. IF I ever get married again, I expect that I will go by MY name, my husband will go by HIS name, and when we are addressed as a couple maybe it will be as Myname-Hisname. But I will NOT legally change mine again.