Childless DU ladies! Want to make sure you NEVER have a baby? Come on in!

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

Get comfy....here's a story that'll have you NEVER forgetting a pill again!

I was nine months pregnant on December 2, 1994. Started having horrific contractions so husband took me to the hospital where they gave me a pill (what was it? I didn't care) and told me I was dehydrated. Sent me home. But not before I vomited back up the pill on the nurses feet.

Went home. Rolled on the bed, begging someone, anyone to take the pain away. Threw up three more times.

This went on all night. Husband fell asleep on the couch (he had been working 18 hour days). I threw pillows at his head. I was mad. I was miserable. The pain was intolerable.

Finally at 7 am, we thought we'd try again (this is 12 hours later).

They checked me, said I could stay. I threw up some more. They put in an IV and gave me an epidural.

WHICH DIDN'T TAKE. I had pain relief for about six or seven minutes. Tops.

The nurse came in and said "you shouldn't be feeling that much pain." When we realized it didn't take, I started to cry out of frustration. Plus I had been up more than 24 hours at that point.

During one contraction, I thought I had the washrag in my hand and I bit down on it. It was my husband's hand. I broke the skin and it was deep. He had to go to the ER for stitches and he still has a scar there (who said the guy doesn't feel anything?).

I told one of my nurses she looked just like Oprah, who was thin at that time. The nurse beamed, said thank you and I added "no, BEFORE she lost the weight." I apparently get amazingly honest when in pain.

At 12 pm (labor now 25 hours long, I have been up for 31 hours), I am in transition, the hardest, worst part. This is when you go from 7 to 10 centimeters. I am so exhausted that I literally lose consciousness between contractions, which means I am in excrutiating pain for about 30-45 seconds, then I pass out for about the same amount of time. Over and over and over again.

Finally, after an hour of this, the doctor arrives. Now, he's been in before, setting up lawn chairs, popping popcorn, selling tickets. "Everyone wanna get a look?" ;)

He sticks his arm in me up to his elbow and announces I can push now.

I'm relieved, at least I can do something besides lie there in pain. I push for thirty minutes, it accomplishes nothing. The head doctor comes in, watches me push, slaps the inside of my thigh and says "she's not pushing right, she's got 30 more minutes, then it's a c-section."

I look up and say "do it NOW" and my husband says "no!" and the nurses say no you've gone through too much. I tell them I don't care if they get her out my nostril at this point just GET. HER. OUT.

They become my personal cheering squad and the Oprah nurse tells me some hints as to how to "push right." That does it. They soon see my daughter's carrot red hair. They're jumping up and down like I'm scoring a touchdown and one nurse runs out to tell the doctor, who is in the hallway watching a football game and EATING FRIED CHICKEN.

The nurses are so excited, they start pushing my bed out the door to take me to the delivery room. They fail to tell me to take my hands off the rails of the bed, as it will not fit through with hands there. She rams the bed into the doorframe and my fingers are totally smushed. She freaks out and, instead of going backwards, tries to push it harder FORWARD to get my hands unwedged. OY VEY! I can't even breathe I'm in such pain. Please remember there's a HEAD between my LEGS. My husband reported her eyes were open and she was squinting at the inside of my thigh.

They pull the bed backwards and get my fingers free. I hiss "that's one way of getting me to forget the pain!" They immediately start to turn purple and puff up. When they wheel me in the delivery room, the doctor says "what happened to her hands?" The nurse doesn't answer. A medic asks me to "hop up here" onto a bed that is considerably higher. I look at him incredulously. I had a HEAD between my legs and totally fucked up injured hands and he wanted me to "hop up here???" He realized the folly of what he said and got three other medics to lift me up on the count of three. Oh yes, childbirth is so dignified. Indeed.

Once up, my daughter made a very fast appearance. The dr didn't have enough time to don gloves, he just caught her. Nothing is set up, they thought I was going to be a c-section (I had four minutes to spare).

She kicked me one last time on the way out, hard. That little body hurts way more than the head. I had zero drugs. She weighed nine pounds.

I even left out the really gross stuff.

Did that work for anyone who was tempted to have a baby? I couldn't walk or sit right for days.

[greatauntoftriplets]

1. All I can say is....

...that the triplets' mother was up and moving (very gingerly) the next day. She was swollen like hell and had spent from early July - late October off her feet. Also had a C-section.

I think her experience was great compared with yours.

[Dem Agog]

2. To quote another DU'er from another thread a few days ago...

Your post just made my tubes tie themselves.

Thanks!

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

3. Wow y'all read FAST!!!

LOL!

Glad to be of service.

You'll note I had ONE child.

[tjdee]

19. Same here.

I threw out that book "What to Expect when you're expecting".

It should be called "What else will suck this month."

I would have to be on some serious long term drugs to get pregnant again. I do wish little tjdee had some siblings though. :(

And little tjdee rocks.

[Kathy in Cambridge]

5. Me too-I'll sick to dogs and cats!

:scared:

[SemiCharmedQuark]

4. That literally made me shudder.

I never ever want to have kids! I salute you and all other mothers out there.

[pagerbear]

6. That does it!

I will never, ever give birth! You can't make me!

And how is little Moonbeam? :hi:

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

9. Hee hee

Little Moonbeam will be ten years old in a few weeks. That story is a decade old.

Thanks for asking, she is a great kid. Here's a pic:

[SemiCharmedQuark]

11. Aw, she's so beautiful!

I love the freckles! Tell her to enjoy it while it lasts...I remember my 10th birthday...childhood rocks. Eleven years later and I have bills to worry about. Bills suck!

[BlueJazz]

13. Owwww. Isn't she Beautiful ?

[Dookus]

14. wow...

she looks JUST like my favorite niece, Morgan.

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

17. Aw

thanks to you three....sorry the picture's so big, I can't figure out how to resize them from photobucket.

Both me and Mr. had freckles as kids so she was doomed in that department. She hates them but we are helping her make peace with them.

[traco]

47. Tell her that her freckles are marks that show

where she was kissed by angels.

[Old and In the Way]

23. Love those freckles and a great smile!

I see a little hell-raiser twinkle in those eyes.....

:-)

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

24. Ah you read eyes well

she IS a little hell-raiser and has been since birth.

See my mother in law placed a curse on my husband when he was just a wee thing. She said "may you have a child EXACTLY like you."

It worked.

[thedailyshow]

26. looks like she's got freckles!

great kid you've got there.

[radwriter0555]

58. Is that the beautiful baby that gop nazi was messing with? Let's kill

him.

I'll hold him down, you kick him to bits.

Your story is HYSTERICAL, I was laughing out loud. I'm SO SO SORRY they beat you up so badly... 9 LBS????? dang.

Glad you got that thing outta there! And look how BEE YOOOOO TEEE FULL she is!

lucky gals.

[Goldmund]

7. Ugh...

...if I ever decide to have a baby, I'll definitely ask the woman to do it. I couldn't go through that, no way.

[SheilaT]

8. No man would

manage to make it through even the world's easiest birth, let alone one like this.

It's why men are so afraid of us. Women have been surviving childbirth every since Eve (or whoever the first human female was) and many go on to have more children. We truly can endure anything.

[politicat]

15. which just reminds me of one of my favorite pro choice statements....

If men bore children, abortion would be a sacrament.

Thanks, Moonbeam, for reminding me to make my annual appointment for the ritual frustration dance, AKA, Pcat tries to convince her doctor that she doesn't want to have a child and wants her wires snipped. Fortunately, our insurance changed, so I can now use the very feminist women's health center....

Pcat

[Old and In the Way]

21. If men had to go through it.....

the species would have been extinct a long time ago. I'm into pain avoidance.

:-)

[Lydia Leftcoast]

30. If men and women had to take turns bearing children

no one would have more than one child.

[Old and In the Way]

45. Good one.

I think we said the same thing...2 different ways.

:-)

[ContraBass Black]

10. If I ever have a child,

I will look my wife in the eyes and say, "Congratulations. You have just proven yourself stronger than I will ever be."

[RebelYell]

12. You're a great writer

I was right there with you.

I was 15 when my youngest brother was born. My mom had a difficult time too, she was 38 at the time.

I have dogs instead of children. There was no pain involved with puppies. :)

[Carla in Ca]

29. Me, too. My husband and I are in a Beagle rescue network.

Moonbeam, your story was great, thanks for sharing.

[tjdee]

16. And EVERYONE sees you naked. EVERYONE.

You have to go to the bathroom? Take your IV, and your gown with your ass hanging out all the way over there. If your nurse is there, she will insist on helping you even though you don't need it.

Then your feet are in the stirrups and no less than THREE STRANGERS put their hands up your private parts. They're all very nice, but when I was making the baby I didn't realize my private parts would be public property after that point! Then they leave you all hanging out there for the world until you say uh, are you done?

So if I was sensitive about my whole body hanging out there, that cured it. Now when I go out totally clothed, it is an act of kindness as opposed to being nervous and squeamish about it. :)

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

20. Yep

you don't even care after a while. Hey come on in! I think that guy in the hallway hasn't seen my cooter yet, hey wanna see?

Yeah, it's about like that. I left out that a group of residents came by to see a patient in labor and all seven of them got to get an eyeful.

And while the doctor was sewing me up after she was born (I tore pretty badly, as can be expected with a nine pounder), it was rather awkward. I kept expecting to see him break the thread with his teeth like seamstresses do.

I said "So. What's the weather like?" He laughed.

[tjdee]

25. THE STITCHING! THE STITCHING!!!

Holy moly by far the worst thing was the episiotomy.

Going to the bathroom was an event. For weeks!

The sitz baths. The Tucks pads.

EWW.

And all men have to do to get a kid is have an orgasm. Geez Louise.

Your experience sounds like a barrel of fun--was the pregnancy the same??

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

27. The pregnancy actually wasn't bad

but then again, I was a youngun, only 23. I had no nausea or vomiting (probably could have used it though, I gained a bit too much) and I am tall so I could handle carrying around such a giant baby. I was in great shape back then, too. Teaching high school, running all around all the time.

No the pregnancy was great. Labor and delivery a total nightmare. And we were scared to take her home, we had no idea how to take care of a baby.

We learned. She's still alive. LOL!

[Old and In the Way]

28. Yep....bringing the baby home for the 1st time.

The wife and I were living a long way away from any relatives....we were completely alone. We get Julie home and it was....OK, now what? They don't give you an owner's manual with the baby.

Amazing how patient those little critters are with us newbie parents.

[Old and In the Way]

18. So, can I assume it wasn't an enjoyable experience?

:-)

Reminds me of an old Jesuit Priest that taught sex ed at my HS. He compared giving birth to having a grapefruit expelled through one's anus. One guy raised his hand and asked him..."how would you know that, Father?"

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

22. Heh

if only it were just a grapefruit. More like a watermelon.

Oh I mean it was horrible and fantastic at the same time, ya know? I mean look at that child in the picture higher up in this thread. I got her. How can I not like that? :)

[Book Lover]

31. Please don't kill me

I had a very easy pregnancy and labor; as a matter of fact, my mother was annoyed when I told her how short it was (apparently she didn't have it as easy for any of her four). Tuesday night I started contracting once an hour, and feeling a little shitty (the feeling in the gut like you ate too many onion rings). Wednesday 1 pm my water broke, by 5 I was in the hospital, by 7 I had the epidural in, and by 11 the baby was born.

[RebelYell]

33. That was EASY???

Just kiddin'. I'm such a wimp.

[Book Lover]

34. After reading Moonbeam's story

I feel guilty!

[alphafemale]

32. I woke up during C-Section from general anesthetic-felt everything

Could hear everything.

But I was paralysed.

That was bad.

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

38. HOLEE SHIT!

That's it, you win. That tops mine, easy. DAMN.

[NamVetsWeeLass]

35. And in case this didn't do it for you......

Here I am, While I have Two kids. I will NOT have another. They do mean things to me, Like almost kill me. My son, was two pounds lighter than the above mentioned baby Girl. He weighed in at 7lb 4 Oz. but his big Irish head got stuck. My labor was fast, but they didn't realize that I paradoxically react to Stadol. (instead of this making me settle down it made me 100% meaner than I normally am. add to this the pain of labor... NOT FUN!) I threw My Ex-Husband out like every five minutes or so, and my Mother was on every other five minute intervals. I kicked the Midwife, who thought she could deliver this kid.

My hip Dislocated and rotated inward, so the birth canal became more cramped and I couldn't fix my hip to make it stop hurting. (My hips both pop out I can relocate them, It hurts intensely for about 15 minutes, but I have gotten pretty used to it.) I then Look at the Kid's monitor thing that they screw into their scalps.... His heart rate had decelerated to the point that they were going to lose us both. He was too far down in the birth canal to Cut out. I felt odd, too, and noticed that my pressure was reading REALLY low (78/36) and my heart rate although it felt like it was up to 300, was down to 14. I swear, I knew I was going to die.

Now, Here I am, Excruciating Pain, Dislocated hip, baby not doing well. I hear one thing in my head "Princess, ROLL" Huh? It was clearly my Dad's Voice, who had been dead for then 16 years. I managed to get up on my hands and knees while they were having a conference about what to do in the corner. I did it by Myself, hip out and all. Well this solved the Hip issue as it gave me enough of a surface to push on to get it back in. They looked up from the Huddle and saw me rocking on my hands and knees, and the heart monitor they had screwed into my Son's head stopped alarming, His heart rate rose to a safe level. I Finally rolled back to my back, Again, by myself cause the dumb asses were trying to discuss what I did. I looked at the Midwife and said "Would you like to do something please?" She had enough balls to grab my shoulders and tell me to calm down. Since she was standing between my legs I kicked her again. Where did she get her certification? A Cracker Jack Box? I was only an EMT and a CNA at the time but, I knew she was like out of her mind.

She broke sterility to grab my shoulders and everything. Well, by this time, I was done. I started to Push.... Moe, Larry and Curly, the Nurses were like can she start pushing yet? The Midwife who remember I had just kicked and who also grabbed me and broke sterility decided that I needed her UNSTERILE ARM in me to her elbow. She told Moe, Larry and Curly to get the Stirrups. They complied and Put the things on BACKWARDS. I am short, I couldn't do a thing with them. I then broke a wooden bed rail in pain, anger and total frustration. They fixed the stirrups, and I began to push more. I ended up with a Stage Four tear. That is the WHOLE WAY through. I had over 300 stitches to correct the damage. My son looked like someone had beaten him nearly to death, They had to use a vacuum extractor and Forceps to yank him out. They almost punched through his temple, He had two black eyes and his nose was all swollen. His head not only was misshapen from the birth, But he had huge bruises from the Vacuum and the forceps. These lasted for a few weeks in total.

Then I went in for my checkup and they told me I had a massive infection. Well DUH, She broke sterility to grab my shoulders. I needed IV antibiotics, My temp was 104, and I nearly had to have a Hysterectomy due to the infection being so bad. I was Obsessive-Compulsive about bathing, and cleaning the external area, so I know what it came from and I told the MD what had happened. The Midwife doesn't work in that hospital or that practice anymore. They hooked me to an IV, and I stayed in his office for about 4 hours, he covered my IV port, and told me I had to get my Then husband to come get me, I wasn't allowed to drive. I had to go back in in 48 hours for another round of Antibiotics and was on oral ones as well. I did this for a Month. What an Ordeal, But they healthy 9 Year old was worth it.

Now for my Girl, I was a known High Risk Pregnancy, Health Problems and An over 27 pound weight loss plagued me. The Doctor I had was AWESOME, Nothing rattled this guy, He had delivered like over a 1000 babies in his career, he looked rather like a Thinner Version of Santa. He is wonderful. He watched me like a hawk, He had me in there twice a week from the second trimester to the third, and from the seventh month on I was in his office 4 out of 5 days. I had sleep disturbances by the 7th month, I was sleeping 2 (yes 2) hours a week. He found something I could safely take to sleep, cause this was causing even more problems. He took my girl when I was 38 weeks, He didn't want to wait longer as my Blood Pressure had started to Rise. He scheduled me for Friday July 26. He decided that I would have her the normal way, or at least try to. He would then do a c-Section at the first hint of a problem. He laughed at me when I asked for an Epidural cause I did it when I was 8 months pregnant.

Well I went in to the hospital, all ready in early labor. They started my Pitocyn Drip, got my Epidural started as soon as they could and I had a Healthy, Beautiful baby Girl. She was screaming on her way out. I needed no stitches, which this doc is Renowned for. He took her pic for his wall, and was wonderful to everyone. The RN I had kicked ass, She was PERFECT! I was a Nurse by now, so they all Took really good care of me. Well, Later that night, My husband had taken his mother home, and a RN came in at my Ringing. I had started to hemorrhage. I ended up losing 3200 cc's of Blood. I almost died. They had me jacked up on Morphine, I had an IV running Wide Open, (Lactated Ringers replace volume.) and I needed a blood Transfusion.

They got the bleeding under control, and my Doctor came in and told me that I should think about not doing this childbirth thing again. He knew the previous history, and in light of the events of the Previous night, he thought that tying my tubes was the best thing to do, I agreed and he snuck me into the OR with a Low blood count to do the surgery.

I hurt like hell for all of a day, I developed No infections, and other than a HUGE scare with my girl's Heart, everything is fine. Her heart had a hole in it, which was caused by an Incomplete Closing of the Foramen Ovale (This is normal in babies, but it usually closes without issue, It serves to facilitate something with the heart and Lungs, I would have to grab my Text book and look.) She had a severe heart murmur, and was going to need surgery. Well I kept my eye on her, I listened to that murmur all the time and I kept noting that it seemed to be getting less pronounced. The Md's and Peds Cardio Doc all listened to her and agreed, her heart was getting better. Today, 28 months later, she has NO murmur.

Would I have another kid? Are you INSANE?

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

39. Shit

who knew there were worse stories than mine? You and the woman above you make mine look like a freaking walk in the park!

[NamVetsWeeLass]

42. Nah, Yours was worse than Mine I think.....

And besides you write better than I do.... LOL

[Carson]

36. I had a difficult delivery as well, but my son made it all worthwhile. n/t

[Flaxbee]

37. even before reading that, I'd set my mind on adoption...

my 35-year old body has never gone into maternal urgings -overdrive, but I'd like to be a mom and give one or two kids a good home one of these days, as soon as my business stabilizes... or maybe I'll just stick to four-legged creature adoptions. :shrug:

Your little Moonbeam is gorgeous, though -- wonderful freckles! I have a redheaded niece who's covered in them and they're beautiful!

[Zing Zing Zingbah]

40. My experience of giving birth to my son wasn't all that bad at all.

I remember my husband and I had just cleaned up the apartment, and we were going to go shopping on that day before my son was born. We stopped at the bank to deposit some checks. I noticed my water broke a little when we were driving back from the bank. We decided to chill out at home at that point and put the shopping off for a while.

I started to get cramps. It felt a lot like menstrual cramps. It was a little uncomfortable, so I sat in tub of warm water to ease the cramping. After a while, the cramps started to become more regular, and the warm water bath didn't seem to help much any more. I went to the hospital at about 8pm that day. I wasn't dilated enough to give birth when I arrived, but enough for them to admit me into the hospital. I endured the cramping for a couple more hours, then they gave me some medication so that I could sleep.

I got a nice four hour nap in there (and so did my husband). When I woke up, we tried some pushing. The cramps were starting to get overwhelming and kind of wearing me out. They had offered me an epidural earlier, but I seemed to be OK at the time so I declined. They asked again me if I wanted one and said that it would be the last chance I would have to get one. I jumped on the offer this time. The epidural reduced the pain significantly.

We did a few more hours of pushing and eventually the little guy came out. He was also 9 lbs. I guess my vagina tore when he came out, but I didn't feel it at all. He was born at 6:30am the morning after I was admitted to the hospital. I actually thought the whole experience was easier than I was expecting it to be. I was also 23 when I had my son.

I never took one of those child birth classes that some people take either.

[GreenPartyVoter]

41. I've had two thus far, but I still feel the occasional

"I want another one. I didn't get my girl!" twinge.

*g*

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[Kat45]

Sorry, dupe.

:shrug:

[Kat45]

43. But don't they say that women forget the pain after the baby is born?

and that's why they decide to have another baby?

I guess "they" were lying.

That's what I thought.

But I've never had any interest in having them anyway.

[Book Lover]

44. Yeah, "They" say a lot of things...

mostly lies!

[put out]

46. Yes, things like

"You might feel a little pressure. This may feel a little uncomfortable. This may sting for just a second. Try to relax."

I was ready to strangle someone, anyone. It would have improved my mood a whole lot.

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

48. Yep me too

and what's worse was the pain PLUS the total exhaustion. It's psychologically horrible. You doze off from being so worn out only to be AWAKENED by the pain, over and over and over. I started struggling to stay awake just so I wouldn't have to go through the pain PLUS the being awakened that way.

No, you don't forget it. But the getting pregnant part is generally fun, so blam! You end up pregnant again and HAVE to go through childbirth again.

Fortunately for me, it never worked right again except with her.

[skygazer]

49. You're 25 years too late, Moonbeam!

I was so young and dumb when I had my first that I just figured nature would take its course. I was 19 years old, single and working at a greyhound racetrack, training a kennel of 76 dogs by myself when I was 9 months pregnant. Everyone asked me, "what are you going to do when you have the baby?" I said, "I'll have it on a Monday. It's the only day we don't race."

Sure enough, on Monday morning, I started having contractions. Dogs still needed to be taken care of, though, so I worked all day. Turned them out 3 times, cleaned their crates, fed them (which involved dragging a feed table that weighed about 300 pounds when full across the floor), etc.

By 5 in the afternoon, I was having contractions so close together that when I put my dogs up, I'd put three of them in their crates, then sit on the scale to let the contractions pass. Then three more and back on the scale.

I put the last dogs up, swept the floor, emptied my water buckets, filled in the holes in the pen, then leaned over the fence and asked my neighbor, "Hey, can you bring me to the hospital?" He freaked and drove me to town.

I got to the hospital at 5:30, my daughter was born at 9. I'm still known to the old timers at the Hinsdale Raceway as the girl whose water broke in her turnout pen.

Oh, and I was back at work 3 days later (would have been back that night for last turnout but the doc wouldn't let me leave for 3 days - a friend took care of the dogs). Like I said, young and dumb.

[Madame X]

50. How come that didn't stop all of my friends?

Two of my best friends had horrible childbirth experiences, one even called me from the hospital the next day and told me how "they lie, they don't tell you how horrible it is". Both of them swore that was going to be their one and only time.

Of course, they both went on to have more children. I, on the other hand, have never had anything approaching that type of experience, and have had no children, nor plan to. No, that's not going to change.

I'm guessing it takes a lot more than just terrible physical pain to deter women from a powerful compulsion towards motherhood, if they are so inclined. Those of us who are not interested would probably be turned off by the mere sight of highchairs and baby booties.

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

51. LOL

you're probably right.

I can't explain children after the first one. I only had one.

[Madame X]

53. I think I would have learned from that experience as well

Why my friends continued on is a mystery to me, and I think, to them as well. :shrug:

[Modem Butterfly]

52. We're childless by choice

But if we ever decide to have children, we've decided to adopt.

[Nikia]

54. My mother said having wisdom teeth out was worse

I thought that she was exaggerating about the wisdom teeth thing but when I had mine out it was horrible. I am hoping that like her birthing experiences that mine will be less horrible the wisdom teeth out too. My mother gave birth to me 4 hours after contractions started. I hope that I have those genes. That is one reason that I don't want to move too far out in the middle of nowhere too.

[DrZeeLit]

55. Oh my god. I remember the HOP UP HERE..... whoa! Wanna know what I did?

They said, "hop up here!"
I looked at the two foot gap (okay, I'm exaggerating, but when you're puffing like a train, it looks like the grand canyon between the gurney and the table).

I FAKED A CONTRACTION!

The nurse got out the stethoscope and listened.

She sneered at me, "You're not having a contraction. Get over there."

Ah, shucks.

Anyway.... I had a beautiful 11 pound son.

Yep...11 pounds.


No anesthetic, no block, no nothin'! No episiotomy (sp?)....

Only one stitch.

Whew!

[Bridget Burke]

56. No personal experience here....

(I feel like a civilian at a baby shower, listening in awe to all the vets tell their war stories.)

My mother was born back in the 20's. The birth was planned at home, with a doctor in attendance. However, this is Houston; there was a flood & the doctor couldn't make it. So a neighbor lady took care of things. She had her grown, unmarried daughter assist, apparently so she would learn about childbirth.

My mother always claimed that the daughter never married; never wanted to go through "all that."

[Taverner]

57. Awwww cmon having a baby couldn't be that tough

SERIOUSLY...Congratulations and hats off to you and all moms out there...