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Tue Dec-21-04 05:55 PM
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Help - I'm falling for a seriously younger man! |
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Tue Dec-21-04 05:56 PM
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A dear friend is in a relationship with an age difference like this. They've been together 22 years.
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Tue Dec-21-04 05:56 PM
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2. What's wrong with that? |
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The woman I have been with for over 14 years is 9 years older than myself.
--Peter
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Tue Dec-21-04 05:57 PM
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3. Only if he is a Republican. |
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:08 PM
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Tue Dec-21-04 05:58 PM
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You both are lucky for different reasons
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Tue Dec-21-04 05:58 PM
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5. No but you're gonna want kids and he's gonna want... |
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to go do "shooters" with his friends. If you can hang with that, more power to you. :toast:
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:39 PM
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My husband was 23 when we got married, and HE was ready to try for kids a few months before I was.
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Tue Dec-21-04 07:11 PM
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37. "a few months" is not an issue; "years" are |
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i'm currently dating a 30 year old (i'm 25), and I made it ABUNDANTLY clear to her that i'm not looking for kids for years, if ever (and i clarified by saying "i refuse to entertain the notion before i'm 30). i think that you can make relationships like that work, but you have to be totally, COMPLETELY honest about the big 3 (career, marriage, and kids), and you have to be on the same page for all of them to really have a chance IMHO...
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Tue Dec-21-04 07:23 PM
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44. I know that; I'm simply pointing out that 24 doesn't *necessarily* mean |
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they won't be on the same page regarding children.
(However, I've just read that this particular 24-year-old is headed for medical school.)
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Tue Dec-21-04 07:27 PM
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46. yeah, you guys are dealing with the same issues. |
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I'm ambivalent on kids myself.
But I know HE imagines some shorter dependents in his future... his DISTANT future. Um, adoption, maybe?
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Tue Dec-21-04 07:17 PM
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40. And how old were YOU? |
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Tue Dec-21-04 07:22 PM
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Tue Dec-21-04 05:58 PM
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6. Oh please, no, there is nothing wrong with that at all |
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A ten year difference is no big deal. I had a steady relationship for a number of years with a woman nineteen years older than myself. If you are both comfortable with it, if its no big deal, then enjoy. Love comes in all forms and ages, grab it when you can.
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Tue Dec-21-04 05:59 PM
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If he were 19 or 21 or something then yeah, you'd have a problem. At 24 he's a big boy. (My mom is 59 and one of her favorite boys is 34 -- six years younger than me.)
Teach him well.
:evilgrin:
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Tue Dec-21-04 05:59 PM
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you're babies.
My gramma and grampa got together when she was 43 and he was 30, plus my mom's 3rd husband was 15 years younger.
Now, if the ages were reversed, would you be this concerned?
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Tue Dec-21-04 05:59 PM
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9. You make me sick. You DISGUST me! |
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Juuuuuuust kiddin' ;)
Actually, I've gone with people 20+ years older than me so no, that's definitely not strange at all.
Best of luck to you! :hi:
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Tue Dec-21-04 05:59 PM
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Life's too short, and age ain't nothing but a number...
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Tue Dec-21-04 05:59 PM
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:00 PM
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Been there done that. First woman I fell in love with was several years my senior. Go for it.
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:00 PM
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13. Don't expect me to throw you a pity party |
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You are not nuts.
Enjoy your life.
My very best wishes to you -- much happiness to you both!
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:02 PM
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in fact in terms of sexuality this may be the optimum time frame
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:02 PM
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15. Will somebody PLEASE think of the children? |
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Sorry.
Channeled Helen Lovejoy for a second there.
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:02 PM
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Eh, let them get their own dates |
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:02 PM
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How often does love come around???
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:04 PM
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17. Hey, I fall for seriously younger men all the time. |
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Of course, I'm 15, so I imagine it's a bit different for me. :)
To be serious, I really don't think there's anything wrong with 34 and 24 year olds dating. You're both adults, what's wrong with it?
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:04 PM
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and i'm in a relationship od sorts with a 42 year old
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:05 PM
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19. Thanks everyone for the encouragement! |
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i don't hang out in the Lounge all of the time, but needed a shot of nerves on this one today.
i guess if i can get away with it... ;) my mama told me, "take it one day at a time, but you know that already." smart mama.
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:06 PM
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20. You are nuts if you deny yourself the opportunity to |
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be happy because of some silly societal stereotype that says that the woman must be the younger party in the relationship. Best wishes to you both :hi:
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:06 PM
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21. My parents are eight years apart in age |
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and they've been married for about a million years now. If it worked for them, what's a couple of more years.
Go for it. Have fun.
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:06 PM
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22. Nothing wrong with that, unless you're a 30 something man |
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dating a 20 something woman. Double standards and all.
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:07 PM
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And I like older women. :wink wink:
But seriously, there's no problem at all. 10 years really isn't that much of a difference, as long as he's legal. ;)
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:07 PM
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24. That's mighty close to the cutoff line ... BUT |
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10 years difference is the most I'd consider, which in my case means nobody younger than 28. If it works for the two of you, to hell with what anyone else says !!
Younger men are awesome because they're not fuddy-duddy's all worried about their 401k's and golf and driving an old-fartmobile ... and they think that our 'maturity' and 'experience' makes us cooler and sexier than the bimbo's their buddies' lives are littered with.
:hippie:
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:13 PM
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I was 34 and my lover was 59 when we got together.
We had five wonderful years together before he passed away last year.
Don't let the age bother you; go by the person.
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:14 PM
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:14 PM
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There's a 15-year age difference between my beloved and me. We're very happy and we're perfect for one another.
I wish you both happiness. :hug:
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:18 PM
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29. Yes, you should go for a |
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somewhat older man than yourself. One that can appreciate your beauty and shower you with very fine jewelry, gowns, automobiles and fine vacations.
Someone less...inhibited... and far more experienced in the things that women truly enjoy.
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:20 PM
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That way we can all tell if it's a good match!
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:37 PM
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31. My wife is 16 years older than me |
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:41 PM
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33. Does he have a J-O-B? |
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As long as you treat him as an equal and don't offer him opportunities he hasn't earned (residence, insurance, etc.) then there's nothing wrong with it.
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Tue Dec-21-04 07:05 PM
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He is working a J-O-B, now -- a tough one that makes little $$$ but I respect him for doing -- while taking his final prereqs for medical school.
THAT'S the pickle. Med school, for him, would start Fall 2006. I'm established in my career, own a house, don't wanna move again, would rather keep my dear roommates than be married to someone who's never home... this just scrambles my brain too much to think about. Secretly wishing he's go for nursing or PA instead, something easier. Don't NEED more money, really.
Back to mama's "one day at a time" mantra, and no getting ahead of myself, i guess. sigh! it's just a coupla dates and some mutual butterflies up to this point.
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Tue Dec-21-04 07:09 PM
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36. Wow, that is a tough choice |
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but you already know what you should do, which is to take it one day at a time. Why are you freaking out after a couple dates - ya think he's The One?
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Tue Dec-21-04 07:23 PM
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I so rarely even think about there being a "One" for me that this has me broadsided!
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Tue Dec-21-04 07:45 PM
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47. Do you know how he feels about you? |
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Have you two talked about the future or is this just you anticipating what a long term relationship with him? And, what would you have to do or say to yourself to get back to the one day at a time thing that works so well?
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Tue Dec-21-04 07:16 PM
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39. My good friend, an ex-supermodel, is 56 |
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and her boyfriend-a nurse-is 42. Works for them!
My cousin is a 44 year old film producer, and her boyfriend is a 34 year old stuntman. I think she's worried about what he'll do when he's too old to fall off horses, but other than that, they're happy! :-)
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Tue Dec-21-04 06:44 PM
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I don't think it's a big age difference, have fun!
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Tue Dec-21-04 07:14 PM
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38. As long as he isn't jailbait your OK |
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Tue Dec-21-04 07:17 PM
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As a 21 year old guy, if I met a woman in her '30s that I gelled with, I'd go for it in a heartbeat!
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Tue Dec-21-04 07:19 PM
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42. I am 28. My woman is 34. |
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Nah, just do it. Have fun.
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