Have you ever been stalked?

[YellowRubberDuckie]

I have. There was this guy who supposedly was completely in love with me. I used to go to the computer lab all the time to surf the net before I got a computer. Anyway, he used to like to follow me out when I was headed back to my dorm and have long drawn out arguments outside one of the buildings here at school. It all ended in a very nasty fight outside of the building. I told him I was tired of all the drama. He got very nasty. The next day I was sitting in the computer lab and he looked at me like he was going to kill me. I called campus police and he got tossed out of school. It was a great day!
Duckie

[Gothic Sponge]

1. Thanks for having me kicked out of school!

I was just trying to be your friend!

;)

[YellowRubberDuckie]

2. LOL

[gmoney]

3. If they're good, you never know!

;)

[progmom]

4. Depends on the exact meaning of stalked.

I used to do an overnight radio show. Got a lot of hang-up calls at home, disturbing mail ("Your voice is always playing in my head") weird calls at the station ("No - you don't understand -- I LOVE YOU!!!") and someone actually broke into the building in an attempt to meet me.

Oy yoy yoy.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

5. That's scary.

I almost took an over night gig in Woodward Oklahoma on a radio station there. I'm so glad I didn't. First of all, people tell me I have a sexy voice. So I'd be in trouble.
Duckie

[Left Is Write]

10. I have a radio story too!

I just posted it. There are some creepy people out there!

[crispini]

17. I worked at a radio station too.

Classical station. No one ever CALLED me, let alone STALKED me.

no, that's not quite right. mispronounce something? phone rang off the hook with disgruntled classical music lovers. sheesh, people, Get A Grip. :D

[whodiedandmadeUSgod]

6. Yes

It was a long time ago. I had a boyfriend and after our break up he would leave flowers and gifts on my car. It felt pretty creepy. Now that I've been married for the last 8 years some flowers sure would be nice.

[crispini]

7. I had a semi-psychotic BF

I had just gotten a new job at a computer company. I'd talk about all of my male coworkers -- because, ya know, mostly guys at a computer company. He started to get jealous. Bear in mind that I never talked about one particular guy in a swoony way, or anything, it was just the fact that I was always talking about All These Guys. Then I did get a guy there who was a good friend and ally and the BF got even WORSE. Actually DEMANDED that I not go to lunch with my coworkers. WTF? Uh, no. I mean, it was rapidly becoming unnatural jealousy and we were having all of these knockdown dragout fights. So I told him to leave. Then he would call me at weird hours, make big scenes, showed up at my work and FOLLOWED SOMEONE INTO THE BUILDING, and basically just acted about one inch away from a complete wackball. He never completely flipped out or turned into a stalker, but he was THIS CLOSE... it was very unnerving.

And he still owes me like $500 too. Last fucking time I loan anyone THAT kind of money. Phooo.

[foreigncorrespondent]

8. Only online!

Never in real life thank God!

I do however know several people who have been stalked. From what they have told me, it is pretty damn terrifying. I am glad yours ended the way it did, Duckie!

[Left Is Write]

9. Yes, I have.

I was working on the radio, and this fan/listener/whatever became obsessed with the idea that we were "in love" and would build a life together. He was a Class A creep. My coworkers used to tease me by popping into the control room and saying, "Play Misty for me!" Ha ha.

He used to call all the time. He sent letters to the station - tons of them - talking about how we would get married and raise children together. He included pictures of himself and his two kids. He would drive up and down the road in front of the station, evidently hoping he'd see me when I stepped out for a cigarette. He sent flowers. He started going to the pizza place where my friend worked, trying to get information on me. He made such a nuisance of himself there that my friend was nearly fired over it.

One evening after a series of tornadoes had blown through the area, he called up the station and told me that his first thought during the storms was that if he died in a tornado, I would never know how much he "loved" me.

The whole thing was weird. I talked to the police about it, but they said there was nothing they could do because he hadn't broken the law. It went on for several months before it just stopped abruptly. I have no idea what happened to him.

[Pithlet]

11. Yes. By a mall security guard

where I worked at the time. It wasn't fun. I almost had to quit my job. I think working at a mall makes one an easier target for that kind of thing. A co-worker at anther job was stalked by a customer. He left creepy notes for her all the time that he'd slide under the gate before we arrived to open. He was finally caught and escorted from the mall, and we never heard from him again.

[bliss_eternal]

12. Yes. Sadly I didn't know it at the time....

I had broken it off with this guy that just seemed a bit too 'intense' and frankly off his nut. He couldn't grasp the concept of being rejected and started calling me round the clock. When I left my apt. he was running down the street to meet me (he was at a pay phone down the block). I didn't drive then and took the bus, so I would have to walk and was more accessible unfortunately.

I hate admitting I was so completely clueless as to how inappropriate this guy and his behaviour was. But in retrospect, and in knowing better now if it helps someone else then it's all good.

Ankywho-- in time he wore me down and I let him back in. I lived to regret it. Looking back over the entire relationship if you can call it that, my first instincts were dead on. He was an intense, idiotic, creep with major boundary issues. Total sociopath. I'm lucky to be alive today. Seriously. :)

[Nordic]

13. I've been stalked by two different women

both times were very uncomfortable. One of them turned out to be a paranoid schizophrenic and I actually was scared she might kill me. That is, after she got angry at me when she realized I wasn't in love with her or whatever.

The other one just harassed the hell out of me, again, when I wouldn't fulfill her fantasies or whatever. She didn't know where I lived, thank God, but the first one did.

No fun at all.

[democracyindanger]

14. No, but I'll listen to offers.

[Moonbeam_Starlight]

15. Yep, to the point of getting a restraining order placed on him

Odd, I can't even remember his name now. Guess I blocked it out. Anyway, I met him while out with my friends one night and it turned out he lived in my suburb, just a few miles from my parents house (I was home for the summer from college).

Eric. DAMMIT, I knew his name would come to me and it did.

Anyway, he seemed nice and was very cute, so I agreed to a date. He picked me up and started talking about his sister and her kids and how they were "bastard babies" and was talking smack about his sister drawing food stamps. Mmmmmmkay. Not going too well so far.

He takes me to TACO BELL where I order my dinner, he orders his, then pays for his. So I bust out my wallet and pay for mine. Okay.

Then we go to THE MALL. He has to look for some dress shoes. He keeps bragging about how he has all this money, but um, so far, I have bought my own Taco Bell dinner and now we are at the mall shopping for his shoes. Exciting stuff.

As we are leaving the mall, he starts letting me know his views, quite loudly, on groups of people he calls "beanies" and "wetbacks." I am horrified. He is talking loudly enough for everyone to hear, so I start edging away from him as we walk. In the parking lot, he starts in on black people and I didn't speak again until he asked me if I wanted to go to his house. Get this: TO WATCH ALL IN THE FAMILY.

Swear to God, I thought this guy was pulling a massive, not very funny practical joke on me, but I said no thanks, please take me home.

Silence. Got home, got out, he took off. Whew!

Well he had my number and started calling me relentlessly. Started following me to work every day. Finally one night, outside my parent's house at about 2 am, he TRIES TO LIGHT HIMSELF ON FIRE. Yeah. Seriously. I hear his screams and we call 911 but he puts it out by rolling on our lawn. He starts yelling and sobbing that he is going to kill himself if I don't see him. We find out later he had a high level of "crank" in his bloodstream.

Got the restraining order. No more notes left on my car's windshield or following me to work or calling every hour. Thank goodness, that worked. I never heard from or saw him again, but it was VERY FREAKY.

[crispini]

16. Holy Crap!

ok, you win. DAYUM.

[prof_science]

19. Wow. just... wow.

[Baja Margie]

18. No

But one time, and this really happened, it was dusk & I had just gotten out of the water, by OB Pier. I used to live on Del Monte street. Anyway, it was dusk and the fog was coming in and I had to climb up these steep stairs. There was this weird guy sitting on the steps and he grabbed my leg, and I swung around and hit him on his head with my surfboard. Then I ran.

[warrens]

20. Yes, twice and I am male

One was the younger sister of a friend of mine. I found her looking in my window one night, then another night hiding in my girlfriend's car with a knife. I had her arrested. The other one was the ex-husband of a girlfriend. He tracked me down over and over. I finally got sick of changing my name and used my real name and told him to come fuck with me. That ended it.

[Adenoid_Hynkel]

21. yes, but briefly, thankfully

the moral of this story is: never meet people you talk to online-or at least put some thought into it

[RoyGBiv]

22. Yes!!!

I am being stalked right now. I have changed my phone number, changed jobs even (although not due to this, but still), and I am still being stalked. I am afraid I am going to need to move.

The worst part isn't so much the woman stalking me. It's her grandmother, who has somehow decided I am a menace to society and threatens me with bodily harmm if I speak to her grandaughter again. I have't spoken to her in over six months, but for some reason I still get phone calls from her grandma in whcih she descibes her shotgun and marksmanship skills.

The police think this is all very amusing and stupid. I hope nothing happens to prove what idiots they are.