neoteric lefty
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Sat Dec-04-04 01:50 AM
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Look ma! I'm single, again... |
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Looks like my girl and I are no longer together. It has been going on for just shy of 2 yrs 3 months. Tension in the relationship has really been growing the last few weeks on both sides, and tonight it boiled over. We have been arguing and bickering a lot in the last few weeks and we finally realized that something was not right. This actually seemed to be an almost mutual break-up (as close to one as possible). Its gonna be really hard to talk to her and not call her 'hun' and such, but we'll get by. I cannot see having her out of my life. I love her to death, but we both understand that this relationship cannot work at this time in our lives. Now, I'm single again... how odd.
I have only been out of the game for a few years. I can't imagine how tough it is for older folks (hey, I'm still in college. Most of you are 'older folks' to me :)) who end decades-long reltionships and are all of a sudden thrown back into the "single" world.
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Sat Dec-04-04 01:53 AM
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And, I'm sure you've heard this, but you're WAY WAY WAY young enough to find someone else. Me, I'm single again too, after being with the same woman for almost 9 years. And I'm 34, and SO optimistic about the future.
Cheer up, things will improve!
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neoteric lefty
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Sat Dec-04-04 01:55 AM
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3. im not really down, so much as I |
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am a little lost. This needed to happen sooner or later. We both understood that. I just hope we can create a lasting friendship. That would make it all worthwhile
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Sat Dec-04-04 01:59 AM
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4. you can create that lasting friendship if both of you really want to |
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I have done this and it makes for a really strong friendship
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Sat Dec-04-04 01:55 AM
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2. The older you get and the longer you've been in relationships |
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the more you realize how easy it is to get along without one.
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Sat Dec-04-04 02:07 AM
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5. "all of a sudden thrown back into the "single" world...." |
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Edited on Sat Dec-04-04 02:08 AM by mike_c
That would be me. Forty-nine years old and I spent the day helping the folks who showed up to begin moving my ex-wife's stuff out. The settlement could be worse, I suppose, but I'll be sleeping on a Thermorest on the floor tonight....
on edit: what illflem said....
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Sat Dec-04-04 03:09 AM
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6. hint: give each other space for a few weeks so you can let the grief and |
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frustration with each other subside so you CAN build a friendship. If you keep in each other's hair right now, you will most likely just keep opening the wounds and especially bring guilt into the picture... what could I have done better, sooner?
Take some time off from each other - and don't try to date in that time. It will be rebound and will smack you both in the face. Jealousy after a breakup is ugly.
Pcat (who has done this a few times.)
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Sat Dec-04-04 03:20 AM
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7. hang in there , chief! |
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Sat Dec-04-04 03:21 AM
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Edited on Sat Dec-04-04 03:22 AM by BullGooseLoony
That's a good thing, I suppose. :)
It might not have fully hit you yet, though...sometimes there's a delayed reaction with these kinds of things. You're still in the "it can be patched up if I want it to be" mindset, probably.
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Sat Dec-04-04 03:22 AM
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9. i know how you feel man |
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i got dumped a few months back, it's actually quite refreshing after the initial blow to your ego.
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Sat Dec-04-04 03:22 AM
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I look at marriage like I look at the chicken pox. I've had it once, and I shouldn't get it again. (c) John Morgan
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