BelleCarolinaPeridot
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Tue Dec-28-04 03:10 AM
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Why is it so hard for me to make friends my age ? |
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I am 24 years old . I work at a place where the average age of the employees is 18 - 60 years old or older ... I find it that I am approached more and more for conversations from the employees that are into their early 30's and up and people with families . It has always been this way for me all my life . Even when I was 12 , I did not have friends my age , I got along better with kids even in HS already . Sometimes maturing faster sucks ... This sounds silly I know but it gets lonely sometimes ... I don't go to clubs , I don't have any kids that I have to support , I don't have any " issues " or " dramas " in my life ( I am thankful for that ) that brings these other people together but what should I do ? I just don't mix with people my age at all .
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Tue Dec-28-04 03:18 AM
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the older ones you DO relate to. There is no law requiring you to only hang out with people your own age.
There are lots of singles in their 30s.
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Tue Dec-28-04 03:27 AM
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3. I know but sometimes I tend to think I grew up too fast ... |
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or I missed out on " something " ... its the late hours I don't know what I am talking about lol . But thanks for your reply .
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Tue Dec-28-04 03:18 AM
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2. Then don't worry about it, and hang with older people... |
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Edited on Tue Dec-28-04 03:19 AM by Robeson
...When I was younger, I always related and was exposed to older people while growing up and into adulthood. My friends were older, and the women I dated were older. Now, I'm married. My wife is 8 years older than I am. If older people are who you relate to, then don't worry about it. And it want mean as much once you are older. You'll take people more at face value, and will stop thinking about whether they are older than you are not. I'm 40 now, and have now found that just as many of my friends are younger than me, as are older. It just doesn't mean as much anymore.
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Tue Dec-28-04 03:27 AM
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Tue Dec-28-04 04:32 AM
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10. I think you have the good side of it |
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everywhere I have gone, I have been older than most of my peers. It made me feel old, even when I was 26.
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Tue Dec-28-04 03:37 AM
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and my oldest and dearest friend is 77. My youngest is 14.
If I like someone, I don't care about their age. And like you, I've always gotten along well with the 'older' crowd. And I agree with the poster above who said that you come to a point in your life when it doesn't matter anymore.
If I like them, if they're half decent people and we have similar interests and values and hit it off, they're a friend. Age, rank and serial number not required. ;-)
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Tue Dec-28-04 03:39 AM
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6. So true I get the point :) |
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I should look at the person and not the age ... that is so true and how did I miss that lol .
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Tue Dec-28-04 03:57 AM
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7. I lost all my friends when I switched schools in 3rd grade |
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I'm 24 also, and I pretty much don't have any friends my age, and I've always been a shy one (Never played sports or in any clubs in high school, either). However, old people, little children, and puppies love me :D
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Tue Dec-28-04 03:57 AM
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8. I always had the same problem. |
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And I always felt kind of left out - I never had friends my age. I was never part of a clique. I never could understand why and I really suffered. All my friends were either at least ten years older or ten years younger. Only when I was about 35 or 40 did I stop worrying. That was followed by what the others here wrote: Somehow it didn't matter anymore. Quite the contrary - the older I get the more I appreciate having younger friends who keep me in contact with new ideas and developments. Now I'm 50 and one year ago I have made a really good friend who is 24. It's true that my feelings for her are a bit motherly but as I'm finding out motherly feelings aren't at all bad. :hi:
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Tue Dec-28-04 04:06 AM
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9. go where the group you are comfortable with congregates. It |
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sounds like you're a serious person. Find a club, join the dem party group in your local, lots of things, honey. Been there, done that. :)
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Tue Dec-28-04 05:04 AM
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11. Invent "problems" in your life for them to fix... |
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Tell them about your alien abduction medical experiments or the times when you were in that cult and had to kill the weak to survive.
You'll get lots of notice...
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Tue Dec-28-04 05:15 AM
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12. early twenties and can't relate... |
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Ok first get some skimpy clothing...think...cleavage and belly button...next...start listening to rap and urban style music...then drink a lot of alchohol and smoke pot...then go to college and drop out...and oh yes...smile a lot...
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