If a good friend, parent of a 17 year old, wanted to bring the kid over

[Rowdyboy]

to smoke a joint what would be your reaction? Keep in mind, the parents indulge, they've known for years that the boy indulges, and apparently everyone involved is now comfortable with the situation. They're from out of town and we only get a chance to see them every month of so. They are VERY close friends.

Your response?

[JohnKleeb]

1. well I guess

I drank with my dad and his brothers before he quit a couple of times.

[Rowdyboy]

2. Good answer, John, so did I...

Many times. I've added that as an answer to the poll.

[JohnKleeb]

8. Yeah

I know this sounds weird but me and my dad also look at girls together but I tell the guy, hey Da I wanna do it alone ok heh. I dont think its a big deal but I think the kid would prefer to do it with friends, after all I prefer looking at girls with friends instead of with Dad, but you know, its best that the parents know what hes doing instead of not knowing, I actually asked my dad when he drank if I could get some alcohol, I also ask him for porn and etc, its a weird tactic but if your dad is like mine, 9 times out of 10 it works.

[Momof1]

3. Hmmm,

When I was younger, around the age of 17 or 18. It was not uncommon for me to be places with grandmothers, parents (not my parents though)...etc.

But we are talking about life long friends. And they are still life long friends.

Some of my friends growing up had parents in vietnam. So to each his own.

But when my 4 yr old is 17. I will throw her out of the house. Ground her butt for life. And take away her car. But I have 13 more years to think about that.

[Must_B_Free]

4. I say no

You have to set the precedent to not break laws.

[aquart]

5. What is frightening is if it's the 17 year old's choice.

Don't ask.

[Rowdyboy]

7. Oh, I know it is his choice....

Why would he want to stay at grandma's when he can come over here and get high?

[HamHocks4Kerry]

6. It's just pot. It's not cocaine or meth.

What can it hurt?

[Rowdyboy]

9. See, I know that way too well...

I've been guilty for over 30 years. I just feel funny about being around a kid.

I have another friend, 50 and gay, with a 20 year old boyfriend so I guess I'm just oversensitive.

[in_cog_ni_to]

10. Hmmmm. I'm not sure.

Personally, I would be uncomfortable, with him being a minor and pot being illegal. Don't get me wrong. I USE to "indulge" myself so, being a prude isn't my problem. I LOVED it. :smoke:

Here's a story that is kinda "opposite" of your dilema.

Back in the late 70's or early 80's my ex-husband's DAD asked us if he could smoke a joint with us! I kid you not. He liked it so much, he started his own pot garden. He lived on a secluded farm, planted his pot seeds and had his own stash. LOL! I remember going over to visit and he would take us out to a barn where he had harvested his crop and had a TON of it hanging upside down to dry. It was quite funny! He was in his late 50's at the time and had found a fun new hobbie...growing Maryjane!

Anyway, if "I" were you? I would follow my gut. Are you comfortable with it? If so, smoke away. If not, I wouldn't do it. As for me? I would feel uneasy for the reasons I stated above. :hippie:

[TiredTexan]

11. I hate to be a party pooper,

but as a lawyer I'd really warn you that doing this can (and more often than you can imagine, does) have serious criminal and civil implications. As an initial matter, there is no comparison, criminally, to a parent allowing his/her child to sample alcohol under their supervision, to allowing someone else's minor child to use an illegal substance in your home. And, aside from the criminal implications, there are dram shop laws in many states that allow suits against hosts for civil liability in the event that something goes wrong.

As an in-house coverage attorney for an insurance company that sells both homeowners and auto insurance, I see cases like this everyday. You would not believe the numerous ways this situation, seemingly harmless, can go very, very wrong. I was recently referred a claim for a coverage opinion where a parent allowed her son and a friend to drink alcohol and marijuana while she supervised them. She felt they would be safer to try out these substances at home with careful supervision. After they went to sleep, she went to bed, and they got up and took the car keys. They were involved in a serious accident, killing 3 out of 4 members of a family on vacation. She pled guilty to manslaughter, and received a three year sentence. She was also sued for civil liability by the surviving family member, and we, as her insurance company, had to defend her for negligent supervision under her homeowners policy. I don't know the outcome of the case because I am only called in to render specific coverage advise on a particular problem, but at the time I saw the case, the Plaintiffs had refused our offer of the $300,000 limit of her homeowners policy. They wanted her home and her retirement, etc., and they are likely to get everything which was substantial as she was a sucessful professional.

In other words, anything your friend's child does after he smokes marijuana in your home can be your responsibility both criminally and civilly. I would never risk this.

[Rowdyboy]

13. They're here now...Thankfully, no kid with them

Dodged the bullet this time.

[mitchum]

12. Don't do it...

my wife's niece is visiting for the weekend. I know that she smokes, but I have still been sneaking off to get high.
The consequences are much more severe (for the adult) than they were when I (and presumably you) were young

[Rowdyboy]

14. Thankfully, it didn't happen...

[Rowdyboy]

15. Turns out the boy is nearly 19....

I'm still glad he didn't come.

[JohnKleeb]

16. if youre gonna smoke weed

do it with someone your own age :silly:.