Do you talk to people about your sex life?

[ringmastery]

close friends, family, co-workers, anyone you meet, or is it all private and you tell nobody?

[clydefrand]

1. Private

Well, it used to be anyway. Now it's nonexistent. :-(

[Skittles]

17. get out there already, clyde

what are you waiting for?

[jukes]

2. her

but i'm not always sure she's listening.

[kixot]

3. I have an old friend from many years back who is also married.

His wife is actually into the Dom scene so they are open minded and non-judgemental. I'll talk to him about our sex life and he'll talk to me about his. We will also sometimes discuss things like that with our wives present and they will add their two cents as well. I think it's healthy and a good way to keep check of my own relationship.

[MASSAFRA]

4. I lie about it.

[JVS]

5. No.

[realisticphish]

6. sure i do!

here we go.............................................
*crickets*
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*tumbleweed*
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:hippie: The Incorrigible Democrat

[mongo]

7. I do - with one close friend but complete strangers tell me

about their sex lives.

[eyesroll]

10. That used to happen to me, too -- but I was a high-school teacher

and my students (and sometimes students I didn't know -- I was 22, very close to their age, and I guess they felt comfortable) were talking to me about sex and I was totally unprepared for it.

I made it clear early on I wasn't going to answer any "have you ever" questions; beyond that, I told them I wasn't a sex educator, health expert or what have you but I'd do what I can to make sure they got the resources they needed (Planned Parenthood, counselor, social services if necessary).

Questions were usually along the I-think-I'm-pregnant variety, but sometimes they were much more, um, personal, and frankly reflected the need for good sex ed ("can you get pregnant if he comes on the outside of your underwear?" "Am I a slut if I blew two guys last night?" Yes, they were that blunt).

[mongo]

18. I get lots of folks looking for erectile enhancement

Both men and women (for their man). That is probably my biggest question. That and premature ejaculation.

Women will come in and want tips to spark the interest of their man.

And of course the "what's this for?" (insert random toy here)

All in all, it's lots of fun. Anyone with a serious medical question gets referred to my wife (as well as for corset fittings).

I also get propositioned every once in a while - usually for a three-some with a girl and another guy. It's quite flattering actually.

A lot of people want to vent about problems with their partner too.

[eyesroll]

19. I very thankfully never got propositioned for a threesome...

I did once get hit on by a student, but I'm 100% positive he was trying to creep me out rather than actually hit on me. (He ended up in jail a few years later, for running a crack house.)

[mongo]

21. I always respectfully decline...

I kinda have to know someone just a little bit before I jump into bed with them.

Call me old fashoned...

[eyesroll]

8. Depends

I discuss different things with different people.

On one end of the spectrum is most of my family and my co-workers. They really don't need to know anything, and they don't. Most of my friends and I are pretty non-sex-talk-oriented, beyond health issues.

In the middle -- My younger sister and I will talk about her exes, mostly, and she might ask me a not-too-personal (health, high-school experience, that sort of thing) question; my cousin and I (same age, both female, both married, so we've got that in common) will discuss marriage/monogamy/sexual identity-type issues, she's also trying to conceive so there's that.

On the other end of the spectrum, there's the not-really-anonymity of DU where I've talked about my experiences with the female condom, my what-I-refuse-to-call-bicuriosity-but-that's-probably-accurate-whatever, losing my virginity, etc.

And my gay e-mail friend who lives in Florida (I live in WIsconsin) and I will talk about just about anything except female-specific sexual-health issues (because, frankly, he's kinda repulsed by menstruation, whereas I'm unfazed by anything).

[Stew225]

9. I only discuss it with my imaginary friend

Mr. Bobo.

[ContraBass Black]

11. Nope

Don't have one to talk about. :)

[clydefrand]

12. I know what you mean!

[SOteric]

13. I'm very private. Always have been.

But life experiences have definitely reinforced for me the value of keeping your personal life on the down-lo.

[jdonaldball]

14. No, obituaries bore my friends

[fortyfeetunder]

15. I got asked but never told

The spouse is considerably taller than I was so... got asked about size correlations (KWIM)?...and I gave a non-committal answer, don't know, had nothing to compare it to. The questions ceased.

[eyesroll]

16. My grandmother once asked me if, when my then-boyfriend (now husband)

kissed me goodnight (he's a foot taller than I am), do I need to stand on a step, or does he bend over?

I so, so wanted to answer, "actually, he just kisses me and then we roll over and go to sleep," but the poor woman was 76 and cancer-stricken, so I just gave a pat answer.

That is the extent to which I have discussed my sex life with my family.

[Kat45]

20. Depends on the people.

I talk about it with some friends, generally not going into details. Other friends don't like to talk about sex at all. But I do have a gay friend with whom I compare notes. :D

[Aftershock]

22. What sex life?

It's been sex-free for a few months now! :cry:

But yes, when I do have a sex life, I talk to my buds about it.

[Nevernose]

23. Beat me to it.

[supernova]

24. No not usually

but it's pretty nonexistent right now anyway. :shrug:

[SarahB]

25. It used to be never.

I have talked to a few people about some things because there were issues I needed to figure out. They never violated my confidence and I appreciate that. Specifics, the really nitty gritty specifics and the emotions that belong with them belong only to those I would would choose to be intimate with. I wouldn't divulge those kinds of personal details about any man either. Sometimes I have talked about my life here, but there I so many things I do not talk about. Some things are so private that it would violate way too much.

[bigwillq]

26. Mostly just to close friends

but if I'm out in the bar or somewhere like that, I will talk about certain experiences.

[CandyCrim21]

27. It depends.....

on a few things. It depends on the the conversation in which the topic is brought up and who your talking to. Well for me anyway. If its someone I trust and they're asking me, "has this ever happened", or "have you ever....," or "tell me if this is weird..." LOL J/k. But seriously, I don't think most people just randomly walk up to someone and say, "yeah, so I had sex last night and it was weird and creepy and distant, SO how bout the rain today huh?! LOL" LOL Unless maybe your Will Ferrell. LOL SO I think it really depends on the situation. ;)

[BiggJawn]

28. Nothing to talk about...

Menopause and stress are a bitch.

Fuck you very much a BUTTLOAD, for the STRESS, Dumbya!

[Maestro]

29. !

No, because I don't what them or me to have a case of

[LynzM]

30. Yes and no, depending on the people

I have a couple of very good friends who I talk with fairly regularly about anything and everything to do with sex, and relationships. They are male and I am female, which makes for a nice sharing of opposite perspectives. I also have a pretty big online group of female friends in a private chat forum, and we will sometimes talk about sex, but not very much... other than that, I don't talk about it much.

[matcom]

31. you SURE you wanna ask ME this question?

:D

[VelmaD]

32. Depends on the person, the situation, and the topic

I've shared some things about my sex life with everyone on DU. There are close friends who know more of the details. There are even a couple of people who know nearly everything and let me tell ya it's nice to have someone you trust enough to talk about the gory details with. But there are a few things that I keep completely to myself because that's just who I am...I don't trust anyone completely.

[Misunderestimator]

33. I talk to one person about my sex life...

of course she also gets to experience it :evilgrin:

[clyrc]

34. I used to

then I moved to a Muslim country populated with lots of British, and it doesn't seem to be the done thing. I think about talking about it, though. I fantasize about shocking people.

[RetroLounge]

35. Only the really sick and perverted portions of it

What do ya wanna know?

RL

[TrogL]

36. Do not talk to co-workers about sex

Your office should have a sexual harassment policy.

Enforce it.

[Ellen Forradalom]

37. Lately I've talked about it with my ex-husband (!)

who remains a very good friend. I figure he knows all that stuff about me, and he's a very good sounding board when I have problems.

[Khephra]

38. What do you want to know?

[Samurai_Writer]

39. only people I plan to have sex with...

or people I've already had sex with. Other than that, it's nobody else's damned business.