truthbetold
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Wed Dec-01-04 06:39 PM
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Here's the deal. I'm in college and lately I've been hanging out with this guy named Adam. He's a medic in the military and a George Bush supporter. Despite that last fact, he's a really nice guy and I enjoy his company. He knows all about my beliefs and my staunch dislike of Bush but still chooses to be my friend. Today, he instant messages me after we'd been hanging out at school to tell me that he likes me. I was very shocked- I hang out with guys all the time and never assume they have a romantic interest in me. To complicate matters further, I have a boyfriend. Though he hasn't been treating me very well lately, I still know that finding this information out has the potential to really aggravate and upset him. I've felt the stirrings of attraction toward Adam before, but I love my boyfriend and still want to be Adam's friend. However, I know this could get awkward, especially if my boyfriend finds out or if my feelings for Adam get any stronger. Needless to say, I'm very confused at the moment and still amazed at the fact that someone with such different beliefs than my own would want to be with me.
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Wed Dec-01-04 06:40 PM
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Edited on Wed Dec-01-04 06:57 PM by Jack_Dawson
Stick with Blue.
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Wed Dec-01-04 06:43 PM
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I was trying to think of a tactful way of saying it.
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Wed Dec-01-04 06:42 PM
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2. My advice is don't go there |
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If he's willing to say that to you, who has a boyfriend in tow, what makes you think he wouldn't say it to someone else if you two were together? Some people in the military remember all that talk about honor, and some don't.
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Wed Dec-01-04 06:43 PM
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Just kidding. I have no advice to give you, except that it struck me when you said, "but still chooses to be my friend."
Okay, maybe I do have advice for you. Find out who his friends are and hang around them for a while. If you can't stand the Dem bashing, then it should tell you everything you need to know about your future prospects.
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Wed Dec-01-04 06:43 PM
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4. Step away from the republican. |
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Seriously. You have MAJOR value differences. Doesn't that bother you? Just start asking him how he feels about the war, tax cuts, the economy and you'll be running.
Unless you'd just like to break his heart horribly and ruin him forever. In that case, I'd be ok with it.
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Wed Dec-01-04 07:00 PM
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11. opposites do attract sometimes, but if you love your boyfriend this |
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guy could cause some trouble. Does he know you have a boyfriend? Did he tell you that he liked you as a friend or is he hitting on you? If he knows you are involved with someone else he would not be hitting on you if he has good character. If he's interested in more than friendship he will not interfer with you and her boyfriend's relationship, he would wait until you are free. If you want to know more about him, get to know his friend and remember "birds of the same feather flock together".
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Wed Dec-01-04 06:52 PM
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Before I will even date a guy, I find out his political leanings. I dont even waste my time on a repub. Ewwww. Why would I want to have little repub kids running around. Their are enough hot democrat guys out there for me so I would never compromise my standards on a repub!
Just my opinion. Maybe you could change him?
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truthbetold
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Wed Dec-01-04 06:58 PM
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He doesn't seem to me like a die hard Republican. It's tempting to see if he COULD change, but ruining the relationship I already have might not be worth it. Although, things with my boyfriend aren't going too well. Even though we've only been together for a couple months, I feel like he takes me for granted. He's not nearly as romantic as he used to be, hardly ever compliments me anymore, and never wants to discuss how he feels about me. Meanwhile, I've been head over heels for him but have been forced to keep silent about it, while he's been ignoring me but still claims to want to be with me. It's all very frustrating. But, I still have such strong ties to my guy; I lost my virginity to him, which was a big step for me and something he definitely deserved because he was everything I was looking for in the beginning. Now he claims to be "comfortable" and "confident" in our relationship which apparently means he needs to make no extra effort and I am expected to be loyal to him no matter what. Ugh, it's confusing.
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Wed Dec-01-04 06:56 PM
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7. WAH WAH WAH I HAVE TO CHOOSE BETWEEN TWO BOYS WAH WAH WAH |
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Wed Dec-01-04 06:58 PM
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I didn't force you to read this, and I sure as hell didn't force you to comment on it. You don't like it, don't comment, simple as that. Seesh.
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Wed Dec-01-04 10:06 PM
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You have a choice between one human being with whom you've grown bored/dissatisfied/whatever and another novel, exciting human being whose political affiliation who find, at worst, distasteful and at best, irrelevant. Granted, I don't know the nature of your relationship with DISAPPOINTING HUNK #1, but does it really make a difference? People are generally the same, they're not really all that complex. so they have endure great pains to distinguish themselves from everyone else. Some aren't as successful as others, and their social lives stagnate. Others become 'interesting.'
THEN you decide to make a post on the internet about it so everyone can either give you heartfelt relationship advice, tell you that Republicans are all alcoholic pithecanthropes, or tell you that all men ever really think about is POONTANG
in conclusion, if you can post utter crap, there's no reason why I can't.
THE END
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Wed Dec-01-04 10:27 PM
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Do you ever have relationships? At all? I mean, jeez, with a personality like that, who WOULDN'T want you?
/sarcasm off
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Wed Dec-01-04 11:14 PM
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:o
you seem like a horrible person
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Wed Dec-01-04 10:34 PM
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here, bloodyjack does have a point. If you are unhappy with your boyfriend and considering going after this other guy, then you should probably break up with your boyfriend. If he's not making you happy now, he probably won't in the future. That doesn't mean, however, that you have to jump into a relationship with this other guy. Especially with the conflict of differing political beliefs. Why not be single for a little while? It's fun at times, and it would leave you free to play the field and meet more people who you could connect with. And maybe meet someone who will make you happy.
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Wed Dec-01-04 07:00 PM
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10. make sure it has been sterilized before you even consider |
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Wed Dec-01-04 07:05 PM
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12. why would you date someone who's opinion you dont really respect |
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Wed Dec-01-04 07:09 PM
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14. Look at James and Mary! |
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Wed Dec-01-04 07:17 PM
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15. politicians have no real morals anyway |
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Wed Dec-01-04 07:06 PM
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13. You're either with us or against us |
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Wed Dec-01-04 07:20 PM
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but he's a republican, even if you let him.
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Wed Dec-01-04 07:23 PM
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That's what my father said. He told me, "Lisa. Men think about only one thing- sex. Every three minutes." I was aghast. "But...how do they do anything else?!" "They don't." "Oh."
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Wed Dec-01-04 07:56 PM
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18. uh yeah your father is 100% correct even us nice ones do it we |
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just leave it alone a lil better...but yeah as soon you say something like "he still chooses to be my friend", I can think of only one reason why. Im sorry to be pessimistic and put it like that cause Im positive you are an absolute treasure, but put your values before your sex and stay "just friends" with him.
Honestly Im a guy but I really wish I wasn't many times a day, it'd be nice to be able to focus on something like writing for 5 whole minutes without thinking on the next orgasm.
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Wed Dec-01-04 07:58 PM
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stay away, please, he wants to get freaky with a democrat, and you are on his lberal radar.
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Wed Dec-01-04 10:38 PM
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23. I have a very good friend |
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that almost immediately (no - immediately) there was a very strong mutual attraction... due that attraction we spent - over a short period of time - a lot of time together (he was about to go out of the country... I was embarking on a huge multi-year work project.)
Early on he gave me a bit of a proposition (couched), and due to the complexities I deferred (again couched). After his return to the country we had drinks - but while the attraction was still there it was different. We admitted that we had huge (not sorta but HUGE) "crushes" on one another (the kind we thought that one only had as teenagers) - but that we both knew -for different reasons - that we weren't going to ever be "involved." With that out in the open - we have remained friends - quasi flirted - but decided to instead enjoy each others company - including the recognition and flattery of being 'admired' in a crush like way by someone admired in a crush like way - but keep that side of the friendship always like an innocent child... something not to be "tempted" by... but to be enjoyed in a "sixth grade innocence" sorta way. We are a little older than you, so maybe this doesn't always work... but we have been friend for going on two years - and aside from the initial indirect proposition - there has never been a physical move or anything that would tempt towards acting on the "crushes". Instead over time an appreciation of the other as friend - and the realizatio that on a rare occaision one can have platonic friends that stay platonic with whom there is a bit of a crush type attraction.
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Wed Dec-01-04 10:41 PM
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24. Do not walk, RUN away from this Repug |
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You see him as a potential boyfriend, he sees you as a stepford wife.
RL
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Wed Dec-01-04 10:42 PM
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25. Two of my best friends are republicans. |
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We just stay away from the political issues. Duckie
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