Proper way to list a married couple of the same gender?

[Tweed]

Now that gay marriage has become legal in some states, how would they legally be listed? Mr. & Mr. Steven Edwards? Or would you just keep Mr. Steven Edwards & Mr. John Smith? I'm making out address labels from names people have given me and I haven't found a gay couple, but I thought I did for a second when I came across Dale & Steve.

[Caution]

1. Mr. Steven Edwards & Mr. John Smith

always best to err on the side of caution.

You could also include a small not asking how they would like to be addressed in future mailings.

[Magrittes Pipe]

2. How about you ask the couple what they want?

After all, not all straight spouses want to be addressed the same way; I can't imagine our gay friends are all that different.

[Tweed]

4. It has nothing to do with this mailing actually, I was just curious

I always go by what people give me or don't use a title at all. I was just curious if anyone knew what some of the recently married couples were doing.

[Worst Username Ever]

3. It depends if they have the same last name.

Two men with the same last name should be introduced as "Misters John and Patrick Smith." If they have two last names, it is just "Mr. John Smith and Mr. Patrick Jacobson." If it is two women, and they have the same last name, the plural version of Mrs. is "Mes Dames Janette and Patricia Smith." Sometimes women prefer to keep Ms. instead of Mrs, so "Mrs Janette Smith and Ms. Patricia Jacobson" would be fine too.

[C_eh_N_eh_D_eh]

6. It's "Messrs.", not "Misters".

Pronounced "messers", it's short for the French "messieurs".

[eyesroll]

5. Miss Manners actually addressed this recently

http://www.jsonline.com/lifestyle/advice/jul04/245009.asp

The act of marriage does not change people's genders, and it may or may not change their names. Two gentlemen who marry would therefore each be addressed by his full name with the appropriate honorific (Mr., Dr., Colonel) unless they take the same surname, in which case they would be addressed jointly as, for example, "The Messrs. William and Harry Fitzgibbon."

Similarly, two ladies would be addressed as "Mesdames Emily and Lucia March," but if they had different surnames they would be addressed individually with the title each holds or prefers, if you know it, and "Ms." if you don't.