When a girl says she'll "see what she can do about it" she really means

[DS1]

[Solly Mack]

1. It means

she will see what she can do about it...but isn't making any promises.

It can be a brush off as well...really depends on what it is and who is asking...and how strongly the woman feels about the request or whatever.

Context is everything

[DS1]

3. Yeah, context is King!

That is all

[Solly Mack]

9. Sorry

didn't have a better answer...

[Kire]

35. you don't have context

it's all about affect, HOW did she say "she'll see what she can do about it", did she shut down or open up after she said it?

This is all assuming the context was romantic. After all, you didn't say what the question, or what "it", actually is.

Judging from the way you started this thread, I bet she shut down.

[CanuckAmok]

2. Other: "Buy me a house so I can divorce you".

Why waste time?

[DS1]

5. Good point

I take it you speak from experience!

[CanuckAmok]

6. Possibly...check this space in February.

n/t

[koopie57]

4. I most generally say

"I'll keep it in mind" which means that I'll think about it. And I remember now why I never read DS1 posts, that picture makes me have nightmares. That picture rips my heart out.

[DS1]

7. My sig line aside

I thank you for your contribution!

I'm not evil, I just have a really dark sense of humor

[koopie57]

22. *LOL*

hummm... a dark sense of humor

I'll keep that in mind!

[Moloch]

34. I like the Evil Monkey....

I hope he is going to figure largely in the new family guy episodes next year.

[CanuckAmok]

8. The sad thing is, he (the monkey) wasn't always evil...

n/t

[samplegirl]

10. Sounds like

your still very bitter. Maybe the New Year will bring you some
luck.

[CanuckAmok]

11. Bit 'er? Bit him. too!

badump-bump!

[jpgray]

12. Tone is everything there

I know girls that could make that a sexy "I'm attracted to you" signal, and girls that would make it a shy, uncomfortable, pity-based rejection. I think that's pretty much the spectrum.

:silly:

[SOteric]

13. Yes and no is kind of a black and white interpretation.

Probably she means: she'll "see what she can do about it."

Though there are infinite variables, myriad shades of grey.

Context is much.

Character is much as well.

If she owes you money and you're asking her to pay it back before you'd originally agreed, then it probably means "I can't get you all of it, but I'll see how much I can get you and when I can get you the rest of it."

If she's your teacher and you've told her you're having trouble comprehending your assignments, then likely it means "Let's see if I can help you out with better understanding, maybe find you some resources or a tutor."

If she's your sweetheart and you're trying to get to homeplate, then likely it means that as much as she cares she doesn't really feel ready yet. But maybe there are some other options she's willing to explore.

And then there's that character thing. Is she a person given to saying 'yes' when she means 'yes,' and 'no' when she means 'no?' Or is she likely to hedge and say 'maybe' to all inquiries?

[matcom]

14. you aren't getting laid tonight

:P

[Magrittes Pipe]

15. It means "fuck off."

Really. Sorry to burst yer bubble, but I'm too hung over for tact.

It means "fuck off."

[matcom]

16. when are you NOT too hung over

"for tact" :D

[Magrittes Pipe]

23. Shut up, assman.

[matcom]

24. i fart in your general direction

:bounce:

[Rabrrrrrr]

17. It means that you don't appear to have enough money that it's worth

her time to get to know you so that she can take it all later in the divorce she's already planning.

[gollygee]

18. "Give me time to think of a nicer way to say No"

Sorry, but it's definitely a no.

[hippiechick]

19. "See what she can do about it" ??

Is that a response to an intimate question, or were you waiting to have the oil changed in your car ?

That doesn't sound like an even remotely appropriate answer, IMO, if it was a romance-related discussion. How did you phrase the question, like a business deal ?



:hippie:

[GOPisEvil]

20. Depends on the question.

If the question is business-related, then it probably means she is unable to make the decision without the approval of another, and she's probably being honest. Either that or, she thinks the answer is no, and she wants to avoid letting you down at this time.

If the question is romatically-related, that seems like a strange answer, and I wouldn't be too positive. In fact, if I got that answer to a romantically-related question, I'd probably post about it here, too.

:shrug:

[StopTheMorans]

21. I don't respect you enough to give you my honest opinion in person right

now...

[DS1]

25. These answers are pretty much what I figured

God fucking damn I'm ready to destroy the whole fucking world right now, good thing I'm not President.

:argh:

[DS1]

26. In fact

If I were President, after I'd nuked the entire planet, I'd come out of my bunker and stomp out every last cockroach.

If I were God I'd snap my fingers and erase humanity.

[tjdee]

28. You were so not ready to do that two days ago!

My god, what did she say "I'll see what I can do about it" about?

If she was talking about getting her car washed, that's one thing.

If she was talking about coming to make you dinner because both your legs are broken and you can't leave your bed, that statement is full of shit!

[Dukkha]

27. It means I'm a lying dishonest selfish bitch

And I won't give you the courtesy of telling you the truth so I'll just string you along and use you at my whim. :mad:

Fuck Her.

...and yes I harbor big time bitter resentment toward many exes

[tjdee]

29. Where did you go?

I'm all interested in finding out why you're ready to destroy the world, and it's like you went offline or something!

God, offline!!

:spank:

[sundog]

30. Generally, it's a blow off

You can either do something or not. There's no in between.

She probably won't try very hard to see what she can do... Speaking from experience.

[NorthernSpy]

31. not always, though...

It really depends on a person's temperament. I for one rarely ever agree outright to do anything, because I cannot assume complete control of all of the relevant factors. I just say that I'll see about it, and then later announce successful completion of whatever I'd agreed to try to do. 'Cause it would suck to break a promise.

For some people, "I'll try" is a dodge, and really means no; for others, it's an honest statement of intent.

Of course, I dunno what exactly the person who inspired this thread had agreed to "try" to do...

[okieinpain]

32. uh, the cat lady is going to get you.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=2289318&mesg_id=2289424&page=

[helnwhls]

33. is this in connection

with the current restraining order in place against you or in relation to seeing the biological children she had with you?