CanuckAmok
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Wed Jul-28-04 11:53 PM
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Tomorrow is a big, sad anniversary for me... |
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I don't believe in numerology, but July 29th is a very significant day for me, and I'm kind of dreading it more than usual this year.
Get a load of these events:
Birthday of a close friend killed a few years ago.
My wedding anniversary.
The day my Mother-in-Law died of Breast Cancer.
The day my wife's addiction began.
All were on different years, except for the wedding/Mother-in-Law anniversaries (we were married in her paliative care room).
I hate July 29th.
It's a day I should stay under the covers with a bottle of Amaretto.
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Wed Jul-28-04 11:55 PM
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Sorry to hear. I would just stay home and watch the DNC.
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Wed Jul-28-04 11:55 PM
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2. palliative care room at home? |
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Wed Jul-28-04 11:55 PM
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It was surreal. 'nuff said.
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Thu Jul-29-04 12:08 AM
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a friend of mine was married by a midget (err little person) and he wondered why the marriage didn't last a year.
(just trying to make you laugh...celebrate..you are a survivor!)
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Thu Jul-29-04 12:09 AM
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5. Oh, come on...that was a dream sequence! It didn't really happen. |
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Thu Jul-29-04 12:24 AM
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there was that whole apple thing going on!
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Thu Jul-29-04 12:13 AM
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8. Oh, man, I've been to a wedding worse than that.... |
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My best friend from college got married about 16 years ago. The day before the wedding, he and his fiance drove to his hometown and she met his parents for the first time. They had a great day, talked, fixed food for the very small wedding planned (total family and friends about 10 people). And went to bed.
His mother died in her sleep that night-heart attack. She was 52, with no history of heart trouble. They decided to go on with the wedding and it was totally nightmarish. Everybody was crying, there was no joy anywhere. His dad, a retired federal marshall and one of the most intimidating men I've ever known was sobbing throughout the ceremony. His five friends present all returned that night to the family visitation at the funeral home.
Dear God, I hope I never experience anything like that again.
Surreal is the word.
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CanuckAmok
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Thu Jul-29-04 12:17 AM
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at least in my case, we all knew it was coming.
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Thu Jul-29-04 12:39 AM
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I felt like I had entered the twilight zone. We all knew and loved his mom. Jeri was very funny and loved dirty jokes, but looked the essense of a southern lady. Smoked like a fiend and loved to fuck with her son's friends heads. She was a really neat person, and my friend was her only child, which made it just that much worse.
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Thu Jul-29-04 12:49 AM
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15. When I was in high school, a teacher's daughter was getting married. |
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after the wedding, everyone went to the reception place to wait for them after the pictures.. It got late and they did not arrive.. This was before cell phones.,
The Dad called the church to see what was taking so long, and the priest asked where he was.. and to stay put..
He came to them to tell them that the daughter and her new husband were hit by a train and killed a block away from the church.. The priest did not know where the reception was being held, and he was waiting there for someone to call..
They were married for less than 2 hours..:(
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Thu Jul-29-04 12:55 AM
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16. My God! What a nightmare.... |
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Sometimes life can be very cruel.
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Thu Jul-29-04 02:10 AM
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Reading that was tough. Jeezuz, life can be such a fawking joke sometimes :(
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Thu Jul-29-04 12:14 AM
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I thought you said you were married at home. My mistake.
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Thu Jul-29-04 12:16 AM
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10. Our legal marriage was in the hospital room... |
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Edited on Thu Jul-29-04 12:21 AM by CanuckAmok
...and her Mom died about an hour afterwards. Obviously it was no time for a reception (despite having about 60 guests in the hospital), so we had the 'real' reception in September, at home, and had the same Marriage Commissioner "re-marry" us.
on edit: we were originally planning a September wedding, but the oncologist said her Mom wouldn't last until then, so we pulled it up as much as we could. We were lucky to have done it just before she died...it was her biggest wish, to see her daughter married. The 'real' reception was on the originally scheduled wedding day.
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Thu Jul-29-04 12:40 AM
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14. Actually, your story is as bad as my friends... |
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I'm so glad she was at least able to die happy.
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Thu Jul-29-04 12:10 AM
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I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. Anniversaries like this are rough. Thanks for everything.:hug:
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Thu Jul-29-04 12:11 AM
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7. Thanks, FY! I'll have a spoonful of your patented slurry tomorrow... |
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...that'll cure what ails me!
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Thu Jul-29-04 02:08 AM
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17. I keep thinking about August 21 |
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my dad would have been 70 years old; he killed himself at age 50.
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Thu Jul-29-04 11:50 PM
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thinking about you toots....tonight was a great night! did you fare ok?
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Fri Jul-30-04 12:01 AM
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Edited on Fri Jul-30-04 12:02 AM by Pithlet
That's a lot of stuff for one day. Definitely stay in bed, and if you have a laptop, spend some time at DU to get your mind off stuff. It's only 24 hours, and after you get past it, it will be okay.
Edit: oops, I'm off a day. I see you've already been through it. I hope you're feeling better.
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Fri Jul-30-04 12:21 AM
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sorry I gave you a bad time last night. Guess I'm in a grumpy phase. --GB
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Fri Jul-30-04 12:22 AM
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22. How are you doing tonight? |
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