Okay, so here's the problem. Please give me the answer...?

[ScreamingMeemie]

We have planned a long weekend trip with our children for August 13-16th. My brother in law has decided to buy a house, is closing on it and has told us they are moving this same weekend. MrG wants to chuck in the weekend for a later date. I (and I'm being whiny as I say this) think that OUR little family should come first. That bro in law will be fine with friends and other family members that haven't planned vacations. Laugh at me now, because we actually had quite a row over this...

So, if you were me (horrors!!!), what would you do?

Would you swallow your anger and cancel the reservations and see if more can be made for a different date? This is a hot spot travel area in MI so that's not necessarily a go.

Or, would you dig in for the long haul and continue to be emphatic about not changing the date?

For some reason, I am feeling like I am being bitchy about this, but then the other voice in my head comes along and tells me I'm not...

Ahhhh...decisions.

Thanks in advance.
Laura

On edit: I may or may not being going to bed soon. We've agreed so far to sleep on it and see if either of us feels better about it in the AM. I'll check in to see what you all think then. :hi:

[northzax]

1. gee, sorry

we've had this vacation planned for a long time. Good luck on the move and let us know if there is anything we can do to help you when we get back.

[ScreamingMeemie]

3. This is what I was thinking...

I even asked MrG if he thought his brother would throw a vacation away for him...he already has gone on vacations when we were moving. MrG can be too nice sometimes. I mean if bro in law were having open heart surgery...well then, that would be different.

Thanks for your input! :hi:

[bahrbearian]

2. Go on vacation and let MrG help his brother.

[ScreamingMeemie]

4. We have both threatened to not go...

We are not being very mature tonight, are we?? ;)

[silverlib]

5. Help the weekend after you get back...

There's always plenty to do the next weekend. I'm thinking, though, that if your husband will be grumpy on this long weekend outing, it may not be worth it.

[ScreamingMeemie]

13. Today my sister in law came over and I offered to help her pack up

in the weeks before the move. Hopefully that will pacify the grumpier one. ;) Thanks!

[Carni]

6. I would continue to bitch and go on the vaca

Speaking as a person that has been used by certain in laws for 15 years only to be treated like crap in return when I developed a spine and stopped kissing their butts...

I would say to the hubby, have fun with the bro in law but the kids and I are going on the vaca.

A good relationship with in-laws is all fine and good but if you're mad now you will be even more annoyed later.

[ScreamingMeemie]

14. Yes. this is my fear...and my tongue is already hurting badly from

biting it so much...Thanks!

:hi:

[Interrobang]

7. What Northzax said.

Your brother in law can get movers and the rest of the family can help. Enjoy your vacation.

[ScreamingMeemie]

15. They are trying to do things cheaply...i.e. use everyone else's backs

and vehicles. I think doing things cheaply would be not moving into a house that's a little over your head, but then that's me...:hi:

Thanks for you input. I appreciate it!

[agates]

8. Offer to help the weekend before

You can bring packing boxes, help pack, watch their kids so they can sort and pack, etc. Don't cancel your vacation. Good luck.

[ScreamingMeemie]

17. Thank you agates! I told my sister in law today that I would help her

pack...and then unpack afterwards. We'll see what happens when MrG comes home.

Thanks!

:hi:

[Kenneth ken]

9. vacation is a good thing

even if it's just a short one.

Tell MrG that if he will handle changing the current arrangements, and can get the vacation scheduled for a (good) different time at the same place, etc. then you're willing to postpone the trip.

But why should you be the one to change the arrangements when he is the one who wants it done?

:hi:

[ScreamingMeemie]

18. Great idea Ken! Thanks so much. I am sure he's not going to be

willing to do this, so maybe he'll stick with the original plans.

:hi:

[DS1]

10. There shouldn't be anything that 3 dudes can't lift between them

Go on vacation

[ScreamingMeemie]

19. Thank you DS1! We spend a lot of our time doing for them, which

I don't normally mind, but it's crimping my family time this time so I'm irritated.

Thanks again. :hi:

[jpgray]

11. Well, if you can reschedule one, why not do so?

If you can't, then go to the one that was planned first, or the one that is most important to you.

[ScreamingMeemie]

20. Thanks jpgray. I just can't decide whether to continue what seems

like a silly argument today or not...Sigh. :hi:

[YellowRubberDuckie]

12. I'd feel the same way.

Vacations bring families together. And at least once a year reminds you why you love each other and why you can't stand each other. Don't put it off. Tell him he's going with you, his brother can handle it with his friends. You're not wrong about this.
Duckie

[ScreamingMeemie]

21. Thank you Duckie! I really needed to hear that. My son is already

heartbroken that his cousin isn't going. My idea was to ask them if we could take their kids with us thereby leaving them free to do what they have to and their kids able to enjoy the vacation.

Thanks again!! :hi:

[YellowRubberDuckie]

25. We never got to go on vacations when we were kids...

And I've always thought I've missed out on something. I think it's wonderful you take your kids to interesting places in the summer. Even if it is just an hour or so away, the kids will remember it for the rest of their lives.
Duckie

[GOPisEvil]

16. Did you plan this trip before the BIL bought this house?

First come, first serve. :D

[ScreamingMeemie]

22. Yes! And those are my feelings too. They just bought the house

yesterday, after selling theirs the same day. I just don't think my kids should be penalized.

Thanks GOP!!! :hi:

[sbj405]

23. I say go on vacation. It was planned

before they bought the house. If your moving help was so crucial, they would have planned to move a different weekend.

Also, where are you going? Just curious, I grew up in MI.

[ScreamingMeemie]

24. To Mackinac Island and the forts. My son's been dying to go and

we haven't gone in years. :hi: