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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-09-04 05:42 PM
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Am I being a psycho bitch?!
Yesterday was my friend's birthday.

I last talked to him on Monday and asked what his plans were and he said he wasn't sure but he was probably going to get out to a local bar.


So then, yesterday, Wednesday, his birthday, I text messaged him once and left two voice mail messages.

The last voice mail message I left, I knew he was on the other end of his cell phone b/c I heard the phone beeping.

I think they went out of town to party and I couldn't have gone anyway since I didn't get out of work late. I'm not mad at that, but if he was local, I would've met up with him for a drink.

I'm mad because he never called back to respond to my birthday wishes.

A simple phone call to say thank you would've been nice. Three times I took time out of my day to call him and no response. He hasn't called yet as of 5:46 p.m. Thursday.

Am I overreacting or what?
Your advice is appreciated.

-Will
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skygazer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-09-04 05:43 PM
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1. Yes, you're overreacting n/t
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-09-04 05:46 PM
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4. Thanks for your opinion (nt)
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skygazer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-09-04 05:58 PM
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12. Well, to elaborate on my reply
It just doesn't seem like anything to get worked up about. You say you "took time out of your day" to call but really, how long does it take to text or leave voice mail?

Some people aren't as quick to get back to their friends as others. It was thoughtful of you to wish him a happy birthday though I think 3 was kind of overkill - maybe he was wishing his phone would stop ringing so he could enjoy his time out.

No offense meant here but you sound a little needy in all this.
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-09-04 06:15 PM
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13. "You say you "took time out of your day" to call but really, how long
does it take to text or leave voice mail?"

Exactly.

No offense taken though I am not needy of anyone's friendship.

I just think it's common courtesy to call someone back that's all.
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Hobarticus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-09-04 05:45 PM
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2. Congratulatory phone calls don't necessarily warrant "thank you" calls....
But it was nice of you to do it, any way.
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Bouncy Ball Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-09-04 05:45 PM
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3. No you aren't.
Well ok maybe a little bit, but a good old-fashioned hissy fit is FUN sometimes, dammit.

Hissy it up, man! I'm not one prone to them normally but damn they are fun once in a blue moon.

And yeah, I'd be a bit peeved that he didn't call me. Sheesh.
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-09-04 05:47 PM
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5. Yeah, I kind of am having a hissy fit
But to me it's just common courtesy. Oh well.


I'll let him know you're pissed too!
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Padraig18 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-09-04 05:48 PM
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6. I'd say yes, personally.
But we still love you, any way.

:hug::loveya:
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-09-04 05:50 PM
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7. I still love you too Paddy!
:loveya:
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Padraig18 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-09-04 05:52 PM
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9. Coolness!
:hi:
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AlCzervik Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-09-04 05:51 PM
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8. maybe you're a tad hurt because he didn't invite you?
thats what i'm reading from this but i've been wrong before.
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-09-04 05:53 PM
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10. Even if he did invite me
I would'nt have been able to go since I didn't get out of work until late.


Like I said, I'm not mad because, I couldn't hang out with him. There was a 90% chance that I wouldn't have been able to even if he did call.
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prolesunited Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-09-04 05:56 PM
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11. But it's nice to be asked, isn't it
And now he won't return your calls because he feels guilty. I would say let it lay for a few days and he'll get in touch with you and then you could bring it up next time you see him in person.
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-09-04 06:17 PM
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14. I am not pissed that I wasn't invited
And I don't think he's not calling back because he feels guilty.


Like many of you here, he probably doesn't feel like it was all that big of a deal.

I guess I'm wasting my time dwelling about this.


Thanks for your input.
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-09-04 07:33 PM
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15. Thanks to everyone who offered their opinion and/or
advice.
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DS1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-09-04 07:36 PM
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16. A response is always nice
but sometimes you gotta remember that people are sometimes caught up in other things, ~especially~ on their birthday - where if they're cool and the type that other people want to be around, they can be shuffled around with little time to themselves.

Find out what the story is before freaking out.
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-09-04 07:40 PM
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17. "Find out what the story is before freaking out."
That's what I'm going to do.

Despite some of the content of my thread, I am a pretty rational guy and I will wait to hear his side of the story before I say anything.


Thanks for your input!:hi:
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