My Auntie Joyce has passed away...

[ScreamingMeemie]

:cry:

She was 58. My mom's only sister. The baby of the family. She had three boys, and always longed for a girl. When I was born, my mother made her my Godmother. Every Christmas there was something special from just her to me. She adored my uncle; woke up with him every morning and sent him off to work with coffee and a lunch. So many of my mothering skills I learned from her. Yesterday I got a Christmas card from her. Yesterday, I sent a Christmas card to her wishing we could all be together for Christmas. She told me by phone on Monday that she wasn't feeling very well. My uncle begged her to go to the doctor. My grandmother lost my grandfather on Christmas 3 years ago...now she lost her baby girl. I have lost my only Auntie.

To Auntie Joyce :toast: Thank you for all you were to me.

[GOPisEvil]

1. My condolences on your loss.

:-(

[ScreamingMeemie]

29. Thank you GOPisEvil.

I appreciate that. :hug:

[kittycat1164]

2. My thoughts to you and your family

it will be a rough Christmas for you.
:hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

30. Thankyou kittycat.

:hug:

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

3. I'm so sorry for your loss

your post brought tears to my eyes. The passing of a loved one is hardest on those who remain.

[ScreamingMeemie]

31. Thank you ayeshahaqqiqa. We talked everyday on the phone and I

can't believe that's not going to happen today.

[ET Awful]

4. I'm so sorry MrsGrumpy :(

:hug: :cry:

She sounds like a wonderful lady.

[Dez]

6. I feel for your loss.

I lost ny dad Jan 2 '90 .. it's so difficult at this time of year. You've got the good memories forever, not the person.. my condolences..

[ScreamingMeemie]

33. Thank you Dez. I am so sorry you had to lose your dad.

:( :hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

32. Thank you ET. She was among the best, and most strongest women

I have ever known. :hug:

[MuseRider]

5. MrsGrumpy

She lives on with all you are passing on to your children. I am so sorry. :hug: to you and you family.

[GreatAuntK]

7. So sorry, Mrs. Grumpy

I see my mother in my sisters' eyes, as I lost her last week. We are devastated.

Your aunt was so young, such a short time here.

So very sorry.

[ScreamingMeemie]

35. I am so very sorry GreatAuntK. My heart goes out to you. I cannot

imagine the pain my cousins are going through. A hug to you. :hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

34. Thank you Muse. I really appreciate that.

:hug:

[patdem]

8. What a sad time for you and your family.

I am so sorry and she was so young! Of course she will live forever in your family. :hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

36. Thank you patdem.

She was glue to this family. I will miss her so. :hug:

[supernova]

9. So Sorry for your loss, Mrs Grumpy

Antie Joyce sounds like a very special lady.

:hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

38. Thank you supernova. She was a terrific "other" mother to me.

She adored my daughter. I just cannot even begin to describe her specialness. :hug:

[Mikimouse]

10. I am sending you my very best thoughts and vibes...

Those people whom we love never really go away though, they live on in our hearts. Hugs. Nick

[ScreamingMeemie]

39. Thank you Nick. I really appreciate that.

I just cannot imagine life without those phone calls.

[arwalden]

11. What A Dreadful Thing!!

I'm so sorry to hear the sad news, Laura. My condolences to you and your family and everyone who knows and loves Joyce. I hope you're all able to comfort each other, and support each other, and find the strength to make it through the difficult week ahead.

I'll be thinking of you!

Love, Allen

[ScreamingMeemie]

Thank you Allen. Thoughts of my uncle keep going through my mind.

She was his everything. She took care of all of the little things that keep life comfortable. She was his right hand, his best friend...:( Thanks again.

:hug: Laura :loveya:

[Historic NY]

12. Sorry for your loss.........condolences to you & yours..........

I know how your feeling, lost my uncle who lives with me last Sat.

[ScreamingMeemie]

42. Oh Historic, I am so sorry.

This is awful to have happen right now. :hug:

[Feathered Fish]

13. I'm so sorry!

Nieces and Aunts have a very special bond. I am really sorry. :hug:
Take care Mrs.Grumpy.

[ScreamingMeemie]

43. Thank you Feathered Fish. I had only two aunts, coming from a small

family, and she always managed to make me feel special. :hug:

[Cuban_Liberal]

14. I'm sorry, MrsG!

:hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

44. Thank you CL.

:hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

46. **The autopsy results are in. It was lung cancer (in both lungs) and it

had spread to her liver. Nobody knew. How could she have gone through such pain in silence? My family is thinking that she knew. I am just hurting so bad to think that she suffered like that.

[bigwillq]

59. I'm very sorry for your loss Mrs. G

:hug: My thoughts and prayers and with you and your family at this difficult time.

Peace and love
-Will



edit: I was suppose to reply to the original message. Sorry abou that!

[ScreamingMeemie]

70. Thank you so much Will.

I cannot believe that this is happening right now. She was my grandpa's little girl. (Daddy's little girl) To lose them both at the same time of the year is heartbreaking for my grandma. :hug:

Thanks again.

[bigwillq]

72. A suggestion:

This helped me when my grandma passed in the summer of 2003.

If this doesn't creep you out, I suggest you leave a small gift/present that your auntie gave you or something that reminds you of your auntie in the casket.

I'm a sports writer for a newspaper here in CT and I left a few of my articles in my grandma's casket. My grandma had Parkinson's and really suffered in the last few years but she always made sure that my grandpa went out and bought the newspaper to see if I had any stories in. I know she was proud of the success I had at my job.

This may help. The mourning process is never an easy one but anything that can help you deal with your loss is a step.

Take care
-Will

[flamingyouth]

65. That is unbelievable

Clearly she was an incredibly strong woman. Perhaps it spread so quickly that she really didn't feel ill for too long. I will believe that was so, and that any suffering was brief. :cry:

[ScreamingMeemie]

71. I don't know how she did it. I just saw her after Thanksgiving when we

went to WI. I am trying to remember if she acted differently. She was quiet but she's quiet lots of times. I don't know if perhaps they both knew and wanted it this way. I just hurt so much for my uncle. :(

[Deja Q]

15. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

That's way too young of an age to go.

:hug:

[GoldenOldie]

16. You and Aunt Joyce had a special bond

You may never again be able to touch her or see her physical presence, but you will always feel her sense surround you and at times even a quiet voice telling you words that you had at sometime heard in the past.

[ScreamingMeemie]

48. Those are beautiful words GoldenOldie. Thanks so much.

:hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

47. Thank you HypnoToad.

I appreciate it so much. :hug:

[mvd]

17. Oh no - I'm very sorry, MrsGrumpy

Accept my heartfelt condolences and a big :hug:.

[ScreamingMeemie]

49. Thank you mvd.

:hug:

[Pithlet]

18. Oh no. I'm so sorry.

:hug: You and your family will be in my thoughts.

[ScreamingMeemie]

50. THank you Pithlet.

That means a lot. :hug: :loveya:

[LeftPeopleFinishFirst]

19. I'm so sorry

She sounds a lot like my grandmother, like an extraordinarily strong and capable woman. I'm sending good thoughts your way :hugs:

[ScreamingMeemie]

52. Thank you so much.

The autopsy results are in and it was cancer spread to both lungs and her liver. She had to have known, and suffered. I saw her in Nov. when we went to pick up my Grandmother, and she never winced or said a word. I am in total shock.

:hug: Thanks again.

[Zomby Woof]

20. I am sorry

So sad to have happened right before xmas. But I know you will hold on to her lessons, her memories, and her love.

I am glad you had an influence like her in your life. :hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

53. Thank you Zomby. She is one of those people that are so good, and yet

"real". She didn't pull punches or coat things in sugar. I took it for granted that we had all this time left. :hug:

[flamingyouth]

21. Oh Laura, I am so sorry to read this

Please know I am thinking of you and that your family is in my heart during this difficult time.

Love,
Lisa

[ScreamingMeemie]

54. THank you Lisa. That means a lot.

I know that this season is going to be tough on you, and you have been in my thoughts so much.

:loveya:

Laura

[flamingyouth]

61. Thank you - I appreciate your kindness as well

:loveya:

[SarahB]

22. I'm very sorry for the loss to your family.

:hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

55. Thank you SarahBelle.

:hug:

[fortyfeetunder]

23. My deepest condolences

May the sweet memories of your lovely aunt Joyce carry you through the grief and sorrow as you mourn your loss. She sounded like a very special lady in your life and I offer my condolences to you and your family. :hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

56. She was a dear friend to me. We talked everyday. I'm really going

to miss that. :hug: Thank you so much.

[Lavender Brown]

24. I'm sorry to hear that, MrsG

I lost my favorite Aunt seven years ago, and it still hurts, especially around the holidays. Like your aunt she was too young to go. :hug: for you and your family.

[ScreamingMeemie]

57. Thank you so much Lavender.

I am still a bit in shock. It just doesn't seem real that my mom's baby sister could be gone just like that. :( She wouldn't go to the hospital last night no matter how my uncle begged her.

[Gothic Sponge]

25. I'm so sorry!

:hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

58. Thank you Gothic.

:hug:

[Cyndee_Lou_Who]

26. I am so sorry for your loss! Sending happy thoughts to you and your family

:hug: and :toast: to Aunt Joyce!

[ScreamingMeemie]

60. Thank you Cyndee_Lou.

:hug:

[JimmyJazz]

27. Aw Sweetie - I am so sorry for your loss!

:hug: :cry:

[ScreamingMeemie]

62. Thank you so much.

You guys are the best. :hug:

[LDS Jock]

28. sorry Laura

:hug: Wish I could help.

[ScreamingMeemie]

63. Thank you LDS, and you just did.

:hug: :loveya:

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

37. I am so sorry....

:hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

64. Thank you dear friend.

:hug:

[noiretextatique]

40. so sorry for your loss, mrs. grumpy

losing a child is ever easy, no matter how old you are, netiher is losing a sibling. be there for you mom and grandmother...and take care of yourself. it sounds like you lost a lot more than just an auntie.

[ScreamingMeemie]

66. My cousin called me this morning so that I could call my mom. My

grandmother is spending the holidays with her. It hurt so much to make that phonecall. Thank you so much. She was a good friend, and a wonderful person. I am smiling thinking how proud she was to tell me she voted Dem for the first time in her life this year.

:hug:

[AlCzervik]

41. I'm so sorry Mrs. G, as much as she meant to you i'm sure

you and yours meant the world to her.:hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

67. She was so excited the day my daughter was born. I was a young, single

mom...her joy brought me joy. She helped me see the miracle of the moment. She never traveled, and yet drove out here to see her new Great niece. It's just one of many special memories. :hug:

[babylonsister]

45. Here's to Auntie Joyce, and

I'm very sorry for your loss, MrsGrumpy.

[ScreamingMeemie]

68. Thank you so much babylon.

:hug:

[Misunderestimator]

51. Oh no, so sorry to hear that.

Here's to your Auntie Joyce :toast:

[ScreamingMeemie]

69. Thank you so much Misunderestimator.

:hug: I appreciate that.

[short bus president]

73. So sorry for your family's loss, Miz G.

:hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

84. Thank you short bus.

:hug:

[amandae]

74. I am so very sorry for your loss, MrsGrumpy ...

:hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

85. Thank you amandae.

:hug:

[bearfan454]

75. Sorry Mrs Grumpy

God bless you and your family.

[ScreamingMeemie]

86. Thank you bearfan, I really appreciate that.

:hug:

[FuzzySlippers]

76. I'm so sorry for your loss MrsG.

[ScreamingMeemie]

87. Thank you Fuzzy.

:hug:

[hatredisnotavalue]

77. God, I am really sorry

She obviously meant a lot to you. So sad. Please know that others are thinking of you.

[ScreamingMeemie]

88. We have a tiny family. She was my mom's only sister, and a close

friend. I'll miss our morning chats. Thanks :hug:

[antigone382]

78. I'm very sorry to hear that :(

She was obviously a very important person in your life. I hope that your good memories of her will bring you some comfort in your grief.

:hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

89. Thank you antigone. Shock is wearing off and the reality of life without

her is setting in. I spoke with my uncle this evening and he is just devastated. :hug:

[buddhamama]

79. My condolences Mrs. Grumpy

My sympathies to you and your family on the loss of your Aunt.

My thoughts and love are with you. May Aunt Joyce Be at Peace. :hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

90. Thank you so much, buddhamama. She had been a little "off" these

past few weeks, and understand in hindsight why. :hug: Thanks again.

[latebloomer]

80. What a terrible shock!

Sudden death-- at least it seemed so to you, though perhaps she knew-- and of someone you loved so much-- is devastating. I know-- my dad died suddenly, in his sleep.

She sounds like an amazing person and you were very lucky to have her in your life-- and you've passed that love onto your kids--so it does survive.

Keep open, too-- maybe if there's something after this she'll give you a sign.

And let yourself cry, rage, laugh, whatever comes up-- the grief comes in waves, I've found-- and you just have to go through it.

Love and Hugs to you and your family-

:hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

92. Thank you latebloomer. I spoke with my uncle tonight, and he said

he knew nothing. I hurt for him. She kept saying "sinus trouble" for her breathing problems and refused to see a doctor. I wish we all could have seen this for what it was. :hug:

[fluffernutter]

81. oh that's so sad, i'm sorry, Mrs Grumpy

you are in my thoughts.

[ScreamingMeemie]

93. Thank you fluffer. I am devastated. But you guys are amazing in your

care and concern. :hug:

[rasputin1952]

82. I am so sorry to hear of your loss...Aunts and Uncles are an important

part of our lives. I know I learned much from mine over the years; and as they left, I could feel the loss because of all the time we ahd together was to be no more.

I was fortunate to have family that has always been close. My Aunts and Uncles filled me in on things about my family my parents tried to keep from me. War stories, break ups, get-togethers, and a history as to why I am who I am.

I can only offer you my condolences, and know that you remember her w/love and respect; the good times, so to speak...O8)

:hug: to all of you who will recall her w/warmth and love...:)

[ScreamingMeemie]

94. I only have/had my Auntie (mom's sister) and my uncle (Dad's brother) my

Dad's other brother passed away in '88. We were close because of it. She was another mother figure to me, a little piece of me left with her today. Thanks so much.

:hug: :loveya:

[Skittles]

83. so sorry MrsGrumpy

so sorry

[ScreamingMeemie]

95. Thank you so much Skittles.

:hug:

When I was telling my mother this morning ( I had to break the news to her and my grandmother) all I could thing of was you.

[auntAgonist]

91. How very sad for you and your family Mrs Grumpy!

Please know that you are in my thoughts. My heartfelt condolences go out to you and yours at this time.

sincerely

auntAgonist.
aka
kesha

[ScreamingMeemie]

96. Thank you kesha. That means a lot.

:hug: