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PartyPooper Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 02:07 AM
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To be buried or cremated, that is the question!
For me, I want to be cremated. My ashes will be strewn into the ocean.

What about you? What is your preference?

:evilgrin:
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Forkboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 02:08 AM
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1. cramated,and my ashes mixed in with a hockey puck
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goodbody Donating Member (243 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 02:10 AM
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5. mixed in where?
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Forkboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 02:16 AM
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7. with the vulcanized rubber they make pucks out of
mix my ashes in with it a TA DA! Instant Forkpuck!
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goodbody Donating Member (243 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 02:32 AM
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12. then let it be so!
of course, you might want to write these instructions down for your family -- unless they already know about your little vulcanized rubber preferences...wink, wink. Kidding!
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Forkboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 02:42 AM
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16. hehe
Actually,I am serious about doing this...and they do know.

I need mental help :D
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2Design Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 02:09 AM
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2. body to science and then they can cremate - I won't be in it
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Seabiscuit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 02:09 AM
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3. Cremated. Spare the earth. It's growing scarce.
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Solly Mack Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 02:10 AM
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4. Stuffed
and passed down from generation to generation
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goodbody Donating Member (243 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 02:15 AM
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6. I ran screaming
literally, when I entered the room where the caskets were to be chosen for my loved-one. Although I used to think burial was the most natural way to go -- since it takes time for birth, I thought the time for dissolution of the human body was the way to go (all types of other spiritual/religious dialogues were going on...)

No more. The thought of my love in that casket buried underground drove me crazy. Cremation.

RIP, my love.

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ronnykmarshall Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 12:53 PM
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35. I know what you mean.
When I saw my father in his coffin, I almost passed out.

My step-mom is very old country (he father was from Hungary) and she was very cool about. I had a toy Thunderbird that we buried with Dad. But I couldn't bring myself to place it in the coffin.

People are different. My grandmother was PISSED when we told her that my brother was creamanted.
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Maple Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 02:20 AM
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8. For years I was going to go for
cremation...but then DNA sampling came along, and my family might need information. And testing ability will improve over the years.

So either a massive sample left behind, and then cremation...or a mausoleum I guess.

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Bouncy Ball Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 02:24 AM
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9. Burn me baby!
The idea of rotting in a box for all eternity does NOT appeal to me. Neither does taking up land just for my dead body. I don't think I'm THAT important. I'd rather be scattered far and wide (I also don't want to be kept in a vase on my daughter's mantle).

Everyone in my family gets buried, but when I met my husband I learned everyone in HIS family is cremated and when I thought about it, I realized I liked that idea much better. Both he and I have it in our instructions with our wills.

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truthseeker1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 02:31 AM
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10. I've said cremated for years....need to get it in writing
No need to take up space in the ground and spend money on a lot and marker or headstone. Once I'm gone, my soul will have moved on. No need to keep this old body around. Haven't decided if I want to be shaken out over the ocean or the mountains. Knowing my husband he'll want to keep me in an urn on the mantel ;)
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qnr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 02:32 AM
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11. Live forever.
Oh, wait. That's not an option.
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ms.smiler Donating Member (311 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 02:34 AM
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13. I'm considering a "green burial" by flash freezing.
This process is being used in Sweden but will likely become an alternative here in the coming years.

The body is flash frozen to minus 64 Fahrenheit and then dipped in liquid nitrogen with a temperature of minus 385 Fahrenheit.

"The bodies, extracted from the super-cold solution, are brittle as glass and broken down with bursts of sound to leave a powdery substance."

The remains can be buried in a coffin made from corn starch and placed in a shallow grave. In a year's time, all is returned to the soil.

http://www.cnn.com/2004/WORLD/europe/02/08/sweden.burials.ap/
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qnr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 02:38 AM
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14. I'd be happy feeding the fishies, to be entirely honest.
Meaning my whole body, not my ashes.

I'd really like to be lofted into space, but that would be a horrendous waste of resources. So, I'd like to make one final gesture and contribute something to the world.
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tavalon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 02:41 AM
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15. Cremated, unless
I can find a cemetary that will bury my body without benefit of embalming or a concrete retaining wall around my casket. Then, I want a simple pine box and a headstone. I love headstones. I want it to say, "Fuck You All. I'm Outta Here!" LOL
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 03:11 AM
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17. cremation
Edited on Wed Dec-29-04 03:11 AM by Skittles
just makes more sense
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Neoma Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 03:44 AM
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18. Cremated but put in a coffin so i can have a tombstone.
i don't really wanna rise from the dead or anything like that ;)
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yellowdogintexas Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 10:04 PM
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50. they put remains in sealed brass cubes, and a headstone can
be put on top of them. The boxes are about 6" x 6" x 8" in dimension, like I said my aunt's remains are riding in the back seat of my car right now. My uncle's box was sunk about 3 feet in and the headstone is right on top of it.

Muy simple
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Mayberry Machiavelli Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 03:50 AM
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19. Dissected by medical students. Come on!
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jdots Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 03:54 AM
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20. NO cremation for me
for I am Biff god of the neocons,create an ugly condo complex for my designer casket to be put on display.Dress me in a gray suit and blue oxford shirt with a silk tie of conservative design.
Thousands of payed supporters will weep as they see my life like make up job and American flag lapel pin.Us ruling class superiors are worth the waste of resorces.......... oh and as for me=body to science ashes to compost.
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donheld Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 04:53 AM
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21. Cremation for me too
Then toss the ashes, little by little, in the headwaters of the mississippi river and let them go with the flow.
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tjwmason Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 10:49 AM
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22. Ossuary
I like the old idea of a family mausoleum, or evne better a large ossuary. Have the body placed in a shallow grave for a little while so that the flesh decomposes, then take the bones and stack them all up together. Resting for eternity next to one's kin.

Some of the old monaesteries have fantastic crypts which have the bones of hundreds of years worth of dead monks, all resting in peace together.

My family all think that this is terribly morbid.
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Blue Diadem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 11:02 AM
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23. cremated or donated to science
I haven't made my decision yet.
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Beer Snob-50 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 11:03 AM
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24. I want to be cremated
and a part of my ashes dumped onto the field of Fenway Park.
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johnnie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 11:10 AM
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25. I personally don't give a shit
I have told those of concern that I want to be cremated, but if they go against my "wishes" I don't really care. I would rather them not take up space with a casket.
I have no one at this moment so I don't plan on being buried with anyone. My mother and father purchased plots a few years ago and my mother told me that if I wanted, I could be cremated and place somewhere with them.
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micrometer_50 Donating Member (367 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 11:13 AM
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26. Oh, I don't know . . .
Edited on Wed Dec-29-04 11:13 AM by micrometer_50
surprise me.

Edit for spelling
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Cuban_Liberal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 11:14 AM
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27. Since I won't be there, whatever makes everyone else happy.
Edited on Wed Dec-29-04 11:43 AM by Cuban_Liberal
I really don't care if they cremate me, bury me or stuff me like a cigar-store Indian and stand me in the corner as a conversation piece. The funeral is no more for 'me' than a seven-course meal is for the centerpiece, so whatever makes my survivors happy is just fine and dandy.

As my papi has said time and again (re: instructions on what to do when he dies), "No es importante, mi hijo" (It isn't important, son).

:)
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catmandu57 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 11:18 AM
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28. Toasted and scattered
The idea of lying in the same place for so long just doesn't appeal to me. Eventually the earth will move me on to somewhere else, but I'd just as soon start the journey when I breathe my last.
My wife has other ideas though, and if I buy it before she does then it's the box for me, we're in a race to see who get's what.
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La Lioness Priyanka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 11:41 AM
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29. donated to science...whatevers left can be cremated
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ProfessorGAC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 11:54 AM
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30. Cremated
No funeral, no ceremony. Just into the oven. Then, my ashes put into the sand trap on the 8th hole at High Point. I spend so much time in that stupid trap while i'm alive, i might as well spend the time until the sun goes nova there.
The Professor
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Mrs. Venation Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 12:13 PM
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31. Cremated
My ashes will be strewn at Cades Cove in the Great Smoky Mountains National Park, one of the most beautiful places on earth!

I think burying bodies is a waste of a good piece of ground.
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koneko Donating Member (628 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 12:25 PM
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32. Cremated
Without a doubt.

I always knew I wanted that, but what sealed it for me was going through an MRI. I found out that I really am claustrophobic. I wouldn't even want to be dead & enclosed in such a small space. No way. Unh-unh. :scared:
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arcane1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 12:46 PM
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33. buried, with no embalming, no iron vault, no coffin...
straight into the ground so the worms can grok me
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ronnykmarshall Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 12:49 PM
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34. Fry 'em up baby!
I want my ashes spread near SF, LA, NY and Mexico along with my cats.

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Justin54B20L Donating Member (308 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 01:09 PM
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36. I would volunteer for this even before I died.
To be cryogenically frozen and, with the best current technology and adequate power source and global/historical information, then be launched into space. I would love to be first interstellar emissary. I know that who ever is able to find me would have the technology to un-thaw me and bring me back to life.

I would do it knowing full well the consequences, for instance, the fact that I might never make it out of our atmosphere due to technical failure, no one will ever find me, I will be found by hostiles, or that I will be found by future humans.
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truebrit71 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 01:12 PM
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37. Cremated...
..ashes spread around Brands Hatch...
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fortyfeetunder Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 01:19 PM
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38. Cremated then my last diving (I hope)
If I end up dying here on the West Coast, I want immediate cremation (absolutely no viewing) and then my buddies take my remains to Hawaii and send me to my favorite "dive spot" -- the outer wall of Molokini Crater.
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kitkatrose Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 01:23 PM
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39. Cremate me and plant a tree over me.
I like to be useful. :)
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Orsino Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 01:31 PM
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40. Cremate me...
...and scatter the ashes to the four winds. It's the only way to ensure I do not rise again.
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davsand Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 08:22 PM
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41. Cremate me, then scatter me over the RNC convention out of a blimp.
I kind of like the idea of being a cinder in the GOP eyes when they look up to see the blimp. I figure it is the only fitting way to go out given the huge pain in the ass I've been to them in my lifetime.


Laura
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Cuban_Liberal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 08:28 PM
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42. LOL!
I'm sure Owens', or Morgan's can arrange that.

:P
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davsand Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 08:43 PM
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46. Did you ever know Billy Owens?
He used to be a regular at the Moose when I was a bartender there. They called him "Digger."

His favorite joke was to ask if you'd heard about the book he'd written. He'd then ask if you knew the title. If you gave in at ALL he'd then tell you the title:

Is There Sex After Death

subtitled: How I Laid her in the Grave

Digger was the only guy who probably would have found a way to make my funeral idea a reality. I really did love him.

His daughter's husband runs the business now, and he's a pretty good guy too. Maybe he could pull it off...


Laura
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Cuban_Liberal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 08:46 PM
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47. Never had the pleasure of meeting him.
I've heard the stories, though. His son-in-law is a super nice guy, though.

:)
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bleedingheart Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 08:30 PM
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43. First I will get the peasants to build my sepulchre...
and then I will be enshrined within the marble tomb...with full pomp and circumstance...
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MidwestMomma Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 08:35 PM
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44. Cremated...but only if I can have Viking funeral! n/t
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CO Liberal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 08:38 PM
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45. I Would Want to Die First
Then be cremated.
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sugar magnolia Donating Member (137 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 08:46 PM
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48. Cremated
My mother-in-law is constantly telling us she does NOT want to be cremated. Seems her brothers worked at a mortuary in their youth and cremation didn't work on all the bones. Specifically, the hip bones were real sonsabitches and wouldn't ever turn to ashes, so they'd throw those out in the trash. Mother-in-law is panicked that her hip bones would be separated from the rest of her ashes. We'll be sure to cremate her. :evilgrin:

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yellowdogintexas Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 10:00 PM
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49. Definitely cremated, esp after handling stuff for my aunt & uncle
who had left instructions to be cremated and then interred back in Kentucky. They used a Cremation Society and everything was pre paid, and they handled everything so we did not have to use a funeral parlor at all.

in face, Aunt Mary is in the back of my car right now because I just went to Oklahoma to pick up the remains right before Christmas. Next time I am planning a trip to kentucky we will get the interment done.

I may have my ashes sprinkled in Mammoth Cave National Park, but I am not sure yet.

you can have remains made into a diamond, you know, or incorporated into concrete that is used to reseed a coral reef. That is appealing too!

If I had not had to deal with my sisters, I would have had our mother cremated. But they did not want to because they had never heard her say she wanted it.

My mother's brother and one of their stepbrothers died within 6 weeks of one another. Both of them had left instructions to be cremated and interred in the cemetery where my grandparents and my mother's stepmother are buried. Bob died in December and Hank died in January, so my mom and the other stepbrother decided to have a joint memorial/gravesite/interment service in the spring. So they did, and announced it in the paper so people would know, and many of their old friends were there, and what remains of family members. I did not get to go, but my sister said it was very nice, as these things go. My mom's other stepbrother decided that he will leave the same instructions, because it was so much easier, and also the small size of the cremation urns means enough room in the plot for everyone.

So now I have Aunt Mary waiting for a chance to get her back to KY to put her with the rest of the family. Had planned to do this whenever we had to do our mom's funeral, but she passed away before I could get to Oklahoma to get my aunt's remains, and there was not enough time to get everything together.

so I was convinced that cremation is the way to go. My daughter says that is just fine with her, thank you very much.
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CharG Donating Member (129 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 10:18 PM
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51. Cremated, but with conditions......
I have ties to the North and ties to the South. I have family up North and they already have a place for me and my spouse......but I love the South and have strong ties here....so I want to be cremated and have half my ashes put in an urn down here and the other half in an urn up North. I won't take up much space in either spot...but those that want to remember me won't have to fight over where I end up.
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serryjw Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 10:20 PM
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52. My concern is my cat EINSTEIN!
I'm 54 and if I accidently go early no one would take a 16 year old. I would love to be buried together but I understand there are only 2 cemetaries in the US that will alllow this.......my choice cremation. The cost of a funeral is silly. Let them all buy a 6 pack of diet Dr Pepper and have a drink in my memory!
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fluffernutter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 10:24 PM
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53. cremated and scattered in a peaceful place.
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progressoid Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 10:26 PM
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54. Donating the body to science - burning what's left when they are done
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shanti Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 10:26 PM
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55. shoot me out in a cannon with fireworks!
Edited on Wed Dec-29-04 10:27 PM by shanti
go out in a blaze of glory over the ocean, my ashes, that is...hey, it might work, lol!
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cags Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 10:44 PM
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56. Cremated with my ashes put in wind chimes for my family
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n2mark Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 10:46 PM
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57. Cremated
Why pay the price of a casket etc.? What a waste of money, cremate me.... then do what you want with the ashes, my soul already left.
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n2mark Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-29-04 10:51 PM
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58. So I responded and was not allowed to post
don't understand why all I said a casket was a waste of money, and my family can do what they want with my ashes, my soul already left my body. Don't understand the problem with this post.
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