DU Relationship Poll

[sundog]

Good evening.

The sunset was nice today, lots of blue & orange, so I thought I would pose the following...

Current relationship status is:

[Marvelous_Smarty]

1. Today,

was the third anniversary of meeting Yvette. She was an internet hook-up. We were "friends with benefits" for the longest time as we dated other people. We fell in love and valiantly fought it, refusing to be exclusive, but finally we became an us.

Last week we closed on a house and moved in over the weekend.

[sundog]

2. Right on :)

congratulations :bounce:

[NMDemDist2]

47. congrats and welcome to DU

:hi:

[No2W2004]

3. Currently divorcing

Emotions range from depressed, deeply depressed, pissed off, relief, surly, deep deep depression, and ambivilant.

Looking forward to being happy again.

[sundog]

4. Sorry....

here's to feeling better -- :hug:

[HEyHEY]

5. From my posts you may not nkow it...

But yeah, I'm lonely. I wake up in the morining thinkng...what? Waht can other sdo that I cannot?

[sundog]

6. I have also gotten that thought in my head ...

No shit, somedays suck...

But I think on a subconscious level, though I complain & sometimes get depressed, I want to be single at this stage of the game. Like I'm fine tuning myself or something....

[HEyHEY]

9. Recently

I was just on the tail-end of the "I wanna be single kick"
It occured to me, nothing is better than a wife and family....to lauigh and to love. I look at my grandmother, and how much she loved her grandkkids. I don't want to die never knowing love, and all that come with it. My whole "happy singel" thing is just a defense for not having balls.

[sundog]

15. I'm also begnning to think

that only the bad things in life come to our doorstep.

In other words, we sit and wait for good times to come knocking at our door & complain when they don't. It becomes way too internal...

I think you have to go outside yourself to find the good times in life, cause they won't come to your doorstep.

[truthspeaker]

35. and nothing is worse than a loveless family

Better to be lonely than tied to someone you don't really love or who doesn't love you.

[sundog]

55. oh, that reminds me of a great line in the movie "Some Kind of Wonderful"

from the 80's -- It's better to be alone for the right reasons than with someone for the wrong ones...

[Autobot77]

20. I feel the same way sometimes nt

[sundog]

22. welcome to du lounge!

:toast:

[SoonerShankle]

7. I'm a single mom in "Shallow Hal" land....

I'm a single mom with a six year old boy. I haven't been in a relationship since his father and I broke up five years ago. Most days I'm okay with that fact, but more recently I've been ready to meet someone. I miss companionship and someone to share things with.... But where I live, being that I'm not a beach babe who wears a size two bikini with a DD cup, I have a hard time finding someone to even have a conversation with, much less date....ahhh, life at the beach....

[sundog]

11. I think

the worst part of being alone I think is the inability to share things, specifically, the good things.

Bad things can be endured alone, but a greater tragedy is to experience good things alone.

I think seeing good things with someone amplifies the experience...

[Robb]

8. Still waiting on that divorce...

...well, not waiting altogether. :evilgrin:

[sundog]

12. an :evilgrin: is always good

:evilgrin:

[Mikimouse]

10. In the process of divorcing...

Ask me again, much, much later, when I am rational again.

[sundog]

13. ok

perhaps I should have included a "f*ck off" option :):hi:

[Mikimouse]

14. Naw, not that drastic, but close...

I am just at the point of wondering about just how naive it is possible for me to be, after all these years. My soon to be ex has what she wanted, her permanent residency in the US, her son is in the process of getting his, got his education mostly at my expense, while living here free. On top of that, because someone had to support the 'family', I got behind with my dissertation. I'm not TOO bitter though. Hey, next time you're walking on the beach wave to a nice sunset for me, I always enjoyed that.:hi: :hippie:

[sundog]

16. Oh, I'm not on the beach

I'm in the New Mexico desert... cool sunset though...

[Mikimouse]

17. New Mexico is nice...

I love the area around Santa Fe and Taos, did the river raft thing in '95 and am hoping to do it again someday. I agree that desert sunsets are cool, I lived in Lubbock for 6 years and have lots of photos of the sunrises and sunsets.

[sundog]

18. Southern NM

is just an extension of West Texas -- it's basically the same -- only the Northern part of the state is liberal...

[Mikimouse]

19. Now yer scarin' me...

Let's see, I know people in Hobbs and the general vicinity of Hobbs. I also know people in Ruidoso (beautiful area). You're right, though, the southern part is * country, as is west Texas.

[Cybergata]

53. You know people in southeastern New Mexico

...hate to be referred to as being just like Texans.


To any Texan I've offended, I meant it like southern New Mexicans hate to be referred to as being just like Texans the way folks in Canada aren't thrilled with hearing Canada is just like the United States.

But...I do have an indirect ancestor who said, "oh poor New Mexico, so far from heaven, so close to Texas."....but I'm sure that doesn't help my apology to Texans any..... <bad girllll baddd girl> ;-)

:hippie:

[Cybergata]

39. Hi from Albuquerque....

to another New Mexican. If you live in the southern part of NM, vote for King. If you live near me, vote for Richard Romero (great guy.) If you live in the north, well I already know you are voting for Udall. I grew up in the north, but I am now forcing my liberalism on Central New Mexico. We just have to get rid of Domenici's lap puppy & George Bush's rubber stamp. Heather Wilson.

:hippie:

[sundog]

50. Heather Wilson is evil incarnate

ick! :puke:

I'm in Elephant Butte... I love kicking elephant butt :kick:

[Cybergata]

52. I'm not so sure she is evil,

but she is a sock puppet for Domenici. I always hated Domenici, but then I had a couple of his grandchildren as students who I really liked. It boggles the mind sometimes. I know that my student's mother, who is Domenici's daughter, changed her party affliction to Democrat, which probably has her dad tickled pink! ;-)

Yup, you're in King territory. Isn't the Republican House Rep from District 2 sort of a loon? At least that was what I heard while stuffing envelopes for Richard Romero.

:hippie:

[sundog]

57. It's a little sick here

even the so-called "Democrats" are doing the Repugs' biddings, it's a serious republican stronghold... bottom line is who's lining whose pockets... corrupt as hell...

[Kenneth ken]

21. gosh

66 votes and I'm still the only person happy to be single?

I must truly be a misanthrope.

:)

[sundog]

23. I feel really happy about it somedays,

but I also have a few shit days to balance things out...

[Kenneth ken]

25. I used to be like that

I don't have shit days any more; there are moments when I see attractive women that I get somewhat wistful, but it never lasts an hour, let a lone a whole day.

I just enjoy whatever little brief encounter I have with femmes and then be thankful I don't have to deal with them when they're cranky or irritable. :D

[tigereye]

28. sometimes you have to take the cranky and irritable

with the other stuff. That's how my so and I have managed to stay together so long.

[pink-o]

46. No, I'm with ya all the way!

Which is why I had to vote. All I've ever wanted in a relationship is respect for my feelings and judgements, and that's the only thing I haven't received. I hate when lovers say "You're being stupid", when what they should say is "I may not understand or agree with you, but I trust you, so knock yourself out".

I mean, really: how hard is that??????

Love fades. Passion wanes. Sex gets less frequent as reality intrudes on our lives.

But respect and trust are forever. When we're 90 years old and barely able to walk across the room or remember where we left our dentures, respect will still be there if someone truly values you!

[WindRavenX]

24. Broken hearted here

...it's been 9 days since the breakup. Still feel empty.
He call the other day...something tells me once I get back to Boston, he'll suddenly remember he loves me :eyes:
*sigh*. I still love that bastard...

[pagerbear]

26. Looking for love in all the wrong places

[sundog]

29. searchin for love in too many faces

:nopity: :hi:

[flamingyouth]

27. I'm surprised unrequited love scored so low here

:shrug:

[GOPisEvil]

30. Doesn't score low here, though.

:evilfrown:

[sundog]

32. that's ok

unrequited love is a terrible thing to have to endure -- like someone sticking a corkscrew in your belly... I'll do anything to avoid it... absolutely sucks...:hi:

[terrya]

31. I have a partner, but he's 416 miles away.

I'm happy, but could be MUCH happier.

[sundog]

38. I tried that once...

it sucked... too many distractions & apathy...

[truthspeaker]

33. Have a partner and am mostly happy about it.

Some doubts about her compatibility with me; some doubts about monogamy in general.

[SarahB]

34. I'd say b.

I could add a bit more, but the Greek tragedy that is my love life (or lack thereof) is better kept to myself.

[sundog]

36. SarahBelle!

You're back! I was worried about you... :bounce:

[SarahB]

37. Yeah, I couldn't even make it a week without DU.

How pitiful is that? I'm ok. I'll be ok. I just have to keep working, waiting, and dealing with what is my proverbial reality in life. :)

[chicaloca]

40. Single & damn happy about it

I've seen too many of my friends lose themselves in relationships by becoming whatever their partner wants to be, I've had too many people expect me to change (usually they want me to change physically and socially) and I just generally feel miserable in relationships. If I ever marry somebody, we'll live next door to each other so I don't get overwhelmed.

So yeah. Non-platonic love is worthless and damaging as far as I'm concerned. I love my friends, I love my family, I love my cats, I love my friends' cats and other pets, I love the city I live in -- why should I ruin all of that for somebody who will only stomp all over me?

[kitkatrose]

41. Single here.

It depends on the day how I feel about it. If anyone feels like rectifying my situation ;), I spend most of my time on DU. Now how sad is that?

[rbnyc]

42. My husband and I are more and more in love every day.

He is so beautiful and amazing. I'm really proud of him. We wake up smiling every day. I never thought this was possible.

[Cybergata]

43. Married, and planning on staying so...and my two cents worth...disjointed

though me 2cents may be....

The loneliest time of my life was while I was living with someone who just wasn't there emotionally any more....who spent all his time working....and the distance grew between us. I didn't even feel as lonely after we split up & I was living alone.

I actually do really well living alone, but I like male companionship, intimacy and sex. All of these had been lacking in my life, even while I lived with my EX-significant other.

I decided to just start meeting new people. I did it on line. I experience a broken heart...but just kept on meeting new people.

I finally met my husband. I wasn't looking for marriage, but my husband really wanted to be married. He's not perfect. I'm not perfect either.

Jim is my best friend, and I really like him. We are good for each other, and he is the cuddliest person I've ever known. We love each other more than we imagined we could, but for both of us, it took us a long time to get here.

:hippie:

[mvd]

44. Single and pretty sad about it

I'd love to look around more, but my employment situation is not good at all. I must concentrate on fixing that.

But until then, I have my celeb crushes. Biggest ones now are:

Katie Holmes (was at F 9/11 screening in London - good sign!)
Colleen Haskell
Alyssa Milano
Scarlett Johansson
Rachel Bilson
Natalie Portman
Jennifer Garner
Salma Hayek
Thandie Newton
Elisha Cuthbert
Eliza Dushku
Reese Witherspoon (secretive, but she donated to Hillary Clinton, so I guess she's on our side)
Ali Larter
Amanda Peet (now a confirmed Kerry suppporter!)
Jennifer Connelly
Kim Smith
Amy Acker
Amber Tamblyn (now a confirmed Kerry supporter!)
Keira Knightley
Sharon Case (plays Sharon on Young And The Restless)
Aubrey Dollar (ex-Marina - Guiding Light)
Melissa Archer (plays Natalie on One Life To Live)
Deborah Zoe (ex-Eden on Guiding Light)
Lindsey McKeon (ex-Marah, Guiding Light)
Lauren Woodland (plays Brittany on Y&R)
Ashley Jones (former Meg on Y&R)
Mandy Bruno (plays Marina on Guiding Light)
Michelle Branch
Bree Sharp (singer)
Andrea Corr

Honorable mentions:

Marisa Tomei
Jessica Jacobs (formerly Jessica Riddle - singer)
Holly (from Big Brother)
Lori (from Big Brother)
Rachael Leigh Cook

[mvd]

45. kick

interesting topic.

[sundog]

49. Thanks for the kick :)

Today, single life isn't bringing me down... We got a good summer rain & the whole desert has cooled down... All the bills are paid ... life is good :)

[Beaverhausen]

48. Broken hearted and lonely and sad

trying to recover.

doesn't help that I keep hanging out with the guy who broke my heart...thinking we will try again. Hope we can...not sure he's into it.

[sundog]

51. ok, don't be low...

have a drink or smoke or something tonight & lighten up & give thanks -- that's my plan at least :toast:

[Nikia]

54. I'm usually happy to be married

We are both introverted but need people. We are loyal and care deeply about those we care about. It helps to know that we have made a committment that is honored by society. We can expect to always have each other. In that way, monagamy works well for us.
On the otherhand, sometimes it is hard to share my life with another person completely. You just can't agree on things all the time and sometimes there is no solution that will make both of you happy. If you wish to be partnered or married you can't be selfish and expect the other person to make you happy all the time because it isn't like that.
Overall, I am glad to be married. We are great friends and enjoy each other.

[GiovanniC]

56. A Little Bit of "H", A Little Bit of "F"

n/t

[Reciprocity]

58. 27 years of marital bliss.

Have pity for my longsuffering husband.

[Dukkha]

59. Suffering from a broken heart BIG time

just happened Sunday night

The best woman I ever knew in my life. Blissfully happy without a single problem and totally in love. Then suddenly out of nowhere she wants some independence and I'm kicked to the curb. It Fucking SUCKS!
:cry:

[sundog]

60. Sorry man...

time for a drink, care to join me? Here's to moving on... :toast: