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I'm sure he'd like them more if I went along but I can't do that. (I've got Asperger's syndrome, so I actually need to not socialize.)
He does need to get out more than I can. I tried for two years to get out as much as he needed, and it made me suicidal. After I gave up and we stayed in together, he got depressed and then he started having nightmares. Bad ones. The first time I thought he had hurt himself, but he was lying there completely out, howling as if in pain. Once when I woke him, he turned on me with his lips drawn back, growling, clearly not realizing it was me. "Sweetie, it's Mommy!" I gasped. Whether his nose or his ears informed him first, I don't know, but he was instantly my sweet boy again.
The nightmares disappeared shortly after he started the program. About the same time, another woman in the program (a retired teacher) started taking him to a local park, where he can play at least with her dog and usually with a whole bunch of dogs.
Except for his trips to socialize and my infrequent errands, we're together. I telecommute, and he's with me all day every day. At least every evening (sometimes more often) we have a rousing game of "KILL THE CHICKEN!" (Not a real chicken, of course.)
Trust me, if the trips out were making him less happy, I wouldn't do them. As I told the program, yes, I'm glad they're grateful to have him, but as far as I'm concerned, this is not altruism on my part: it's a needed social outlet for my dog. The program is very concerned not to overstress him, so all his handlers have been briefed on (and one has experience with) signs of stress in dogs. I've watched for any hesitation to go with his handlers, but last week he nearly dragged me down the stairs to get to them.
Cockers are the best, aren't they? Even at the times we've been struggling to find a way that worked for both of us, I've been glad to have him, although I have wondered if I was doing the right thing by him in keeping him and not giving him to someone who would keep him in a more social environment. I kept him mostly because I know that I am in a position to put him first; in another home someone might have to choose between their human child and him, and he'd undoubtedly lose out. No doubt but he's good for me.
Don't worry: if he really hates the costume, I won't make him wear it. I'll give it a trial run by taking him to our local UPS Store--they're dog friendly and whenever I have something to photocopy or mail, I take him along. If he hates it after everyone there has cooed over him, then I'll just tell his handler it made him miserable and put on his bat bandana instead.
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